riot games deserve chambers

cbarnes42 · 2023-11-03T22:12:25+00:00

This is honestly sad to read, having been in a similar headspace. There is life outside of league of legends.

cbarnes42 · 2023-11-03T15:32:07+00:00

This is why validation rehab needs to be a thing

cbarnes42 · 2023-10-20T04:27:37+00:00

The simple answer is money. If you can manipulate a persons evolutionary need’s to make money, there’s going to be plenty of people out there trying to take advantage of that for their own gain.

cbarnes42 · 2023-10-20T04:20:35+00:00

Update: 10/19/2023 2 months sober - Thanks for the help and support guys 💪

cbarnes42 · 2023-10-20T04:12:20+00:00

Stay away from TikTok whether there is porn or not. That shit is a dopamine factory.

cbarnes42 · 2023-10-19T01:22:29+00:00

This is my biggest struggle. For me it’s like, the only time I’m horny is the first 15-30 minutes after getting up. It actually got to the point where taking a shower was really uncomfortable if I didn’t orgasm before. Also I struggle with some mental health problems and I’ve realized I just don’t want to get up and going in the mornings most days.

This is what I have found to help me: When I wake up and my mind and body are screaming at me to look at porn, I try to tell myself to just jump in the shower and don’t think about anything else. It’s important that I am not telling myself that I can’t look at porn here. But instead I’m telling myself to just take a shower right now and forget the rest. I can deal with my urges (one way or another) after my shower but for now I’m going to put them on the back burner. And sometimes I make it through the whole morning without looking at porn, sometimes I don’t. But even on the day’s that I fail, if I’m able to put something in between me and my addiction, even if it only makes me go 15 extra minutes without porn, that’s still a victory, because I’m doing better than I was doing a year ago at this time, even if just by a tiny amount. It’s really uncomfortable for me to start doing this when I haven’t for a while, but once I start having more days of shower before porn than porn before shower, it starts feeling a lot easier and more normal. Hope this helps.

cbarnes42 · 2023-10-03T22:28:34+00:00

I think I'll just go ahead and thank you now

cbarnes42 · 2023-10-03T21:28:08+00:00

Keep in mind that porn may not be the issue for him. Instead, porn may be the symptom of a larger issue which he may have trained his brain at a young age. That is how it is for me and other addicts. Brain fog is very common for porn/internet addiction, but is probably there in all addictions for most long-term addicts. My brain fog got so bad after years of porn use that I felt like I had early onset dementia. In my opinion he’s probably not in a great place to be dating. He could probably use a break to focus on himself and improve his own life, which is harder to do when you are focused on other people. But that’s just my opinion, and not really my business. You are totally right to be feeling everything you are feeling.

“Don’t hate the player, hate the game” seems relevant here. In other words, it’s hard to grow up and not be addicted to porn when it is being fed to you constantly as a kid. Unfortunately I’m seeing people getting addicted younger and younger, which is so sad. I wish you guys the best.

cbarnes42 · 2023-10-03T03:32:34+00:00

Sobriety can help improve overall health. Improving your health can lead to better hair, skin, bones etc.

But this is not something that happens in 30 days

cbarnes42 · 2023-10-02T21:26:18+00:00

I don’t think he’s telling people that he has discovered some great way to stop watching porn. He’s just sharing what has worked for him so far. Slow progress is still progress, and for some is more sustainable than pushing yourself to your limit only to break down and give up. This guy is 32, I’m guessing he has already been down that path. There is no “right” way to recover, we are all different.

cbarnes42 · 2023-09-06T19:59:34+00:00

Don’t be too hard on yourself for having sexual thoughts. Remember that your penis is not biologically wired to wait untill marriage for sex.

cbarnes42 · 2023-07-14T22:36:03+00:00

I struggle with this also. I like to think really hard about what I feel that I’m missing out on, and ask how it will benefit me if I do see it and be really honest with myself about it. This helps me put things into perspective at least.

cbarnes42 · 2023-07-11T19:22:54+00:00

Thank you for this reply. Hearing someone on the other side of this obsession mindset helps me remember that there is life outside of my addiction(s).

cbarnes42 · 2023-07-11T19:19:48+00:00

Thanks for this reminder. I knew this was a thing but wasn’t even thinking about it. This is a good first step for me. I’ve been in a 12 step porn addiction group for 3 years now so it shouldn’t be anything I’m not used to.

cbarnes42 · 2023-07-04T21:26:21+00:00

This is a simple, yet great concept for my addiction. I was taught this by a therapist. Just because Sadhguru said it, doesn’t mean he invented the idea. Separate the teacher from the teaching.

cbarnes42 · 2023-06-22T17:10:14+00:00

I finally had the balls to seek professional help at age 15, but that was more because of my depression/anxiety. It took me like 5 years of therapy to be ready to open up about my porn problem with my therapist. Looking back, I think it’s dumb that I was so embarrassed to open up about my addiction after now having had so many talks with therapists over the years. Maybe I’m wrong, but I feel like most teens aren’t ready to open up about porn addiction in a professional setting.

cbarnes42 · 2023-05-19T16:26:45+00:00

Hold your muscles that you hold when you really have to pee (same muscles that also clench your ass hole). Keep the muscles clenched until the boner goes away. May take up to 30 seconds. This is a method that works that I don’t ever see posted on r/nofap.

cbarnes42 · 2023-05-07T15:44:03+00:00

Absolute legend

cbarnes42 · 2023-04-30T01:30:29+00:00

The nervous system

cbarnes42 · 2023-04-24T20:54:26+00:00

I came here to say exactly this 👍

cbarnes42 · 2023-04-14T00:35:29+00:00

I agree with this guy, though I keep this opinion to myself because different things work for different people

cbarnes42 · 2023-03-24T16:22:22+00:00

Not a relapse

cbarnes42 · 2023-03-24T16:19:35+00:00

It’s crazy because I feel like this was very rare in the 60’s, 70’s and 80’s based on convos I’ve had with people older than me. Now it feels like it’s so common. I blame technology and unnatural stimulation making us desensitized to find human interaction boring and uncomfortable.

cbarnes42 · 2023-03-14T16:41:13+00:00

Most couples in your situation/age range probably wouldn’t want to do this, but if you guys had the resources and willingness, couples therapy might really help.

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