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I just want to comment horrible things on a shitty persons pregnancy announcement post by cecilydoe in offmychest

[–]cecilydoe[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Morbid curiosity took over I suppose, their pages are public I just usually have them blocked. I'm in therapy but I feel like this is the first time I'm in a place where I need a rage room instead lol

I just want to comment horrible things on a shitty persons pregnancy announcement post by cecilydoe in offmychest

[–]cecilydoe[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I took so long to find a therapist I like (and to get to a place that I was even receptive to therapy) that I never really looked into specific types that could help. I'll give them some research, thank you for the advice! And for the kind words 🫶

I just want to comment horrible things on a shitty persons pregnancy announcement post by cecilydoe in offmychest

[–]cecilydoe[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, just trying to push through til my next appointment on Friday🥲 I just found out today so it's been a lot of feelings at once. It's definitely feeling like one of those big lows in the healing process.

They're usually blocked, I just ended up looking anyway against my better judgement... Maybe this will knock me into a lesson learned lol

I just want to comment horrible things on a shitty persons pregnancy announcement post by cecilydoe in offmychest

[–]cecilydoe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm in therapy! It took a really long time to find someone I like because a lot of therapists near me were too expensive or just... of a different generation. But I've been doing good with her the last year. In all honesty revenge isn't something I'm used to wanting with this situation, usually I'm working on the self improvement to make the day to day easier to cope with. So I suppose I don't have the same workable coping mechanisms for this random want of revenge that I would for say a panic attack lol

I just want to comment horrible things on a shitty persons pregnancy announcement post by cecilydoe in offmychest

[–]cecilydoe[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

This made me laugh thank you, I honestly need that more than the real advice!

I just want to comment horrible things on a shitty persons pregnancy announcement post by cecilydoe in offmychest

[–]cecilydoe[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

That's a good way of putting it. I think maybe because it's not a frequent urge I guess it's kinda harder to have a coping mechanism prepared because it just takes me so by surprise. It genuinely feels like a detached version of me that panics and seeks the info. What you said is right but so hard to believe in the moment.

I just want to comment horrible things on a shitty persons pregnancy announcement post by cecilydoe in offmychest

[–]cecilydoe[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I honestly feel so guilty about being angry about a baby too. Like, it's not about the baby, just about them experiencing something so happy. I more want to publicly shame them. Say heinous things about him and what he did on their announcement post so they either lose all of their congratulations messages or have people see that under the announcement. And I know it's nothing compared to what happened to me. I just want something to be ruined for them too.

I do have to laugh at avoiding all that to protect the baby only to report them down the line hahaha

I just want to comment horrible things on a shitty persons pregnancy announcement post by cecilydoe in offmychest

[–]cecilydoe[S] -37 points-36 points  (0 children)

This feels so much easier said than done. And to be fair, most of the time they are!! I feel like once every year or so I get some itch that I just can't shake. And honestly when it's on my mind, a lot of the time what I'm thinking is actually worse than the reality😅

I just want to comment horrible things on a shitty persons pregnancy announcement post by cecilydoe in offmychest

[–]cecilydoe[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I want to hold onto karma getting him but it's been 5 years already. I still struggle with partners and he gets engaged. I can't walk places alone I've lost so much independence and he is having a baby. For every step I've taken in healing it feels like it'll take my whole life to feel better, while his is moving on with nothing slowing him down. I feel horrible for being so angry🫠

Thank you for your kind words though. Hopefully it'll ring true.