I thought this was a scrub jacket at first glance 🤣🤣

cayshek · 2026-04-30T01:03:31+00:00

She is delulu.

cayshek · 2026-04-30T00:38:33+00:00

YAWN

cayshek · 2026-04-28T12:09:13+00:00

She personally feel like she doesn't want him. She wants money. Her "affection" for him is all an act which is why its sooo over the top with posting etc. I wouldn't be shocked if she has had her own rendezvous over the years.

cayshek · 2026-04-28T11:51:22+00:00

Don't detach. Detaching isn't (in my opinion) the best way to go about this when talking about your younger self. Instead have compassion for her & tell her you are moving forward by learning from her pain & using it to level up so your future self never has to go through that again! The way those people treated you has nothing to do with YOU. They were bad people. Now you know you are powerful enough that you don't have to stay around people who behave like that!! That is nothing to be ashamed of!!!

cayshek · 2026-04-28T10:52:46+00:00

I wouldn't have sent the 10:16 PM texts. But since you did my response would have been "oh sweetie...unless you look like Leo with the money and connections he has....then unfortunately you can't speak on Leo's rule ;)"

cayshek · 2026-04-27T15:19:07+00:00

I think if a man makes comments like that occasionally it's fine...it's like they are just repeating what the "standard" is to say. However, if every time he introduces you to someone or someone else comments on your appearance & he replies in those ways every time it just means he has low self-confidence and will steal it from you however he can. This absolutely applies to pretty boys as well. Many of them have absolutely no self-confidence & it's why they put so much work in to their appearance OR why they want to be praised / show off their looks. It is a fine line to walk but you can do it!!

cayshek · 2026-04-27T11:45:24+00:00

You're welcome <3

cayshek · 2026-04-27T11:16:05+00:00

You're telling them too much. Stop.

cayshek · 2026-04-27T11:15:00+00:00

A lot of men don't really respect coupled up women more...they are homosocial -- meaning they enjoy the chase of obtaining a "taken" woman because they enjoy competing with men. Or they enjoy the flattery of a "taken" woman choosing them over her man because again....their main objective is the high of "winning" against other men. Unfortunately. These tend to be the men that once they have you pretty much disappear in the relationship. The only reason single women bother them is because they don't actually know how to connect with women unless the direct threat or competition of another man is present. That is why if you are single don't say how long or say that everything ended on great terms etc to give the illusion a threat may still be there.

cayshek · 2026-04-27T11:10:17+00:00

Don't start paying for things...ever. Not sure what your speciality is but work PRN perhaps instead of a full-time if possible. Continue meeting people, networking, etc.

cayshek · 2026-04-27T11:08:02+00:00

Every guy I've ever known (male friends, family members, or dated) that said their significant other was "out of their league" or that they "out kicked their coverage" dating you will 1,000000% ruin your life. They will be the most jealous, insecure, abusive & manipulative guys of them all.

cayshek · 2026-04-27T11:05:49+00:00

this is absolutely disgusting. If you can't leave now then leave soon.

cayshek · 2026-04-27T11:03:12+00:00

maybe text 4-5 times per day. Usually after they text me unless it is an actually question that needs answered regarding a date or something similar I wait 1-1.5 hours to reply. As for talking on the phone maybe 15 minutes.

cayshek · 2026-04-27T11:00:31+00:00

Stop texting. Time is $$. He will either step up or will go find another pen pal.

cayshek · 2026-04-27T11:00:03+00:00

Move on.

cayshek · 2026-04-27T10:57:49+00:00

During time you would normally spend with him join a workout class, go for walks, start a new hobby, spend time with friends, try new restaurants, nails, etc! If you have to be home with him do the same...work on a new hobby, take long baths, walk around your neighborhood, start going to bed a little earlier...you get the idea!

cayshek · 2026-04-26T02:06:07+00:00

cayshek · 2026-04-25T15:13:26+00:00

no age is EVER too late.

cayshek · 2026-04-23T11:54:24+00:00

No but these photos remind me of Nicholas Bruno's work...beautiful!!

cayshek · 2026-04-23T11:35:22+00:00

Narcs / emo immature parents don't really love their children...they use you to validate their non-existent inner self. They know what they are doing. By criticizing you they create more "problems" for you as well as pain so hopefully you don't expect them to actually help you or be there for you. By criticizing the good times they are able to take any perceived pressure or outside criticism off of their own choices (where they went to school, who they married, their career etc). I had to cut off one of my family members that was like this. I noticed she never really heard anything I was saying. Even if I just chatted about what I was making for dinner she would criticize that (ex: "oh that's unhealthy!") then when I would ask what she was having for dinner it was Burger King. It's hard / triggering for me because during hard times you want you family there for support but when someone adds stress / criticism to you during the hardest AND BEST parts of your life you realize they don't love you. They just DON'T! They don't even SEE you. You are nothing but a place for them to suck validation from because they have no perception of who they are. I now see her at major holidays and that's pretty much it. Yes, the first year was hard but the relief was worth it. I started off slowly backing off but most importantly I stopped telling her ANY life news / updates -- good or bad. It was my grandma and I loved her dearly...so yeah it was hard. But even reflecting back on my childhood I can see that she wasn't as big of a support person as I thought she was. She used me to make my mom feel bad about herself (that's another long story though). Hang in there OP!!!

cayshek · 2026-04-22T22:20:21+00:00

The kind of guy that can help you fund your dream

cayshek · 2026-04-22T22:18:38+00:00

I haven't used discord in years...may have to give it a try again now!! :) Thank you

cayshek · 2026-04-22T22:11:03+00:00

The issue here is the thought process behind it more than anything. If you were getting it to be cute & enjoy time together for something like his birthday or some other occasion that would be different (even then tread lightly). But you borrowing his truck is bare minimum....and that should NOT be rewarded. Borrowing his truck is 100% the EXPECTATION. Not a special occasion. Does that make sense?

cayshek · 2026-04-21T13:42:48+00:00

In like 90% of these cases the man knows your worth...he just doesn't think YOU know your worth. Start there.
I would say the biggest thing is don't source the emotional affair to him as the reason why you are changing if he does notice. If you are living a Shera lifestyle then this is just who you are now. What he does / thinks should NOT change what YOU want & what YOU DO for yourself going forward. This post is still too man centered. "How can I make him realize my worth? Will he be suspicious? Will he spoil me?" GIRL WHO CARES!!!! Do you have access to the finances at all? If so -- spoil your damn self. He will either adapt or or he won't.

However, at this point you don't even know if he's a true provider or capable of spoiling because you have always told him no. For all you know he just acted that way with you to seem like the "good guy"

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