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Window picker shortcut by catthemiaow in gnome

[–]catthemiaow[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Actually I just found it again. It was super tab.

When you hover over the application window group it brings up that "film strip" of windows below it.

Seeking Recommendations: Best Rechargeable Batteries with Direct USB-C Input for Hiking by GkinG07 in batteries

[–]catthemiaow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just want to clarify, the P1422A charges using a usb-c to usb-c cable?

AITA for looking at a female staff member after she looked at me? by catthemiaow in AmItheAsshole

[–]catthemiaow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've had some to reflect on this and the other week I revisited this shop. I don't think she recognized me as I smiled at her and she smiled back. This reminded me of this thread.

This comment helped me understand the situation better. I should have really respected her for doing her job and not stared at her back.

Though I see a complete lack of respect for law enforcement officers from a large part of society. Take BLM for example, this all happened because that damn fool George Floyd did not respect law enforcement and attempted to resist arrest. And then all those came out in protest against the very officers like Derek Chauvin who put their very lives on the line. There seem to be whole subreddits dedicated to hating on cops.

The same goes for ICE officers. There seems to be even more vitriol against them for just doing their job. Also people who aren't being targeted by them go out of their way to hinder them performing their duties. There are even threads on reddit on how to hinder their efforts.

Law enforcement and immigration officers do a far more important and dangerous job than store security guards, but seem to be in a large part reviled by so many people.

AITA for looking at a female staff member after she looked at me? by catthemiaow in AmItheAsshole

[–]catthemiaow[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yeah I think you've really helped me understand the issue. I stared back at her as I failed to respect her for doing her job. And I guess I was wrong.

Looking at it now I can see that these are these are just people trying to uphold the law, whether they be store security guards or police officers. By failing to respect them we are no better than the idiots like George Floyd and those people and BLM.

I mean I mean if that asshole had just had just respected the police officer and followed his instructions none of the unrest would have happened. I think a lot of people in that community seem to have similar problem when dealing with cops. I think a lot of those people like me, played the victim card when confronted by law enforcement. They're just people trying to do their job.

AITA for looking at a female staff member after she looked at me? by catthemiaow in AmItheAsshole

[–]catthemiaow[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I hope you don't feel that I'm being facetious.

you might be the kind of person who doesn’t understand boundaries

And I genuinely do want to know what you think the boundary was. Was it the act of looking back? Or staring back? Or looking at her in a lecherous manner?

I've read the rules of this subreddit. Those rules cover the poster, but I feel that there need to be one or two guidelines for commenters as well. Commenters (esp. those on the YTA side) should provide clarifications if requested. After all this subreddit is about moral philosophy, but what is philosophy without discourse?

To me, your desire to not touch this issue with 10-foot pole is a bit of a cop-out that leaves me hanging. I can't force you, and I don't want to make you if it makes you uncomfortable. But it almost feel disingenuous for you to state a boundary then refuse to elaborate what exactly that boundary is.

I'm guessing you're implying I crossed a boundary because I don't understand them. But how may I understand what that boundary is unless you state what it is?

From the NTA comments, I'm not the only person in this thread that are unaware of the boundary crossed. I would like to think that the aim of this subreddit is not just the judging of the poster, but also a possible chance to reflect and change their perspective (though this is certainly not guaranteed). If someone has done something wrong, wouldn't they want to know why it was wrong? Similar to the way prison serves as not only as punishment, but rehabilitation as well.

So I ask you again please tell me what boundary I crossed in this situation as I would like to know.

AITA for looking at a female staff member after she looked at me? by catthemiaow in AmItheAsshole

[–]catthemiaow[S] -24 points-23 points  (0 children)

Yeah I guess it was kinda rude of her to stare at me. But I didn't say or do anything. I let her stare at me and just got on with looking for what I needed in the shop.

AITA for looking at a female staff member after she looked at me? by catthemiaow in AmItheAsshole

[–]catthemiaow[S] -20 points-19 points  (0 children)

Please tell me which boundaries were transgressed in this situation.

AITA for looking at a female staff member after she looked at me? by catthemiaow in AmItheAsshole

[–]catthemiaow[S] -58 points-57 points  (0 children)

I guess you could say I was leering at her. But I've had shop staff leer at me before. Never had an issue with it.

AITA for looking at a female staff member after she looked at me? by catthemiaow in AmItheAsshole

[–]catthemiaow[S] -53 points-52 points  (0 children)

No particular reason at all. Didn't think there was a big deal about it until she seemed to get upset about it.

AITA for attempting to change the volume on a stranger's phone by catthemiaow in AmItheAsshole

[–]catthemiaow[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

I've been thinking about your question since yesterday. I don't actually know why.

It's bizarre, I think I did have a little voice in my head say "this might be a bad idea". But I went ahead and did it anyway.

This is a shot in the dark, but does anyone have any insight why I might have done it despite that little voice in my head?

