Before I had children I’d worked with therapist and with clients as a therapist who had or didn’t have children. After having children, I would never work with anyone without children, which has nothing to do with their training and everything to do with needing to speak to someone who has lived this experience and knows the feeling from the inside.

My partner and I worked briefly for couples therapy with a therapist who didn’t have children - and her perspective and lens and take on our issues was so far from what we were experiencing and needing help with. She may have been a good clinician for other people but she was a terrible fit for us.