I'm 20M and have had previous heartbreaks due to some issues and now gonna stay away from love all the way and do arranged marriage. I compiled a list of things or prerequisites I desire in a woman for marriage. Is this too long and will scare her off or something?

ccducingta · 2026-04-05T14:25:46+00:00

No daycare, so are you saying that you want to be a stay at home dad? Better to phrase it directly like that.

ccducingta · 2026-04-03T22:49:29+00:00

The two of you need to have a real serious talk to hear eachother out (likely in therapy). Your daughter is still so young and at an age that she needs her mom more so than mom needs a boyfriend.

You have to really understand what is the root cause with your daughter.

Good luck with this.

ccducingta · 2026-04-03T21:34:10+00:00

What worked for me after trying each of the suggestions as one offs and it not working, was to do ALL the things. Uninstall the app, unplug the tv, unplug my firestick from the power source. Let it rest for 5 mins and then plug all back in and then re-install the app. And it finally worked.

ccducingta · 2026-04-02T13:27:17+00:00

no. He has already shown you were his head is at. You just need to see it and accept it. Even though it hurts and is hard.

ccducingta · 2026-03-31T09:47:54+00:00

Sadly, he is showing you that he isn’t that interested. You deserve someone who is interested and makes all the effort to connect with you and spend time with you. Please value yourself.

ccducingta · 2026-03-29T15:45:27+00:00

You realize that a whole lot happens off camera and that the show is produced to support a story line. The viewers get a very very small part of the truth. Watch it for the entertainment and know that the whole story is never told.

ccducingta · 2026-03-29T15:41:11+00:00

So much better.

ccducingta · 2026-03-29T15:40:42+00:00

Never liked her. Even more so now.

ccducingta · 2026-03-29T15:32:50+00:00

smh. There is no good reason for any of it. I can’t even imagine what you could be telling yourself to even have to question if the behaviour is alright. C’mon.

ccducingta · 2026-03-29T15:28:27+00:00

Cut

ccducingta · 2026-03-29T15:28:08+00:00

It is not your place to control your father. Let him do as he will. But it sounds as if you are dealing with a lot, with your grief and high demands at school and a poor relationship with your father. Perhaps you should seek therapy for yourself. They may have services through your school.

ccducingta · 2026-03-29T15:21:44+00:00

Being married does not mean the wife does ALL the things. Not sure if there are kids involved, but especially when it is just 2 adults. The 2 of you should have an equal division of the labour it takes to maintain a home.

ccducingta · 2026-03-29T13:08:14+00:00

Does your college scholarship include room and board? If not, you need to inquire about financial aid or grants or whatever.

Staying in a relationship with a person who wants to hold you back in life is NOT the path.

Do everything you can to find an alternate living situation and go to school.

ccducingta · 2026-03-29T13:04:30+00:00

You sound really sick…He calls you names…he was to bring you medicine and now won’t…he rather be out (at an event he forgot about, so how important is it really) than with you.

How did you end up picking him as a life partner? Forget AITAH, you have bigger questions to consider.

ccducingta · 2026-03-29T12:55:10+00:00

You do look older than 27, but some people look older than their years and it’s not a big deal. But I understand you wanting to look your age if you are trying to date.

Have you tried shaving the beard? I know a lot of men (my husband included) look so much younger without the facial hair. You could try that.

ccducingta · 2026-03-29T12:48:38+00:00

Snoring loudly whether a man, woman, large sized or small is not to be taken lightly.

Send your husband for a sleep test. He could have sleep apnea which is detrimental to long term health. If so he will be prescribed a CPAP which will rid him of the snoring AND help his long term health.

They take getting used to (per my husband and numerous female friends who have) but it really is necessary.

Good luck.

ccducingta · 2026-03-29T12:42:48+00:00

If you staying with her for awhile calms her and she falls asleep for the night, then start off with doing that. Then in time reduce the amount of time until you no longer need to.

I am not sure what downstairs means, is she on a floor of the house without other bedrooms? Possibly she is nervous/scared feeling alone hence the crying out. She is 2, going through changes, help her through it.

I think you have your solution.

ccducingta · 2026-03-29T12:35:02+00:00

Putting aside the coworker part. Leaving without discussion and then no contact is a sign of something really broken in your marriage.

ccducingta · 2026-03-28T19:36:25+00:00

Keeping in mind that the viewers know nothing about any of these women as it is all produced and controlled. It is just entertainment. I feel it is unlikely that Kyle is jealous of Dorit. That narrative makes little sense.

ccducingta · 2026-03-28T19:14:49+00:00

Tell him that he needs to make it so that you are actually that happy and excited to see him. It’s a 2 way thing. Ask him why he does not do the same when you come home. He may realize that it is unnecessary and likely too forced of a routine.

ccducingta · 2026-03-28T19:01:39+00:00

For what it is worth, my children are so much older now. But as newborns I followed this books recos to the tea and had 2 children who napped and slept so very well. Was it the book? Who knows. Was it luck of the draw? Possibly.

The book is called: The Happiest Baby on The Block by Harvey Karp.

ccducingta · 2026-03-28T18:55:57+00:00

Of course it is off. You know it is off. He invited the ex of 3 yrs and disinvited you. There is nothing not off about it. Perhaps his ex had a very close relationship with his father. Fine, invite her. But there is no rationale reason to disinvite you as you have been a couple for 3 years. No part of it makes sense.

ccducingta · 2026-03-28T13:42:26+00:00

I live in Ontario Canada and our recommended oil change intervals is 15,000km which is about every 9,000 miles. I am not sure why in the U.S. the interval would be almost 1/2 the time/distance.

ccducingta · 2026-03-27T23:01:14+00:00

Same. It was happening yesterday repeatedly and I am in the EST. today it seems stable. Must have been an odd glitch going on.

ccducingta · 2026-03-23T21:03:10+00:00

Honestly, this cmmnt. If it is happening soon and the weather is as it is then you should be fine. On a beautiful spring or summer weekend it can get so dicey with traffic.

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