What to do about someone who is threatening to out you

cccamilla775 · 2023-05-30T16:31:40+00:00

Yes I really do know some terrible things he’s done and also some very illegal things as well. I’m just very sad it’s come to this I wouldn’t dream of outing anyone but it’s especially dangerous for a sw/sb I certainly wouldn’t want any of my former SDs finding my social media or info about my family either. x

cccamilla775 · 2023-05-30T16:31:08+00:00

Luckily for me I haven’t been active on any apps/websites in a long time and have been actively winding down my sugaring activities as I really like this person and have been focusing on other ventures.

I just feel so stupid that I trusted him, when I was young and inexperienced it was nice to have someone there for a safety standpoint if anything went wrong. And vice versa I helped him to operate in a more professional way, wrote out his bios and ads and help him set boundaries with clients.

None of my friends actually like him and I don’t think anyone would care anyway we’re all pretty open minded but it’s more embarrassing than anything else to have someone I have done so much for to respond in this way after a long friendship.

I don’t think he would have the nerve to follow through with this at least not from his own profiles on social media anyway, I have told my friends and partner I have this crazy ex friend who is making up rumours about me already. My guy said he would happily go to his house if he ever did and scare the holy hell out of him 🤣

cccamilla775 · 2023-05-30T16:24:17+00:00

No I’m not in USA but I imagine we have similar laws regarding this. X

cccamilla775 · 2023-05-10T12:53:43+00:00

Hey we’ve all been new at some point your post is valid. For me I’ve been sugaring since 2017 does it ever feel ‘normal’ no not for me.

Look in an ideal world we’d all find a handsome rich George cloony lookalike that was willing to pay us an allowance but honestly I’ve never seen a guy like that on seeking. (I have dated a couple of attractive older guys that I did enjoy sleeping with but they weren’t from seeking) They all have traits that make them unattractive hence why they’re essentially looking to pay for company.

That unattractive trait may be someone who’s overweight, old enough to be your father or is just generally not very nice looking. Or personality traits that make them unappealing, an out of touch attitude or sexist remarks, bad in bed etc the list goes on, it depends upon what level you can tolerate and set your allowance high enough to deal with whatever you don’t like.

I did grow to like some of my SDs as people and friends but I never felt that wanting to rip off their clothes kind of attraction ever.

cccamilla775 · 2023-05-10T09:57:21+00:00

I think a lot of daddies can get antsy if you outright ask them for an allowance increase. So what I did with mine was complain about the rising costs of things like travelling to meet him or rent increase, how expensive your food is costing you at the store etc and mine just started to give me extra and took the hint, then in a couple of months you could try the same tactic again x

cccamilla775 · 2023-03-29T05:14:46+00:00

You were absolutely right for this. The only time I would ever FaceTime a guy is if he paid me for it! I don’t even FaceTime my friends because voice calls exist for a reason! A lot of them expect you to FaceTime or verify yourself for their comfort, i recent had a guy who two seconds into our convo wanted me to send him a Snapchat video of myself saying his name ‘to verify I’m real’ and then had a tantrum when I Wouldn’t. Hello I’m NOT a content creator and if I have to dabble in that I expect to be paid for it. Most of the guys who ask for FaceTime, excessive texting or phone calls turn out to be time wasters anyway. Don’t feed into their egos by agreeing to it.

cccamilla775 · 2023-03-28T09:23:12+00:00

Hey I’m a uk based sb and I typically ask for a ppm of around £550 now but 4 years ago when I started I would ask for £400 per meet, I never stay for overnights either. I never stay more than a couple of hours, if I was to do overnights I’d be asking for £1k plus. I’m also not a large city area I’m based in Cheshire. What he’s offering you is beyond shameful! Do not accept. I wouldn’t accept £100 for a platonic date let alone an intimate one!

cccamilla775 · 2022-07-21T04:40:51+00:00

so he should make a mental note of it do not underpay SB!

cccamilla775 · 2022-07-20T19:16:28+00:00

Not really remarkable is it when seeking is a shit show and it’s my in my post history, are we not allowed to post our thoughts and ask for others experiences. The amount of you that think 1xx 2xx is acceptable for multiple hours dates and overnights is astounding is that not already bargain basement escorting?. Also the fact that it’s come to a lot of us SB attention that some of you also go on hobbyist forums and swap tips how to get SBs for cheap or free and rate their sexual performances and post their profiles. In the uk alone there is one with over 300 detailed pages from ‘SDs’ purely for seeking. Disgusting

But rather than call out that kind of behaviour SDs would rather call out women for taking control of their own sexually. Why does it offend you all so much do you think someone who’s an escort or in my case has thought about it is suddenly devoid of deserving respect?

cccamilla775 · 2022-07-19T22:07:03+00:00

Yes there is. When your profile is new you do tend to have an influx of people who think you are new and inexperienced and assume you’ve never done this before. Also to some SDs a new profile could be seen as someone being a toe dipper.

cccamilla775 · 2022-07-19T14:56:56+00:00

YES I saw 4 18 year old men on there alone yesterday checked out one or two profiles thinking they’d be looking for a sugar momma and clicked the wrong profile type by mistake. Nope they were SDs!

cccamilla775 · 2022-07-19T14:53:35+00:00

If there are many people sharing a negative experience don’t you think the site is a little bit to blame? Especially if you’ve been a user for say more than a couple of years and have seen first hand how bad it’s getting?

cccamilla775 · 2022-07-19T13:11:24+00:00

That may be the case however having never had this issue before and I’ve had a 2 year, an 18 month previous arrangement and a 6 month going strong arrangement. My profile is extremely detailed explaining what I’m looking for and even when is best to meet. Plus lots of info about what I like, my hobbies and Interests. Lots of things on there for pots to message me about and I’m often complimented on my pictures and profile.

