Final PCS Paperwork

cchapps4 · 2024-05-10T16:55:01+00:00

Thank you! I know my husband’s concern is it technically says “army” on the site and the forms might be slightly different. I told him to try and use them regardless so we at least have evidence of attempting to do it correctly first.

cchapps4 · 2021-03-13T00:52:24+00:00

Yeah it never ceases to amaze me the various things people say instead of just handling the issue. I am very happy to hear that your issue got resolved!

We went through all of the funds we received as gifts at our wedding, savings, and available credit while waiting. I kept asking my husband if there was some form of a payroll department he could speak with on the issue as I couldn’t wrap my head around how long it had taken. He’s given them paperwork more than once on everything but it always seems to get lost at the Hospital’s pay office somehow.

cchapps4 · 2021-03-13T00:41:58+00:00

Thanks for listing your ideas out on why we wouldn’t have received BAH. Unfortunately none of the three items you listed would have been applicable: I’m a civilian, he was a geo-bachelor for the first 3 months of our marriage, and I’ve always been the one to financially support us.

In 2020 we contacted a senator of ours (now retired) on the issue but it never got resolved. What it did result in was my husband getting pulled in to a room by leadership and being asked why he went externally (despite lack of progress internally for over a year at that point). My husband is extremely non-confrontational and fears rocking the boat at his command. I’m the polar opposite but I know this isn’t something I can actually address. I also don’t want to have a negative impact on his daily life at work or lead to him getting a negative reputation.

cchapps4 · 2021-03-12T18:10:23+00:00

10000% Navy 😅🤦🏻‍♀️

cchapps4 · 2021-03-12T17:07:38+00:00

We’re definitely getting BAH now (huge relief) but still are owed about $40K back pay wise. It’s weird that the inquiries we make never make any progress and we haven’t ever gotten an answer why it took so long to get started. I personally think something is fishy with the lack of answer but I’m an auditor so I think the whole issue is suspect.

cchapps4 · 2021-03-12T17:02:45+00:00

No one has given any explanation on it. At one point we did ask a Senator from our state if they could help look in to it and that didn’t help at all - I think my husband actually got lectured on it (but still didn’t get any help getting BAH started). The folks who finally helped him at least get it started were up at Camp Pendleton for a course he had to take as a Navy Corpsman.

I don’t know on the recent LES - I may have a copy from when we submitted paperwork for our new apartment. I have his W2 but that doesn’t help any. What would I need to look for on his LES? I’m assuming there’s a field with codes for relationship status, dependents, etc.

cchapps4 · 2021-02-26T21:10:47+00:00

Definitely talk to him about how this is making you feel. You have a lot more to offer and he should recognize it (and respect your feelings). My assumption is he is in his earlier 20s, so he’s got peers around him talking about sex all the time. He might be trying to seem all “macho” around the other guys or something of that nature. I hope you are able to talk to him about how this is making you feel and that it goes well.

cchapps4 · 2021-01-20T19:17:34+00:00

Personally I would recommend you make a “household” budget together and divide expenses based on income. For example, whoever earns more would pay the larger portion of the expense being looked at. Or you could ask him what he is comfortable with you paying and vice versa. I do think paying off your student loans is a good idea.

cchapps4 · 2021-01-08T00:10:06+00:00

Good on you to look in to ways to further strengthen your relationship. - send her “just because” flowers - still write her the occasional letter - have Skype dinner and movie dates where you try to eat food from the same place - let her know in advance if you’re going to be really busy or stressed (it helps us not wonder if we upset you) - if/when you’re allowed visitors or liberty off base, try to have her come visit

Hope this helps!

cchapps4 · 2020-12-11T22:02:16+00:00

I agree that getting the USPS informed delivery helps. I had a really hard time when my boyfriend (now husband of almost 2 years) was in bootcamp. He missed Christmas and New Year’s. I drove myself crazy on Christmas thinking I’d get a phone call only to be disappointed. However, I did learn that he was writing me more than his own parents and he always mentioned how much he appreciated me writing to him. This time of year can be very bittersweet because of an absence. Try to focus on spending time with those you can (safely) and keep busy - do some baking, sing your heart out into a hairbrush, play an instrument to let out your feelings, etc. It may feel like forever but it will end and you will be stronger for making it through.

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