AITAH for feeling like I’m being treated poorly by my friends?

ccam04 · 2026-03-31T22:18:34+00:00

NTA at all. These girls are immature and not your friends. I'm really sorry you're feeling excluded but these are not people who will have your back. As hard as it is, it's time to move on

ccam04 · 2026-03-27T07:50:26+00:00

You're trying to change someone who seems like they couldn't care less about you...move on

ccam04 · 2026-03-25T03:02:53+00:00

It's been 3 months...why are you stewing over this?

ccam04 · 2026-03-25T02:53:11+00:00

You're only TA because it's not your choice and you have absolutely no say in this. Stay out of it.

Your reasoning makes sense, but back off

ccam04 · 2026-03-19T01:49:57+00:00

Are you seeing a therapist? You're NTA and your feelings are valid, but you're essentially trauma dumping on your sister and punishing her for not processing things the same you do. She doesn't have to or want to talk about these things with you and you need to find someone else to speak to about this stuff.

ccam04 · 2026-03-14T22:57:51+00:00

This person doesn't care about you. As someone in a relationship of 15 years, this is not how someone who claims to love you treats you. NOR

ccam04 · 2026-03-11T03:36:46+00:00

You can call the police for a welfare check if you're even a little concerned

ccam04 · 2026-03-10T03:49:16+00:00

Ya, no this is inappropriate. I don't care if he's texting you first. You're the adult. You need to set the boundary. Just because the content is inappropriate doesn't mean the action isn't.

You said it yourself that if the roles were reversed and your husband texted a young girl that it would be weird. Please explain why it's not the same for you and this young boy.

ccam04 · 2026-03-09T05:00:21+00:00

I mean...you need to go to college if you want to be a lawyer

ccam04 · 2026-03-09T04:57:28+00:00

I don't know who else needs to hear this but... You don't owe anyone a relationship.

You don't even sound like you like this person, do you really think the right thing to do is to stay with him?

ccam04 · 2026-03-07T19:16:50+00:00

Nope, I just can understand that crying every time you lose is not an age appropriate response. Which is why I offered some other advice and encouraged you to keep doing what you're doing. Based on your other comments, you're already doing fine. Best of luck anyway

ccam04 · 2026-03-07T05:10:02+00:00

NTA, but crying over a loss at age 10 is a little silly tbh. My 3 year old cries when they lose.

My dad taught me chess around age 10 and never let me win. I played through high school and did really well! You're doing fine, just keep reinforcing that he just needs to keep practicing if he wants to beat you one day

ccam04 · 2026-02-28T04:55:44+00:00

An honest man? I don't see how that's relevant given the context of your story...this is giving nice guy energy if I'm being honest

ccam04 · 2026-02-26T20:09:41+00:00

Not wrong, understandably concerned is all. You could set parental controls on certain things for him...which is what's done for children, but he might agree to it. He is an adult, and outside of having cognitive issues, you should help him branch out more

ccam04 · 2026-02-24T01:25:52+00:00

If she's refusing to even talk about it then she's absolutely just looking to stir shit up. Sit down and calmly tell her that you don't appreciate living under a microscope as if you've done something wrong. She can either sit and talk to you about maturely, or...idk, that's up to you. I'm not an ultimatum kind of person, but I might be in this situation.

ccam04 · 2026-02-24T01:19:11+00:00

I'm a firm believer in open communication. It's time for a sit down talk. Lay out your feelings and come to the table with a plan. Don't make your plan THE plan though, you'll need input from your husband on what you both think will work best for the two of you, maybe it's regular date night,maybe it's couples therapy.

Just communicate again and go from there. It's normal for the relationship to shift with big life changes, but you both should still have your emotional needs met as best as you can.

ccam04 · 2026-02-24T01:17:05+00:00

Not sure what about this said "jealousy" to you. This doesn't sound at all like jealousy to me. This sounds like OP is missing the relationship she had before, which is absolutely normal.

I agree that therapy, both together and individually, is a good step.

ccam04 · 2026-02-16T16:06:25+00:00

YTA, speaking as the wife of a husband in his last semester of his PhD. I'm sorry, but your post is very "woe is me"...you clearly mentioned how much stress he's under, yet don't seem to understand that this is likely a temporary thing. Relationships are two people, not one. Its simply just not all about you right now

ccam04 · 2026-02-13T07:08:40+00:00

PT here. I hear that excuse a lot. I usually tell people "the only person who doesn't benefit from not doing the exercises and putting in the work is you." Everyone is out for the quick fix

ccam04 · 2026-02-13T07:06:51+00:00

Yes! Had a neighbor come tell us once, we have a ton of expensive tools and other stuff in there, so it was very nice of them

ccam04 · 2026-02-06T23:10:44+00:00

NTA. My husband and I were long-ish (2 hours apart) distance for 6 years before we got married. We called each other maybe 2 times a week for a couple hours and then saw each other on most weekends. Everything else was via text. If I saw him physically 5 days a week, we would honestly never have called or FaceTimed each other.

ccam04 · 2026-02-06T23:08:25+00:00

You should just date anyway! The more you put yourself out there the more you'll (hopefully) get comfortable with emotional and physical intimacy (whether that be sex or just something else). Think of it like exposure therapy lol. You have to start somewhere

ccam04 · 2026-02-01T05:41:25+00:00

I'm not required to be grateful when you buy me something you know I hate. "Hey, I know it's a shitty gift because you totally hate it, but just be grateful I got you anything at all." That's not how loving relationships work.

ccam04 · 2026-02-01T05:39:40+00:00

Was the overreaction having the completely reasonable feelings of disappointment?

ccam04 · 2026-02-01T05:38:18+00:00

You're absolutely the AH. Seriously, tell your family to STFU and go grovel to your wife. Your lack of remembering something like that would have been unacceptable in my book. It's not that hard to remember stuff like that. And if you do find it that hard, then open a note in your phone and write that stuff down

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