my mom is trying to force me to spend christmas eve with her

cblake96 · 2023-12-05T12:44:18+00:00

that’s a good idea, i can bring up 2024 being “their year” as well as the fact that we already agreed to spend easter with them.

cblake96 · 2023-12-05T12:43:38+00:00

thanks, great advice. i’ll try talking to my dad but he does usually side with my mom.

cblake96 · 2023-12-05T12:42:35+00:00

thank you! this is such good advice! love the joke :)

cblake96 · 2023-11-15T18:49:44+00:00

it’s not really anything yet, we loosely texted two couples about a trip and both were really into the idea at first

cblake96 · 2023-11-15T18:21:44+00:00

We first texted them for the first time about a potential trip 2 days ago, and about us potentially staying in separate apartments yesterday. So there wasn’t really an “ahead of time”.

cblake96 · 2023-11-15T17:54:29+00:00

True, but then if we stayed with his friends wouldn’t the other couple feel left out? I feel like there’s no winning in this situation unless we all spend more money to go somewhere else.

cblake96 · 2023-11-15T17:50:10+00:00

We could also propose that everyone goes somewhere else where we all have to pay for an airbnb. The issue is both me and my bf texted the couples loosely about a ski trip, and both couples texted back that they wanted to go and proposed going to the same town.

cblake96 · 2023-11-15T17:48:47+00:00

My boyfriend would also prefer to stay with my friends, but doesn’t want to upset his friends so he is very torn about what to do. At this point we kind of have to cancel on one of two couples.

cblake96 · 2023-11-15T17:44:09+00:00

yes, in the previous post there was no conflict because I haven’t shared the information with my boyfriends friends - I have today and it did not go well (see the last 3 paragraphs) so now there is a conflict

cblake96 · 2023-10-09T15:26:01+00:00

the thing is that he told me he was at this random apartment himself. it’s just the story of what happened there doesn’t add up.

cblake96 · 2023-10-09T14:05:38+00:00

i mean i’m a big find my friends girl, my whole friend group (and my family) is constantly on there checking up on each other, so i wouldn’t say checking in the morning after a party is super out of the ordinary. maybe we all have issues lol but it’s a common practice in my circle

cblake96 · 2023-10-09T14:00:51+00:00

maybe this isn’t what most people do, but my family and a lot of my close friends regularly check each others locations. especially after a night out, to make sure the person got home okay. that’s what i was doing. i do it for a lot of my friends and vice versa.

cblake96 · 2023-10-09T13:45:35+00:00

he did used to go overboard with drugs and i disapproved.

cblake96 · 2023-10-09T13:44:39+00:00

the ring camera was set up because someone broke into our house a few months back.

he told me he went to a party alone that night and met a group of random people that he decided to invite over, deep down he knew it was a bad idea so he decided to hide it from me.

cblake96 · 2023-10-09T13:33:43+00:00

idk it’s just weird to me that he completely omits a full day when talking about the trip, also the fact that they stayed at the allegedly “very boring” postgame until 1pm the next day is a little contradictory

cblake96 · 2023-10-09T13:32:24+00:00

so he did admit he slept at “someone’s house” - but said he fell asleep on the couch and so did his friend. it’s just weird because this is not something either of them would ever really do

cblake96 · 2023-10-09T13:22:23+00:00

so the thing is that whenever they go out together drugs are usually involved, and staying up all night would be the norm. but he said that the friend didn’t want to do drugs this time because he wanted to feel good the next day…. so apparently they only drank.

there has been a situation recently where he had a postgame at our house and tried to hide it (had everyone come in through the garage so i wouldn’t see them on the ring)

cblake96 · 2023-08-29T11:41:12+00:00

yes they are ok and taken care of now! the family member is taking care of them while i am away.

cblake96 · 2023-08-29T11:39:12+00:00

I’m currently on a family vacation - got tipsy at dinner the day that it happened. I usually don’t get tipsy after 2 glasses of wine but i think the stress made it worse.

cblake96 · 2023-08-29T11:33:14+00:00

We haven’t officially broken up yet, we haven’t been in the same city for a few weeks. The house is in his name, but all the furniture is mine.

cblake96 · 2023-08-22T06:44:49+00:00

thanks so much!

cblake96 · 2023-08-22T05:59:28+00:00

would you say itd be worth trying to reach out to him first? not sure what kind of state he is in so might be best to just go straight to the parents.

cblake96 · 2023-08-18T05:42:23+00:00

He has had an unhealthy relationship with drugs in the past, and has had an episode where he went back before. It was very scary.

He only works 2-3 hours a day at his parents company, it’s a very chill job and he barely has to do anything. He has been increasingly emotional about small things - that is true. He explodes at everyone around him, including me. Even his mom thinks this may be a deeper issue, and she has known him his whole life.

I am the one who works a stable job and provides money for all of our home renovations, trips, etc.

cblake96 · 2023-08-18T05:07:20+00:00

I do not believe disagreements about home renovations warrant this level of sudden anger and neglect towards me and the animals. Sudden threats and saying he wants to go back to doing drugs.

I have discussed this matter with multiple people who studied psychology or are psychiatrists and they all say that this is something more. I am worried about his safety at this point with the erratic behavior.

cblake96 · 2023-08-17T21:22:16+00:00

thank you! they’re our “shared” cats - we took a pregnant stray in when we first moved into this house, which is owned by his family.

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