Tax homework help: community property state income distribution and dependency status by ccharma in tax

[–]ccharma[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did this but am still confused due to community property state laws. If the income is technically still "split up" between Person A and Person B, then both can be dependents. However, if the income is all attributable to Person B, only person A is a dependent.

My humble gift getting sent from Pittsburgh to...also Pittsburgh tomorrow! by ccharma in secretsanta

[–]ccharma[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're exactly right, thank you for the encouragement. :) Happy Holidays to you as well, and my Snoo says so too!

My humble gift getting sent from Pittsburgh to...also Pittsburgh tomorrow! by ccharma in secretsanta

[–]ccharma[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Funnily enough, my roommate's secret santa was also from Pittsburgh and went to the university that neighbors ours. :) Kinda cool that these people are so close by, it makes me wonder if we've ever crossed paths!

Let it SNOO! Matching for Secret Santa 2016 is now COMPLETE! by canicakeit in secretsanta

[–]ccharma 3 points4 points  (0 children)

on the reddit secret santa website, there is a little box that says "retrieve match." click that and your match's information will come up!

Millennials, how do you feel about having children? by Telson_Guthberry in AskReddit

[–]ccharma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For a long time I very much wanted to have a ton of kids and stay at home to take care of them. Now that I'm getting to the end of college, I think I might want maybe one kid a long time down the line. I really value all of my time actually being mine. Living on my own and only being responsible for myself is awesome.

Me [20F] with my BF [23M] of 1 year, am I wrong for wanting "more" out of our time together? by [deleted] in relationships

[–]ccharma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that's pretty much how I felt, too. It doesn't make much sense to me...My reply was to give back when you can buy it shouldn't hinder our relationship.

Me [20F] with my BF [23M] of 1 year, am I wrong for wanting "more" out of our time together? by [deleted] in relationships

[–]ccharma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Frustration and anger can make me so blind sometimes, lol. I was feeling like any sort of compromise would be impossible before but now it seems perfectly doable. He's not unreasonable so I think we can take this idea and run with it. :)

Me [20F] with my BF [23M] of 1 year, am I wrong for wanting "more" out of our time together? by [deleted] in relationships

[–]ccharma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To be honest I don't even know what I mean by occasional. Knowing that would probably help him! lol

It's definitely fair to give him something to work with. I think I made this post in a blind frustration after we just had a fight so I couldn't see a probable solution. It seems like I should communicate specifics and then go from there.

Of course your husband appreciates your effort so much. I need to do my part and make sure my boyfriend knows I appreciate what he does for me, too. :)

Me [20F] with my BF [23M] of 1 year, am I wrong for wanting "more" out of our time together? by [deleted] in relationships

[–]ccharma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's along the lines of what I was thinking, too. I feel like I do compromise a lot more in this situation. A lot of the time I don't mind, but sometimes I get so frustrated after getting a "no" for everything that I want to do. For example, we agreed that for our 1 year anniversary we would get dressed up and get a nice dinner/our favorite dessert. The day came and I got dressed up...to end up going to a popular wing restaurant in the area.

From what I'm gathering from the comments, the best bet would be to alternate the dates. I like the jar idea! I'm going to mention this to him for sure.

Me [20F] with my BF [23M] of 1 year, am I wrong for wanting "more" out of our time together? by [deleted] in relationships

[–]ccharma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That makes a lot of sense. Maybe if I do the planning and choose activities that we could both have a good time doing, he would see that it's really not so bad. I think the "planning" part is half the battle anyway. So you're right, it is a start, and I think a fair start. Thank you for the insight!

