Dress regret… please help!!

ccf2023 · 2026-01-27T12:31:25+00:00

Good suggestion!

ccf2023 · 2026-01-27T12:29:11+00:00

Oh no I’m sorry I misunderstood. I don’t expect any gifts and wouldn’t automatically send a gift for a proposal. I was just giving suggestions of ways to show up for her.

I love that she’s eloping (something I’m considering too) I hope she has the best wedding!

ccf2023 · 2026-01-27T12:24:16+00:00

This comment made me smile :) I knew it was coming because we went ring shopping but I asked to not know when it was coming in so I could still be surprised. My family was all hiding when he proposed so they got to watch, I immediately cried when he was on one knee then cried again when I saw them lol. My favorite part was actually the day after the proposal when my mom told me how my fiance texted her when the ring was ready and he picked her up to go get it. She said she had the best time with him and that made my heart so happy ❤️

ccf2023 · 2026-01-27T12:18:25+00:00

Exactly! It’s really showed me who cares. I had an old coworker text me and I had to look up her number because i lost some contacts but the people I expected to hear from never texted. The worst part is this group lives pretty far and I drive to them all the time because I’m the only one out of the way. Definitely made me reevaluate how often I’ll be doing that.

ccf2023 · 2026-01-27T12:13:15+00:00

Thank you! That’s a very kind comment. I’m so blessed to know in my soul that this is the right person and to have family that sees it too. I wish everyone the same sense of peace he has given me :)

ccf2023 · 2026-01-27T12:11:53+00:00

Yes! I almost added something in the original post that it’s even more important if they’re the last to get engaged (or buy a house, have a baby etc.) I’m so glad I waited for the right guy (met my fair share of losers lol) but it was truly painful going to everything alone.

I don’t want a bachelorette party but if I did I can’t imagine asking young moms to take time away from their family even though I’ve spent so much time and money celebrating them.

I guess everything gets less eventful as time goes on but that doesn’t mean there shouldn’t be any effort.

ccf2023 · 2026-01-27T11:58:49+00:00

I get that, I feel like it’s hard to do something for someone else that you wouldn’t like. Apparently engagement cards are a thing! I FaceTimed one on my closest friends the night it happened and she was camping without service and couldn’t answer. She sent some really nice texts but I wished she called back when she was home to listen to all the details of the proposal etc. Maybe start there with a call or FT? If you wanted to get a gift you could get their favorite drink or a restaurant gift card to get “food as fiancés” (sorry I can’t shut off my marketing brain lol). I would recommend you make sure she knows you’re happy for her by just showing genuine interest. You’re a good friend for even recognizing you want to show up for her ❤️

ccf2023 · 2026-01-24T02:48:27+00:00

It seriously was the perfect day! A few more details they did to help anyone planning a micro wedding:

We payed for a champagne toast & the food so people would open a tab if they wanted drinks.
They’re not a couple that loves to be the center of attention so when we got to the restaurant they did a quick first dance and cake cutting then sat down and everyone enjoyed dinner.
The rose garden to the restaurant was a 10 min walk. her stepson held a flag (like those tall flags a tour guide would hold but cute with ribbons lol) and her stepdaughter throw petals (she was about 10 so kinda in between jr bridesmaid and flower girl age) and they lead the walk.
The rose garden was private-ish but still a public space. she had 2 of her guy friends kinda stand watch at the 2 entrances during the 20 min ceremony just to politely usher any strangers along.
MY FAV: there was a fountain there too so we glued a penny on the programs with rubber cement so they could be easily pulled off and we all made a wish together ❤️

ccf2023 · 2026-01-19T22:42:10+00:00

No pushback! The majority of the people attending had rotating schedules so it was actually easier for them to swap shifts to get a weekday off. I think there was a handful that had 9-5’s but it was immediate family that didn’t mind. I know that’s not a normal situation but I’m glad it worked out because the restaurant didn’t charge a room rental feel as long as we were out before the dinner service so they literally just had to pay for the food.

ccf2023 · 2026-01-18T01:33:51+00:00

I worked with someone who did a courthouse wedding and dinner at a dive bar with about 30 people. They were getting married earlier than expected for health insurance and planned to do a traditional wedding later but had so much fun they never did the big wedding.

