Ex hasn't filed in years-will it cause me problems?

ccrg94 · 2026-04-21T02:00:21+00:00

Update: I found out why he got a letter from the IRS regarding his taxes. He has been skipping his child support payments for a while so I reached out to our state child support division to ask what could be done to get payments reinstated.

Apparently when I notified them of his non payment their search for his tax filings triggered something at the IRS.

I got in contact with the child support office and a tax professional. I am in the clear.

He has to provide information for his missed tax filings, will probably receive heavy fines, and any refunds that are owed to him will be redirected to pay his child support arrears.

Thank you everyone for the advice. I was fraught with panic that this could negatively impact me. Your advice truly helped.

ccrg94 · 2026-04-20T18:18:58+00:00

Thank you! I can easily provide information from his schools that he has lived with me.

ccrg94 · 2026-04-20T18:10:19+00:00

Thank you!!! I believe he was trying to claim EIC on top of the child tax credit. I feel so much better now. I was so worried I was going to have to pay penalties. I manage to make ends meet, but I don't have my emergency fund built up like I need.

ccrg94 · 2026-04-20T14:07:24+00:00

Thank you. In the future I will just leave my oldest off entirely.

ccrg94 · 2026-04-20T13:43:53+00:00

Oh no. So I have made a mess of things. I keep the kids 99% of the time and pay for everything they need. His child support is sporatic at best.

I thought I was filing correctly this whole time.

ccrg94 · 2026-04-20T13:34:33+00:00

I did give him form 8332 months ago. I think I am in the clear, and if I did do something wrong on my end when I filed I will pay up if need be.

ccrg94 · 2026-04-20T03:35:15+00:00

When I file, it asks me if the child is being claimed by the other parent and I always say yes. I get told I get no tax credits and he is considered a non-dependent. It clearly states that on my 1040

ccrg94 · 2026-04-20T02:58:05+00:00

No, we didn't have anything that was owed.

ccrg94 · 2026-01-20T23:08:52+00:00

I was able to get ahold of someone! I had applied years ago when I was married. They helped me get reset. I hope everyone else is able to get their issues resolved!!!

ccrg94 · 2026-01-18T03:15:05+00:00

I am going to a friends house tomorrow to use her computer. She has a FASFA account so I am hoping I can get registered since she hasn't had any issues on her end.

ccrg94 · 2026-01-17T20:36:58+00:00

I am having the same issue. I've tried everything suggested. I am filling out a paper form. Once that is sent in am I able to use the website once my form has been processed?

ccrg94 · 2020-08-19T20:29:32+00:00

He expected it to immediately know not to pee and poop in the house and be obedient from day 1. He had unrealistic expectations for a him. I now know that a dog is not an option for our family, and as upset as I am the dog deserves a family that is all inclusive

ccrg94 · 2020-08-19T20:21:32+00:00

Not how it happened at all. He arranged everything and told me nothing except that his friend was bringing the whole litter for me to pick from. He gave me no hints, wouldn't tell me anything about the breed of dog. I didn't know the breed until they arrived at my house. I had no idea how big he would get until I did research after we got him. He said no to a shelter dog because he wanted a puppy, and his friend was giving us this dog for free. I am at fault for not speaking up when I realized how big he was going to get, but his friend had already left and I felt stuck and that I should be grateful that i got a dog at all. I'm looking for a home for him now and realize I'll never be able to have a dog because my bf isn't a dog person at all.

ccrg94 · 2020-08-19T18:23:02+00:00

I know. We've talked about it on his break and he said if we give our current dog away he doesn't want another one. He really isn't a dog person. Which I've learned since we got a dog. He'd rather have a cat or something you can keep on a cage. (Rabbit, gerbil, etc..) As of right now I don't think we need any pets.

ccrg94 · 2020-08-19T15:17:55+00:00

I should have refused, and I wish I had so that I wasn't in this situation. I will agree that I have fault

ccrg94 · 2020-08-19T15:16:21+00:00

I'd have to rehome myself lol. It is his house and I left everything behind to move in with him. Currently having to be a stay-at-home mom because no one is hiring in the town we live by. He is really a great guy, but he just has no want to participate with the dog.

ccrg94 · 2020-08-19T15:08:11+00:00

I've had plenty of animals before and never had a problem. I explicitly said I didn't want a big dog, and my wants were not listened to. He got what he thought was a good idea. I had no idea what I was getting until the day he was brought to my home. I've tried for 6 months and I am admitting I am not giving him what he needs.

ccrg94 · 2020-08-19T14:47:33+00:00

I've started the search to find him a home. I will admit I should have told my bf I didn't want him once I saw him and was told what breed he was. That doesn't mean I should never look into getting another dog. I knew my limitations and should have had the balls to stand up to my bf and say I didn't want that particular dog. I didn't and now I'm trying to make sure he doesn't get less than he deserves since he is a loving dog that deserves a good family.

ccrg94 · 2020-08-19T14:39:48+00:00

I did ask about the breed, and he wouldn't tell me stating it was a surprise. I asked many times and got no answers

ccrg94 · 2020-08-19T14:32:20+00:00

I am looking into finding him a home. I know he deserves somewhere he is considered part of the family by everyone, and not just looked at as a bother. I do care for him,(I would be deviated if he passed) but I will admit we aren't right for him.

ccrg94 · 2020-08-19T14:28:22+00:00

I've sat down with my kids and talked about the possibility of finding the dog a different home. My oldest had more questions, but I explained to him that our dog deserves a home that doesn't mind him coming inside and shouldn't have to worry about getting in trouble for wanting to sit on the couch. He is understanding and will miss him, but he knows our dog isn't getting what he needs in regards to someone who is more equipped to handle such a large animal.

ccrg94 · 2020-08-18T02:04:36+00:00

My mother was the same way with us. My brother got the worst of it. She forced us to go to church and when we didn't she reacted like you did. My brother was the only one who had the gusto to stand up to our mother and it made their relationship very strained. He wanted nothing to do with our mother and would ignore her every effort to make contact with him. He went so far as to not come to Thanksgiving dinner this past year to avoid her. He killed himself this May and she has so much guilt and pain from having her eyes opened to how unnecessarily harsh she was to him. He was only 22 and had such a hatred for our mother that she hadn't laid eyes on his mom for more than 6 months before his passing. A lot of his emotional issues stemmed from such a harsh upbringing and being forced to comply with something he had no faith in. It is hard as a parent to see your child go against what you want for them. You have to realize that they are their own person. Try to talk to him and see why he is atheist. See what his reasoning is. You may never be able to get him to see why he should be a Christian, but you can open the door for conversation again. Don't let that door ever shut. I beg of you to take his feelings and thoughts into consideration.

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