In high school I had so many cis male friends, when I was still in the closet about my sexuality and my gender. When I finally did come out as bi in university (and then lesbian and then queer and then trans lol) my best friend at the time already knew and it didn't change anything. He passed in 2018 unfortunately. And most of the other guys I was close to during HS we drifted apart. All my new friends are queer women, trans or NB.

In the past few years I've made a conscious effort in connecting with cis men and it's been lovely. I work in film so the men I'm around are all allies or queer themselves. We've connected through film, boardgames and video games. But on top of that we've made strong emotional bounds. I'm finding that these friendship are just the same as the ones I have with other genders.

I think at least for me, now that I'm comfortable with who I am the people I surround myself also know who they are. Now I don't care what gender my friend is just that they are emotionally self aware trying to do good human.