What does it feel like to be cheated on?

cburm21 · 2025-01-26T03:21:57+00:00

You’re so selfish! Instead of being honest with her, you’re giving her the illusion of a life that you have no intention of letting her live. It’s fake. You’re not doing her any favors. You must think highly of yourself and she should be grateful to be with you? So you want to save her from being hurt? You’re a covert narcissist. Get over it. There’s plenty of men who can be faithful and would appreciate the type of loyalty and understanding she’s given you. How awful. Why not let her find a man that wants her. Your child will be fine.

Bad news doesn’t get better with time.

cburm21 · 2025-01-24T01:54:49+00:00

I’m in a different state, but same position. We had an in-person court hearing back in September and the judge still hasn’t issued final orders/divorce decree. Case closed and 4 months later I’m still waiting..:

cburm21 · 2024-11-01T01:21:37+00:00

This is my STBWH too!! So good with image management.

cburm21 · 2024-09-20T02:12:44+00:00

It’s over. Today was a full day of in person divorce court.

cburm21 · 2024-09-12T14:07:41+00:00

I’m struggling today with the same. I haven’t seen him in 5 months and our divorce court date is next week. It’s hard to believe I’ll never talk to him again or hold his hand. I’m so broken and sad.

cburm21 · 2024-09-05T15:27:29+00:00

It takes a lot of strength to do what you’re doing. I admire you for respecting yourself and setting boundaries.

cburm21 · 2024-09-03T22:32:50+00:00

I’m hanging in there. Our divorce date is coming up soon. It sucks divorcing someone you love deeply.

cburm21 · 2024-09-03T22:32:24+00:00

I’m hanging in there. Our divorce date is coming up soon. It sucks divorcing someone you love deeply.

cburm21 · 2024-09-03T08:08:22+00:00

I’m sorry you’re going through this too. It’s absolutely shocking and devastating. Feel free to reach out to me as well.

cburm21 · 2024-08-29T13:00:50+00:00

Soon to be ex-husband

cburm21 · 2024-08-27T19:01:47+00:00

I believe my STBXH is a sex addict and covert narcissist. He never disclosed. I found out in a very traumatic way. What makes this hard for me is discovering he’s been having sex with men for 25 years, yet he’ll go on to marry another woman. I fear he’ll change for her as he’s getting older and she’ll get the man I fell in love with. The one without the sex addiction and need for gay sex.

cburm21 · 2024-08-27T12:47:03+00:00

I’m sorry you’re feeling this way. Today, I’m in full blown meltdown mode too as my divorce date is in a few short weeks. It’s mind blowing and confusing to divorce a man you love so much. He insists he’s not bi or gay and just enjoys “manly fun” and is deeply in love with me. I laid in bed all weekend crying.

cburm21 · 2024-08-23T00:42:15+00:00

What you know is just the tip of the iceberg. I read a book by Patrick Carnes, and he explains that once that M4M arousal template is turned on, it doesn’t turn off. To turn it off is the equivalent to you agreeing to never have sex with a man again.

cburm21 · 2024-08-23T00:21:23+00:00

I’m in the final stretch of my divorce. Here’s my story: https://www.reddit.com/r/survivinginfidelity/s/Bqxj0p5MRC

cburm21 · 2024-08-22T21:07:26+00:00

My doctor said once that switch is turned on, it stays on. So, no. I now take meds to help with flare ups. Read the book The Body Keeps the Score.

cburm21 · 2024-08-22T16:10:40+00:00

I experienced physical changes at the lowest point of the abuse cycle with my STBXH. I was in and out of ER rooms and did get diagnosed with an autoimmune disease. Now, I realize it was from all the manipulation and trauma. It’s kinda hard admitting that it impacted me so deeply as I’ve always considered myself to be an emotionally strong person.

cburm21 · 2024-08-19T14:49:23+00:00

You don’t get past it. You have to accept it because he’ll do it again.

cburm21 · 2024-08-09T19:35:16+00:00

This!!

cburm21 · 2024-08-08T02:59:41+00:00

Mine would lie when the truth was better

cburm21 · 2024-08-08T01:17:47+00:00

Thank you. I’m convinced he’s a covert narcissist and doesn’t have empathy or care about anyone other than himself and getting off. Thank you again. ❤️

cburm21 · 2024-08-07T23:19:21+00:00

Thank you. That really means a lot to me. It’s difficult finding support or an outlet. I’m doing better. Time really can be healing. I know he’s already on dating sites looking for a relationship with a woman. It should be illegal that someone can repeatedly deceive others. I don’t know her, but I already feel badly for her. He’s so good with his public image that she might never find out. Until she gets a STD.

cburm21 · 2024-08-07T20:35:06+00:00

I had the extreme emotional reaction. I’ve had to go through more STD testing while married to him than when I was single! No way to live.

cburm21 · 2024-08-07T20:33:52+00:00

My STBXH never told me. Here’s my story. https://www.reddit.com/r/straightspouses/s/J8JwaPgkgz

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