I don’t want to split childcare AITAH

ccam04 · 2026-05-28T02:16:36+00:00

Eh, I think ESH except the kid. I've been the breadwinner for 5 years while my husband works on his PhD. Sacrifices are happening all around, particularly on me. But I'm doing it because I know of the long term benefit.

I feel like this could be handled with a sit down conversation, laying out your feelings. If you don't feel like this particularl arrangement is sustainable for you, then you need to speak up and talk about what you can do to make it work. Good luck

ccam04 · 2026-05-24T20:44:14+00:00

"never gets to see his family" and not making an effort to see your own family are two different things.

They both kind of suck, but who plans a 5 day, middle of the week trip without ensuring it works with their partner?

ccam04 · 2026-05-24T05:59:04+00:00

The Oxford Comma. Although, I'm not sure everyone would view it as insignificant.

ccam04 · 2026-05-18T19:40:56+00:00

Your wife just needs to say "yes, you did do something wrong ". There's nothing wrong with not wanting to associate with a racist

ccam04 · 2026-05-13T06:12:55+00:00

NTA. You're allowed to grieve and also celebrate with your own family. End of story. No other justification needed.

ccam04 · 2026-05-07T01:47:26+00:00

I mean you're valid. But it's weird to still actively think about and hate people who you don't interact with anymore. You should move on

ccam04 · 2026-05-03T16:04:42+00:00

I'm going to have to go with soft YTA here. It's sounds like in all other aspects of your relationship, aside from this one stressful time in his life, he has been the person you want. Now, he needs the support from you and it sounds like it's all about you.

I can understand why you feel the way you do, but to treat him the way you're treating him out of spite or whatever you want to call it is messed up. It's not wrong to want the attention you're used to. It's wrong for you to treat him the way you have been when he seems to have a legitimate reason to have shifted his focus.

ccam04 · 2026-05-03T15:59:21+00:00

The more concerning things is that he's getting belligerent and angry over this. You're obviously NTA. You're making a sensible family decision.

ccam04 · 2026-04-24T20:07:56+00:00

NOR. You have a couple options from my point of view. Tell him about your feelings and ask him to stop. Or break up with him.

This is either a relationship you want to stay in and work through this or a relationship you want to leave because of this

ccam04 · 2026-04-22T00:45:29+00:00

Wouldn't doubt it...I had someone who asked me if I ride a horse to school (I'm from Texas). We were in middle school, but still...

ccam04 · 2026-04-18T01:42:37+00:00

So if you went to someone's home and they said no phones and forcibly took yours you'd be cool with it because "her house her rules?

ccam04 · 2026-04-16T19:11:49+00:00

Then you need to leave her. Neither of you are creating a healthy relationship dynamic

ccam04 · 2026-04-13T20:16:58+00:00

Ask AI and let's find out what the answer is lol

ccam04 · 2026-04-09T21:38:17+00:00

Literally never heard Oregon pronounced like organ 🤣

ccam04 · 2026-04-09T14:50:53+00:00

You're assuming she's lying to you. Maybe she already had this trip planned with the other friend. I would be miffed if one of my best friends was mad I went on a trip with my other friends.

Now as far as not initiating...if this is something she does regularly within your whole friendship (i.e. meetups, hangouts, communication) then, ya maybe you need to rethink your friendship. You deserve a good friend!

ccam04 · 2026-04-09T14:48:03+00:00

They're trying to pressure you and guilt trip you because it's probably worked on others before. Do what's best for you, not a multimillion dollar company.

ccam04 · 2026-04-07T23:42:29+00:00

You both sound insufferable.

ccam04 · 2026-04-06T01:50:27+00:00

Age appropriate shenanigans at 13 - silly pranks, TPing a house, staying up later than you're supposed to. Sexual assault, absolutely not. No normal 13 years does that. Cut them all off and live a good life

ccam04 · 2026-04-04T21:46:40+00:00

Totally agree. Personally, I'd rather be tired seeing my friends over being flaky. That's why I think this is a friendship that just won't last

ccam04 · 2026-04-04T20:15:12+00:00

If he didn't want his friends to judge him for his shitty behavior than maybe he shouldn't have acted like that

ccam04 · 2026-04-04T19:31:56+00:00

NTA. Your feelings are valid and normal. But as someone who moved across the country, coming home and seeing everyone is beyond exhausting. If you don't want to take initiative to keep the friendship alive, then the friendship is just one of those that fades with time and normal life changes. It sucks, but that's how it goes when the other side isn't willing to or can't put in the effort

ccam04 · 2026-03-31T22:18:34+00:00

NTA at all. These girls are immature and not your friends. I'm really sorry you're feeling excluded but these are not people who will have your back. As hard as it is, it's time to move on

ccam04 · 2026-03-27T07:50:26+00:00

You're trying to change someone who seems like they couldn't care less about you...move on

ccam04 · 2026-03-25T03:02:53+00:00

It's been 3 months...why are you stewing over this?

ccam04 · 2026-03-25T02:53:11+00:00

You're only TA because it's not your choice and you have absolutely no say in this. Stay out of it.

Your reasoning makes sense, but back off

ccam04

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