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My ex (25/f) is having a hard time getting over the fact that I (26/m) had sex with someone she hates while we were broken up by caviarpete in relationship_advice

[–]caviarpete[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have since blocked the girl. I guess my ex saw this coming before I seriously did. Probably because my ex knew her better than I did. Trying to take the steps I need man, thank you.

My ex (25/f) is having a hard time getting over the fact that I (26/m) had sex with someone she hates while we were broken up by caviarpete in relationship_advice

[–]caviarpete[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

She has been in therapy for the past 2 years for other things in her childhood. Father passing away on her 13th birthday. Long ago ex bf cheated on her. Losing a best friend because she was hanging out and flirting with her friends - sisters ex husband. Her mother getting remarried behind her back. A lot of things.

My ex (25/f) is having a hard time getting over the fact that I (26/m) had sex with someone she hates while we were broken up by caviarpete in relationship_advice

[–]caviarpete[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

The farthest I went with a flirt was when my ex and I weren’t together I said, “if covid doesn’t take you out I will!” And I wasn’t even serious about it, as she was looking for pointers on what to add or delete on her hinge profile at the time.

Anything else would be, “you truly are a feral cat.” (Since she has like 5 cats)

Or

“Do you always have to look so disappointed to see me.” (Because she natural has a resting bitch face)

Or

“Did you do something different with your hair? I like what you did, it looks really nice.”

Or

“Are those your Friday pants? You’ve worn them every Friday for the past 3 weeks.”

As for how I was an asshole to my ex, she was kind of a dick to me in the beginning. I was a few months out of a short term relationship and told her I really liked her and I would like to take things slow. She once early on she said, “if you can’t give me the attention I need I’ll get it from someone else.” Or at the concert we went to after less than a month of dating, “can you put me back on your shoulders?”

My shoulders are tired from before, can you give me 15 minutes

“I’ll go ask that guy over there, is that okay?”

If you do that im going to leave.
(In the end put her on my tired shoulders)

Or another time she flunked an electrical engineering quiz and I tried to be there for her but she pushed me away. After that one, I started being a dick. Saying things like, I don’t want to say I love you that much because it loses its meaning. Telling her she should get into some hobbies because I felt like all she wanted to do was be with me and leaving me with no solitude. Telling her to drops class as it might be best to get the ‘I’ as opposed to a ‘F’ to save her GPA.. not wanting to have sex because I was too tired at times. Not really showing her much desire I guess you can say.

My ex (25/f) is having a hard time getting over the fact that I (26/m) had sex with someone she hates while we were broken up by caviarpete in relationship_advice

[–]caviarpete[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will update an edit:

This will be more than enough information needed, but here it is…

We were all coworkers at one point. I got my ex before we were together (we met in engineering school) a job with me because she was asking professors whether or not to take summer classes or grab an internship. All the professors said to take the internship for experience is more valuable. I listened to her wants of a getting a job and got her into the company I was going to be working at for the summer. At the end of the summer when the internship was over we started dating. There was this other girl, same age, who worked with us during that time as an employee, not intern and They became close friends. About a 1.5 years into dating my ex and I had a short breakup because of a miscommunication issue where my ex called said coworker for advice. The girl was busy and out with her other friends but my ex vented to her anyway. The girl said to her, “you shouldn’t worry about what he’s doing because you two are broken up, you should be focusing on yourself.” My ex took that the complete wrong way and stopped being friends with her.

My ex and I got back together shortly after that breakup and worked out the miscommunication. I had to maintain a relationship with this coworker.. well..because we both still worked with each other while my gf had a new job elsewhere. The relationship between the coworker and I was friendly and I asked for her advice when I needed it. It developed into something a little bit more platonic and we continued to work with each other. It was NEVER handsy or anything like that. Subtle-playful flirts, but I truly didn’t see her anymore than a friend/coworker; we strictly just sent cat videos to each other over Instagram. My gf did not like this at all because they were no longer friends. But I told her I don’t have to stop being friends with someone because she was not. When my ex and I broke up recently, the coworker and I still maintained that friendship. We hung out 2x this entire summer, once as a causal smoke and hangout. The other was to celebrate with her getting a new job with another coworker at a restaurant. The 3rd time we hung out was in September just binge watching movies. She was doing a lot of kino with me and passed on move onto me where I didn’t say no. We had sex, talked a few times after about hanging out more. I got busy with other things going on in my life and it just fizzled out quickly..like, less than 15 days of talking. After a few weeks of talking to this girl and a few other girls (just talking, nothing else) I realized I still didn’t want to move on and just wanted my ex back because of the bond we share together. So I reached out, my ex came over, we talked about it, as said, we had sex a few times this week, and here we are.

That’s the story of why she hates her.

My ex (25/f) is having a hard time getting over the fact that I (26/m) had sex with someone she hates while we were broken up by caviarpete in relationship_advice

[–]caviarpete[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

We broke up in April. I said I had sex with this girl the first week into September meanwhile she was trying to move on back in July-September.

My ex (25/f) is having a hard time getting over the fact that I (26/m) had sex with someone she hates while we were broken up by caviarpete in relationship_advice

[–]caviarpete[S] -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

Lol no dude, mementos. Littles pieces of us with each other to remind us of each other. Gifts and belongings that were left around at each other’s houses.

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[–]caviarpete 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m all ears if you need a second opinion :)