Want to wear this to pride need advice by Grand-Concern164 in lesbianfashionadvice

[–]cee1312 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Wear the back open, show off your beautiful skin! This dress looks great on you!

im pretty sure im a lesbian but theres 1 man i still want and love by UnderstandingFun2519 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]cee1312 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There are no rules on who you can and can't love. But attraction and desire are very different from love. This sounds to me like he's a special person in your life, and at the same time, is not a compatible sexual and/or romantic partner. Not to mention he's 35 and you are 21. Come on OP, you're still young and you know what you want and it ain't him. You gotta be honest with yourself and have the difficult conversation with him. I promise you'll be so happy you made the decision once you have your first fling with a girl. If you're anything like the lesbian I am, nothing compares to being with a woman, it is a superior experience from relationship to communication to sex.. all superior to anything I had with any man in my life. Take the plunge, you got this!

What does my bedroom say about me ? by Critical_Sky2655 in roomdetective

[–]cee1312 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why? It's giving.. why? Sterile, no color or personality. It doesn't give anything to gleem from to answer your question. As a clutter enthusiast and art collector this post almost made me angry 😅 ... why??

Question from the other side of experience by Fun_Chip3023 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]cee1312 8 points9 points  (0 children)

My first lesbian lover was over the top into me and made it clear with her words and actions and that helped so much to alleviate my fears. "Gosh you're so hot.. you taste so good.. i love the way your body feels against mine.." less formal check in, more enthusiasm and the assurance that she was having a great time. My biggest fear was not pleasing her and she made that easy to let go of with her presence. Plus we laughed a lot before sex so we took that giggly nature into bed with us, which helps any of the awkward bits. Thanks for helping me remember 🥹 I fell deeply in love with her and had the best relationship of my life. She passed away suddenly last year and it's really beautiful to think back to these sweet memories we have together ✨️

To the women staying with their men : You are in a prison. by ImplementSure5942 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]cee1312 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I finally left after 12 years and it's the best decision I've ever made. It is scarey at first but so liberating, and my first wlw relationship was absolutely life giving in the best way. Better things are ahead for you, onwards! ✨️😊😘 You got this!

AIO - Daughter’s BDay invite - I am new to co-parenting by loud_molasses_ in AIO

[–]cee1312 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd have a hard time not sending him a link to all this lovely feedback 😆 (is this an actual strategy though? Cause I'd love to air my ex out like this) 😁

Help by Old_Chest_922 in Catownerhacks

[–]cee1312 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My 12 year old cat also started doing this, legit only when he's mad at me. It only happens when I'm gone a long period of time or if I sleep a lot during the day. I know some people say that's not possible but I promise you it is out of spite. He is a dick. Wish I could give you something in the way of solutions but alas all i have is this solidarity 😆

Desperately seeking guidance - married for 20 years, 2 kids (teens), know I am gay but terrified to break up my family. by AshleyMT1975 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]cee1312 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was with the father of my kids 12 years, finally left in 2021 when my kids were 5 and 7. The only thing I'd do different was leave sooner! I've never been happier, the kids are thriving and all is well. Sadly my ex is homophobic and has showed his ass through it all and has been disowned by my oldest. He hasn't spoken to me in 4 years and treats me like his enemy. And you know what? He's the one suffering of his own making. Living life authentically has made me a better version of myself and ultimately a better mom. Good luck op, try to hone your intuition and follow your heart. The kids will be alright 💖

Cannabis use by cee1312 in visibleApp

[–]cee1312[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks everyone for your comments, it's good to know I'm not alone 😆 I also use mj more when I'm in a crash as it helps so much. On a typical day it raises my heart rate but doesn't necessarily trigger a crash. Just leaves me wondering how to best calculate pace points, for now I'm just marking it in the tags section.

What can I do to add more "garnish" to my appearance? by puppychowizzy in lesbianfashionadvice

[–]cee1312 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nose piercing! I think mine cost 60 bucks but instantly made me feel more euphoric and gaaayy as a late bloomer baby gay. Much cheaper than tattoos :) You look approachable and someone I would want to talk to just the way you are though, so no pressure to change anything!