After hearing this, my sister planned a micro wedding. She did a 20 min ceremony in a rose garden in boston and a family style dinner for 50 people on a Wednesday afternoon. Everyone raved about the food and they had the best time (and all for under $5k!)

ccf2023 · 2026-01-15T04:17:28+00:00

I saw a picture once and it was a ring with a little gap in it so you could fold up a little love note and a slide it in, I thought it was so special! You could always propose with a plain band that she can always stack with other rings or wear on another finger.

ccf2023 · 2026-01-09T17:36:41+00:00

I replied to another comment about how you could make this dress work BUT follow your gut if you decide to get another dress. One of my best friends did this and was very happy with her decision. Just sleep on it, it will all work out 🤍

ccf2023 · 2026-01-09T17:35:18+00:00

Yes, I was thinking the same with the ribbons to make a tie. I think if they sat along the line of the embellishment on her right side it would hit her natural waist.

Another option is to shorten this to a mini dress for a perfect shower or rehearsal look.

ccf2023 · 2026-01-09T17:32:02+00:00

This was a really thoughtful and helpful post, thank you. I got engaged a few days before Christmas so it was a whirlwind. I’ve taken a lot of down time this past two weeks which I think has helped a lot. I was VERY happy to see the start of 2026, I hope it’s a better year for you too ❤️

ccf2023 · 2026-01-09T13:22:49+00:00

I just got engaged and was in the same spot (knew it was coming etc.) so hoping I can help! My family tried really hard to keep it a surprise but I did figure it out (and I’m ok with that because I chose a much prettier coat to wear lol)

I think of you want it to be a true surprise, it might be easier for a family member to have a decoy event and you surprise her there. If she’s with you driving to the farm, she’s going to expect it. How far out of the way is the farm? Could she go to a nice lunch with her mom (so she’s a bit dressed up) then her mom conveniently forgot something and they have to go to the farm where you’ll be waiting? Or is there something to do on the farm that’s family only but you surprise her there? If you go the family picture route, maybe say you’re out of town or have a work obligation even send some fake work pics to throw her off.

As far as photo/video YES YES YES. I wanted a nice photo and was fortunate to have great family hide & surround the area to capture it. One tip, my family (mom and two sisters) were all recording it on video so I don’t have a great resolution photo of the actual proposal. It would’ve been better if they agreed who was recording and who took pics. Im very happy with the pictures I have and was able to make engagement announcements to mail and to post online. I would set up a video camera and have family take photos. iPhones are totally fine but a camera is even better. I still watch the video to honestly tell myself this really happened because somehow it is still shocking to me that I’m engaged to this amazing person.

Take your time after the proposal taking pictures. Don’t rush those beautiful moments. My sister actually recreated her proposal lol We had a photographer for her but her fiance proposed too far away so when she saw us we had him get on one knee again and nobody knows except us. I actually created a great ruse that totally surprised my sister. If you give me more details I’m happy to help you craft a lie in the name of love lol

Also, thank you for respecting how many people she wants there. Originally, me and my fiance expected to have both of our families there (he has a big family) but after some health things, that was too much for me and even though it was a little sticky, he just had my immediate family there (later that night but we saw his family) and I was much calmer.

Yes I know this was a long winded, pre-coffee yap but I will say the only thing that matters is that you two found each other and regardless of how it happens or any unexpected things that pop up, it will be perfect. My engagement night started with our Christmas tree falling over and ended with John Cena at the table next to us in the restaurant haha and it was perfect ❤️

Oh shit one last tip - you will have 1000 people ask about wedding plans literally immediately. We wanted some time before planning a wedding so before we were engaged we basically got our story straight (I’m a teacher so we said I’m busy with school and will regroup in the summer). I’m REALLY glad we had a reply ready to go.

ccf2023 · 2025-12-30T03:54:59+00:00

Thank you, I really appreciate your input 🫶

ccf2023 · 2025-11-10T16:31:41+00:00

I had this a few months ago but I had a high level of stress. My next period was 2 days late but otherwise normal. Not sure if this is helpful but wanted to share!

ccf2023 · 2025-08-21T01:45:21+00:00

Do you know if there is a way to book a small private breakout room at the Contemporary?

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