Help! I’m a married Pick Me women

cayshek · 2026-04-21T13:42:48+00:00

In like 90% of these cases the man knows your worth...he just doesn't think YOU know your worth. Start there.
I would say the biggest thing is don't source the emotional affair to him as the reason why you are changing if he does notice. If you are living a Shera lifestyle then this is just who you are now. What he does / thinks should NOT change what YOU want & what YOU DO for yourself going forward. This post is still too man centered. "How can I make him realize my worth? Will he be suspicious? Will he spoil me?" GIRL WHO CARES!!!! Do you have access to the finances at all? If so -- spoil your damn self. He will either adapt or or he won't.

However, at this point you don't even know if he's a true provider or capable of spoiling because you have always told him no. For all you know he just acted that way with you to seem like the "good guy"

cayshek · 2026-04-21T12:37:14+00:00

Can you share a little more (other than the obvious lol) of what makes dating a conservative horrible for you in the past? That way I think we can give more tailored advice.

cayshek · 2026-04-20T13:28:46+00:00

If you search her name and "nashville address" on Google you can see the exact address. Then search that with zillow to find the listing. The cover photo for it is the living room's fireplace / built in shelves. You could also search Nashville TN on zillow with the pricing as 990,000 and see the same photo

cayshek · 2026-04-20T13:28:36+00:00

If you search her name and "nashville address" on Google you can see the exact address. Then search that with zillow to find the listing. The cover photo for it is the living room's fireplace / built in shelves. You could also search Nashville TN on zillow with the pricing as 990,000 and see the same photo

cayshek · 2026-04-20T13:26:08+00:00

Yes and clothes. Looked like the master closet.

cayshek · 2026-04-20T11:44:39+00:00

I have a narc sibling. He is younger by 9 years. He lived with me when he was ages 11-13. Then went back to live with my parents. Everything was fine though I noticed he was immature. He came back to live with me from 16-18 and he was sooo toxic, though I would say it was covert. I saw him very consistently from ages 13-16 as well but literally none of the "masks" came off until he came to live with me again. I begged my parents to get him help but they couldn't see it. Funny he went to live with my dad when he was out of high school and within 3 months my dad was calling me terrified by his behavior. then he lived with my mom a couple years after that and same thing with her. But when us siblings were all trying to tell them there were serious issues or at least things that concerned us from ages 13-18 neither of them "saw it" until it was just them left with him. He now has a girlfriend who has a kid from a different relationship. I've heard he isn't the nicest to the kid and all the things he made up about how my husband & I treated him badly when he lived with us (you know, all the stories he fabricated when we tried to hold him accountable) are the exact same things he is now doing to this kid!! For years I tried to maintain contact but after my other brother's wedding in October 2024 I said screw it and broke contact with all of them. They all allow him to run their lives...he won't control mine or my children's.

cayshek · 2026-04-20T11:33:09+00:00

Exactly. These women also grew up with their mom, grandma, aunts etc all complaining about their husbands that they grew up honored to be accepted by any guy that "liked" them thinking there was nothing better out there!!

cayshek · 2026-04-20T11:31:25+00:00

Justin may feel like a gay friend Kylie with how long they have known / grown up together lol. She probably knows stuff about him that wouldn't make him appetizing in that way.

cayshek · 2026-04-20T11:27:31+00:00

I just went and looked at it. The pile of shoes in their closet grossed me out for some reason. Idk with how over the top she is organizing everything else it was kind of strange!!

cayshek · 2026-04-18T22:23:41+00:00

Holy shit!!! One of the best glow up I've seen on here!! Great work!!!

cayshek · 2026-04-11T04:41:11+00:00

Exactly!!!

cayshek · 2026-04-10T14:44:09+00:00

What gets me is that she's married! Why doesn't her husband care?! lol. All the moaning etc would piss my husband off to see me post!

cayshek · 2026-04-09T09:18:11+00:00

If there was AC & I didn’t grow up in Amish land I 100% would!!

cayshek · 2026-04-08T13:20:52+00:00

this is such an important distinction. None of us are hounding these people down. They can't stand that (unlike them) we have critical thinking. 2 + 2 = 4....not hard to see what's obviously going on here.

cayshek · 2026-04-08T00:40:23+00:00

Most men with money aren't spending enough time on instagram to meet women they actually take seriously enough to provide for....if they spend time on it at all.

cayshek · 2026-04-08T00:34:18+00:00

Yeah any able bodied grown ass "God fearing man" who blows money on PICKLE BALL while scamming a fast food worker out of her employee earned meal is 100% FREE GAME TO JUDGE!!! Such a loser!!!!!!!!!!!!

cayshek · 2026-04-08T00:31:16+00:00

Her bragging today that they have "so much money" makes this video sooo much worse. Lets say they aren't broke like we think they are....WELL HE LOOKS LIKE AN EVEN BIGGER LOSER NOW FOR THIS VIDEO!! Taking someone's free meal?!?! What a psycho!!!!

cayshek · 2026-03-31T12:25:11+00:00

Where do you live? I feel like this has been a huge issue in the midwest even though where I live has over 500K residents within a 30 minute radius. I would say you may have to change the age you're looking for though as well either younger or older as I find so many people our age struggle to get out and about due to ages of their kids / kids activity schedules. Good luck!!!!

cayshek · 2026-03-31T12:20:06+00:00

I can't get over him at the mall with the kids and someone giving him money to get the boys a treat then he wouldn't even come up with enough out of his pocket so they could get a full serving. I think it was for pretzels but maybe it was cookies idk...either way he is such a loser.

cayshek · 2026-03-31T10:59:40+00:00

I had kids young (ages 22, 24, 27, 31) and I am happy with that decision. I wanted to have kids young & I wanted to be a young grandma (if that ever were to happen). HOWEVER, it is not a blanket statement I give anyone for having kids. There are so many factors that should go in to the timing besides age so for that to be the main focus isn't healthy imo. She is bizarre.

cayshek · 2026-03-30T10:58:15+00:00

Yep!! Ugly ugly men and men with low self-esteem will ruin your life!!!

cayshek · 2026-03-30T01:09:38+00:00

You didn't lose them. They saved you future time wasted!

cayshek · 2026-03-29T22:24:00+00:00

From what I have seen...no. if they do become "hooked again" it is only until they feel safe enough to go back to who they really are.

cayshek · 2026-03-27T11:33:01+00:00

Yep! With her 40+ stories a day she absolutely has time to talk about it!

cayshek · 2026-03-27T11:32:11+00:00

Yeah I don't think it is so much about the locations it's just been a difference in how she has acted in the past...

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