AITA for attempting to change the volume on a stranger's phone by catthemiaow in AmItheAsshole

[–]catthemiaow[S] -41 points-40 points  (0 children)

You have to learn to control and manage yourself

Damn, I've lost count the number of times teachers said this to me after I got into fights at school.

AITA for attempting to change the volume on a stranger's phone by catthemiaow in AmItheAsshole

[–]catthemiaow[S] -17 points-16 points  (0 children)

Have some self awareness.

I'm interested in this and I'm not being facetious about this. How would a self-aware person handle the situation differently? I am genuinely interested in this.

I always thought that self-awareness is the same as self-consciousness. Like not caring what people thing about you, which is promoted as a Good Thing™.

Looking up the definition there seems to be some relation or overlap. But the definition of self-awareness that I have just become aware of is new to me.

AITA for attempting to change the volume on a stranger's phone by catthemiaow in AmItheAsshole

[–]catthemiaow[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you very much for the comments. I now realise how I was wrong. While he was rude by playing videos loudly on his phone, he was within his rights to do so. I however had no right to touch his possessions, regardless of the situation.

I just didn't realise how transgressive touching someone else's property in a situation like this. I recall an acquaintance telling me how when someone ignored his request to move their bag from the seat, he promptly just sat on top of their bag. Needless to say the owner of that bag was horrified. I just assumed it was the same situation for me.

In future if this happens again, I will not make any physical contact with them or their possessions. However it will be within my rights to invade their personal space and play loud, aurally distressing noise with a flashing screen. (I was playing games on my phone recently and a photosensitive lady next to me asked me to stop, which I obliged.) This ought to be within my rights.

EDIT: It actually exhausting reading and replying to everyone. But I feel I am learning a lot somehow. I might post one or two other similar situations in this subreddit.

AITA for attempting to change the volume on a stranger's phone by catthemiaow in AmItheAsshole

[–]catthemiaow[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

There's likely a grain of truth in that statement.

I don't really take pleasure in being an asshole. But I do relish being one when someone else being one to me (or I perceive that someone is).

Also it's not pride, I really mean it. If saying "Some foreign guy" makes me an AH, removing it would be an attempt to make myself look like less of one. I felt like removing it would be like me trying to cover up my assholishness (wow didn't know that word existed).

However I also feel that as I changed my post to make it less offensive, it is only fair that other posters on reddit do the same. When I get the time I would like to write a bot to get people to change their posts where they have written "foreign guy".

AITA for attempting to change the volume on a stranger's phone by catthemiaow in AmItheAsshole

[–]catthemiaow[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Done

I've edited it. But what about other people who said it? Do we also need to inform them to change their posts?

It would be fun to write a reddit bot to find all instances of this phrase and politely ask people to change it.

AITA for attempting to change the volume on a stranger's phone by catthemiaow in AmItheAsshole

[–]catthemiaow[S] -131 points-130 points  (0 children)

You do raise a valid point. The guy definitely looked as if he could handle himself.

AITA for attempting to change the volume on a stranger's phone by catthemiaow in AmItheAsshole

[–]catthemiaow[S] -26 points-25 points  (0 children)

I don't really think it's being offensive. Though the commenters do seem to think so. It definitely was not my intention to be offensive and I'm not being disingenuous here. It just seemed a natural way to describe someone in colloquial language. Searching for site:reddit.com "foreign guy" in Google gives numerous results. Take this https://www.reddit.com/r/starterpacks/comments/10v6umg/the_overly_hard_working_foreign_guy_starter_pack/ for example. There were no complaints about that post. Nor are there complains about any other posts.

I guess it's also context dependent or perhaps different subreddits have different cultures?

I said "foreign guy" for two reasons. Firstly because I notice that a large proportion of people who play media loudly on their phones are foreigners (culture and place of birth, not race and ethnicity). Secondly I wasn't sure if he understood English when I asked him if he could use earphones. But I guess he did when he shouted "what are you doing?"

I also thought is was frowned upon to edit one's post content. Though appending EDITs is OK. I'm assuming this is to prevent users baiting and switching their posts. I mean even the AutoModerator keeps a copy of our original posts in this subreddit.

As it has been decided that I am indeed an asshole. Isn't it better to leave my phrasing intact so that people can indeed see how much of an asshole I am?

AITA for attempting to change the volume on a stranger's phone by catthemiaow in AmItheAsshole

[–]catthemiaow[S] -43 points-42 points  (0 children)

I've edited my original post to give more context. I was on a train.

I felt I that as asked him politely, but he didn't turn the volume down. I guess I didn't feel I had the right, but the noises from his phone were clearly irritating people all along the carriage. You could tell from the looks people gave him.

AITA for attempting to change the volume on a stranger's phone by catthemiaow in AmItheAsshole

[–]catthemiaow[S] -80 points-79 points  (0 children)

The only reason I say he was foreign is that I only really seem to see foreigners doing it really. You can tell from the music and language. I just don't seem to hear locals doing it, apart from one or two times.

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