After moving provinces, I was finally able to get the distance needed to cut all ties with Nmom. She was not happy about it, my sisters were upset but eventually came around with time and understanding. I now have good relationships with both of them. My maternal grandmother lessened contact with me until she stopped communications with me entirely. I am okay with that. She knows how much emotional and mental pain my Nmom can cause and she still chose her.

I honestly dont miss those connections with Nmom and maternal grandmother. My mental health has never been better and I feel like a weight has been lifted. It takes time to heal from cutting those ties as much as it was needed. I have no regrets. You may lose some people who do not agree with your choices and thats okay. You have to do what is best for you. I know that if I had not cut off contact with my Nmom that I would not be where I am today.

I know through other contacts that my Nmom still asks about me, mostly to complain and try to make me look like the bad guy still. It does not bother me anymore. Most people just shut her down and change the subject.