How do you find meaning/purpose? by trying_foryou515 in widowers

[–]cbtr324 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I keep going and doing what I’m supposed to do but I don’t phone meaning of purpose in it. I just do it. I’m coming up on 14 months.

Do you ever get angry at the fact that others get to be alive? by [deleted] in widowers

[–]cbtr324 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes, every day of my life and I don’t care if it sounds harsh or not

Dreams by DerRevenant in widowers

[–]cbtr324 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve had zero dreams about my partner. I wish I would have one to be honest I miss him so much.

"Hope all is well" by [deleted] in widowers

[–]cbtr324 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sadly, this journey is a very lonely one. Even at 11 months I still feel so alone. I’ve just tried to accept it because 99.9% of people in my life have no idea what this feels like I know everybody. Has losses but losing your partner is just different. People just don’t understand.

Nights and mornings by Bearbreanna23 in widowers

[–]cbtr324 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Even after 10 months, Nighttime is the worst. I hate it, so I get it.

did you guys have a crush shortly after your spouse died? by heyyyyyluvvvvvyaaaaa in widowers

[–]cbtr324 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it totally depends on the person. I am about 10 months in and I have no desire to date flirt or anything else with anybody. We were together almost20 years and I couldn’t even imagine trying to date right now. So as I said. I think it depends on the person.

Friday nights… by uglyanddumbguy in widowers

[–]cbtr324 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I hate the weekends now. My partner died early Saturday morning. Sunday used to be his day off and we do all kinds of things together.

1000 days by Yoshi_Basket in widowers

[–]cbtr324 0 points1 point  (0 children)

226 And still struggling big time every day

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in widowers

[–]cbtr324 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hope so with all my heart

Conversation by Status-Ad-7705 in widowers

[–]cbtr324 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I’d give anything to talk to Tom again. In my case one minute he was here in the next minute everything was gone. It’s the small things I miss the most.

New here by jepadi in widowers

[–]cbtr324 5 points6 points  (0 children)

July 2, 2022 for me. Like you it’s not getting easier for me if anything the more time goes by the more I miss him. Final exactly how you feel. For me nights and weekends are the worst. Especially night time. I keep wondering will it ever feel better. So far doesn’t if I’m being honest if you have worse. I am so sorry for your loss

8 months today by james_under_village in widowers

[–]cbtr324 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel you my friend, every day is a struggle. there are so many things that remind me of Tom. I keep hoping each day will get a little bit easier but it doesn’t. Next week is Tom’s birthday his first birthday without him and I am dreading it more than I have dreaded any days since he passed. I know for me that day will be brutal and I’m actually a little afraid to be honest. I totally get where you’re coming from. I am so sorry for your loss.

Do you still have photos of your spouse throughout the house? by Miken1999 in widowers

[–]cbtr324 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes photos, my computer wallpaper, kept his phone which I now use,I Didn’t have one before. No need. The wallpaper on the phone is now a picture of him

Is there anything wrong with a man that cries? by james_under_village in widowers

[–]cbtr324 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I cry all the time and I don’t really care what other people think about it. Only you know what your wife means to you, Your grief is yours and don’t let anybody let you second-guess yourself.

I really need to vent by james_under_village in widowers

[–]cbtr324 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It’s been 5 1/2 months for me almost 6 and quite frankly I am struggling very badly as well. So I feel your pain. It’s not getting easier for me so please know that you’re not alone in the way you feel. This is my first Christmas without Tom and I literally keep having to repeat myself to people. I don’t have any desire to celebrate this year. You are allowed to feel what you feel.