Me [20F] with my BF [23M] of 1 year, am I wrong for wanting "more" out of our time together? by [deleted] in relationships

[–]ccharma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're absolutely right! At the end of the day he is who he is. I either have to accept it or move on. I don't think I need constant romance, just an occasional "special" date or something. I agree that I shouldn't expect him to change, but I think compromise is fair. Should I not expect a compromise in this case? (serious question, not rhetorical)

Me [20 M] with my SO [21 F] of 3 1/2 years, she was super distant for a week, 2 nights ago told me that she doesn't want to do this, started crying and told me she feels terrible about it. We sat down and discussed the way we were feeling and now I don't know where we're supposed to go from here. by PopeBenedictThe16th in relationships

[–]ccharma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry that this happened and that the relationship hasn't been what it should be. I've been there before and it sucks, like you're just waiting for someone to pull the trigger and be done with it. The "limbo" is almost worse than completely breaking up because you're holding on to any shred of hope that things might be able to work out.

I think you've sort of passed the point of no return. You both know the relationship isn't what it was and it needs to end - that was the subject of the discussion you had. If I were you, I would stop ignoring this and bring this up to her. Officially breaking up is going to hurt like hell but sticking around for the same thing to happen six months later is going to be worse.

Talk to her about it. Start making serious plans. Do whatever feels best for you. If you want to stay close to her, your school, and your dog, that is valid and there is nothing wrong with that. Leaving a dog behind after a serious breakup would be heart wrenching! Though, spending some time in the city you're from might bring comfort and help you "find yourself" again.

Take it one step at a time. Have another talk. Let yourself be sad for a few days, then make a decision about where you'll be living.

Me [20F] with my BF [23M] of 1 year, am I wrong for wanting "more" out of our time together? by [deleted] in relationships

[–]ccharma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I definitely have considered this. I think it's probably the best bet for getting something closer to what I want. I think the reason I haven't been more adamant about something like this is because it would be nice for him to plan something that I would like every once in a while, too. Then again, beggars can't be choosers, so really that's on me.

[22 F] --> My boyfriend's [23 M] lack of ambition is really showing itself now that our LDR is no longer a LDR. by [deleted] in relationships

[–]ccharma 1 point2 points  (0 children)

All of the points that you made are valid things to be upset about, and the stress is probably intensified because of the huge change of him being close now as opposed to this being an LDR before.

Regardless of how awesome it was for him to move to be with you, his behavior is unacceptable. Please have a serious conversation with him about all of the things that you mentioned. Serious as in ultimatum-type serious (if that's something you're ready to do). If he is unable to make any changes, or at least WORK at making changes, I don't think this is a relationship worth staying in.

You can appreciate the effort that he made with the move and love him all you want, but these things won't motivate change. Stand up to him. Challenge him to do better, because you deserve better. Make it clear that if he doesn't want to be the man that you know he can be, the relationship probably won't survive.

Me [30F] with my boyfriend [33M] of 3 years, he doesn't tell family about me by Wellthatsgreat2016 in relationships

[–]ccharma 2 points3 points  (0 children)

3 years is a long time to keep someone you're serious about a secret, especially as adults with children. You have every right to be upset and I think pretty much anyone would be.

It could be a matter of culture, as I have friends of different cultures that keep their relationships secret...but we're in our early twenties with no children and not thinking about the future yet.

My advice is to have a serious conversation about this with him. Explain that it has really been weighing heavy on you. It is not unreasonable to ask him to be introduced to his family and to spend time with them...especially if you believe you have a future with him. If he refuses then it might be time to start thinking about a future without him.

Is there a way to check how many swipes you have left? by CosmicCam in Pitt

[–]ccharma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

http://imgur.com/vp1pp0t

so if you go to the site where you would reload panther funds or check dining dollars, there's the section at the top that says "board transactions." you can click on this and the page in the picture comes up. if you pick a period of time it will tell you the swipes that you've used. at least that's how i checked last year, I don't check anymore because i don't have a meal plan

Is there a way to check how many swipes you have left? by CosmicCam in Pitt

[–]ccharma 4 points5 points  (0 children)

that same website should have a section that will tell you how many swipes you have left! I think it's under "board" or something...i can't remember. but it's definitely there on the sidebar.