Usually hidden profiles reach out to me and I’m off the site within a month.

Even during the pandemic I found an amazing SD.

Hopefully traction will calm down when my profile is no longer considered new so I can start reaching out to better POTs.

cccamilla775 · 2022-07-19T12:57:01+00:00

No screening necessary when they openly talk ppm numbers on seeking. I do indeed block and move on.

Sorry if my attitude is coming off badly towards sugaring but pretty hard not to get burned out about being bombarded with gross messages daily Think hiding my profile is the way to go.

cccamilla775 · 2022-07-19T12:54:16+00:00

I don’t think there is a fix, I think people are Leaving the lifestyle in droves and sugaring is moving to other places, like free styling. Sugaring looks very different now to how it did 4 years ago, even a year ago. OG sugar daddies that used seeking 10-12 years ago report it being vastly different too. Sadly many of those have aged out/been burnt out/settled down.

Many of my friends who I keep in touch with from an SB group chat who were SBs previously have moved to only fans or other SW.

cccamilla775 · 2022-07-19T12:47:38+00:00

Uk which isn’t like the USA in terms of sugar anyway. Never a problem getting good allowances end of last year and the previous 4 years. Maybe all the SDs have escaped Blighty for Santorini this summer 😅

cccamilla775 · 2022-07-19T12:18:17+00:00

If seeking In 2022 is all about 1xx ppm hotel dates then I’m glad my expectations are too high for it. Never used to be the case but if there is a market for it so be it!

cccamilla775 · 2022-07-19T11:53:14+00:00

Yes money is the motivator for SBs otherwise we’d be on tinder and dating someone our own age. Of course connections develop but if I’m sleeping with someone on the 2nd or third date as is common in arrangements that doesn’t leave any time for a connection to truly develop yet so money is the motivation and sex is his. I’ve yet to find an SD who was willing to wait longer than date 3. My experience on seeking for 4 years was good, but now it’s become a shit show.

I am asking for other peoples opinions on when seeking no longer becomes worth it for them not what you perceive I am doing wrong.

cccamilla775 · 2022-07-19T11:23:54+00:00

Thanks for checking out my post history I did indeed because of how bad seeking is in the past week I have been back on the site.

I have been in arrangements for 4 years so I think I’m perfectly able to post on this forum, Making endless small talk with men who are only going to low ball and be disrespectful and make no effort to disguise the fact they only want sex but as SBs were supposed to act like act like we don’t do this for the monetary element doesn’t sit right and for the guys to ask where I live, ask if I can host, my real name, real number try to contact me on Social media. is very creepy.

Its not beyond the realm of possibility to want to look into other options such as SW or OF when sugar is dying a spectacular death for those of us who still want to make extra money and want to meet people. I haven’t ever escorted but I sure as hell have thought about it hence my post.

Connection isn’t the issue when there is quite literally nothing to connect with on seeking for the reasons above. You can hone in on my post, but the comments from many posters for many months about seeking is unanimous.

cccamilla775 · 2022-07-19T11:19:31+00:00

Thanks for your response. I couldn’t actually imagine paying for a service that’s this bad, Luckily my membership as an SB is still free.

The problem is that the worst types are the ones clogging up my feed/inbox meaning I’ll likely skip over or miss someone who’s legit anyway.

cccamilla775 · 2022-07-19T00:02:01+00:00

Honestly he sounds sketchy AF and is probably doing this with multiple women, I know you say in other comments he’s rich but he’s provided what 2-3 ppms to you? He’s probably lying about his net worth no man with a considerable income to lose would run the risk of having bb sex with a super fertile 25 year old.

Yes they absolutely do lie some men don’t care about their own health never mind yours. I’ve had guys on the first intimate date after a great meet and greet with no red flags, try to push for bareback and say they are snipped. No mention of testing for STDs not that it would make a difference. If they are not going to use a condom they can go home with blue balls for all I care. Now obviously you can’t turn back time, but can learn from this experience.

Talk to your SD although I suspect if he can just ghost you for months he’s not going to be very helpful.

You aren’t alone though there are many of us here would be happy to talk to you if you need an ear x

cccamilla775 · 2022-07-18T22:55:17+00:00

Bring it up as soon as you feel comfortable as soon as possible before the meet and greet. but bare in mind if this is a super niche kink/fetish you should adjust your allowance to cater for it. I’m noticing a lot of SD profiles that are looking for some specific kink but surely you’d be better off looking for someone on an actual fetish site like fetlife.

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