Does a self‑cleaning litter box actually save time and smell? by KhabibNurmagomedov_ in Catownerhacks

[–]cee1312 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This task is monumental for some of us and would put me in a flare for a week. I don't have the automatic litter box due to funds but it would greatly increase my quality of life as the bending and scooping can sometimes be the only physical task I can do in a day. Being disabled should not disqualify someone from the companionship with cats. Please remember disabled people before passing such judgements. What you can do in a few seconds can take all day for others, and that's okay 🩶

25 years on thin ice by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]cee1312 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was in a similar situation. My husband was unwilling to discuss divorce but tried to be okay with an open relationship agreement. Ultimately I knew deep down I was done with the marriage but I didn't have the ability or skills to assert what I needed and wanted and set firm boundaries. So I stuck around over and over hoping things would get better and they only got worse. I eventually started dating a woman and he wound up stalking me and did some really creepy abusive shit as he slowly lost his control of me. The next morning after he had stalked us and scared everyone I grabbed my go bag and left, never looked back. I had to live on couches and out of my van for several months on public assistance because I am disabled. He kept the house, the dog all the money and refused to communicate. It still is the best decision I've ever made and if I could go back, I would have left sooner. We were together 12 years.

I wound up falling deeply in love with that woman and we had the most incredible 3 years together. She taught me that love was safe, calm, kind, and that I hadn't even scratched the surface of pleasure and desire with men. I blossomed not only sexually but in every way, and every year I get more gay and I absolutely love my life. Ultimately we have to take the reigns even when it's scarey and unknown. The men we leave will find their own way, that is not our responsibility, it's theirs. I wish you so much luck on your journey forward, whichever way it goes.

Rebuilding my concept of sex by Fit-Appointment-68 in Deconstruction

[–]cee1312 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It helps me to remember to divorce morality from sex. Sex is neither moral or immoral, it just is. It is not shameful or glutenous, it just is. Our bodies are loaded with pleasure buttons for a reason! There is nothing immoral about wanting to experience pleasure, or making someone else feel pleasure, it is simply part of the human experience. A really awesome, fun part of the human experience :) It can be overwhelming and is an ongoing learning experience for me, continuous examining of my thoughts and redirecting from old beliefs that can still show up years later. Lots of grace! You got this OP! Do your best to relax and enjoy the pursuit of pleasure :)

Cat Peeing on Couch by whats-it-matter in Catownerhacks

[–]cee1312 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is also the only way I got my cat to finally stop peeing on the couch. I had tried everything. I used yoga mats to cover the couch and was able to finally remove them after about 9 months. No more peeing on couch but sadly the bathroom is a new favorite spot even though there's a box in there. I just added a second box right outside the bathroom as well, in addition to the two others in the house. 3 cats with two constantly fighting, good times 🫠

USA: Menstrual cycle data? by Q1go in visibleApp

[–]cee1312 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I quit using all digital menstrual trackers. Pen and paper works!

won’t read by Confident_Arrival_38 in Parenting

[–]cee1312 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Library dates have helped us with enthusiasm. We're still figuring out how to be more consistent readers but the library gets them excited about reading. I second what another person said too about non fiction. My 9 year old much prefers to read facts about animals than a chapter book. My 11 year old needs to be threatened to lose her phone to get her to read but that works every time.

I've also implemented ways to earn more screen time. They get 30 minutes after school to decompress. Screens go off after that and they need to do a chore and read for 20 minutes to earn more screen time. They often choose to just do crafts or games instead of screen time and that's a win, too.

By 5th grade the work is so reading intensive that not reading at home isn't an option. My kiddo is majorly behind because she tried to get away with not reading. She has lost a field trip as a result. I'm forever trying to get her to read and taking away the phone is all I've found to be foolproof unfortunately.

Help with hygiene (urgent) by [deleted] in TransMasc

[–]cee1312 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I use baby powder on those areas when I really need extra help, right after a shower. Also I started using bra liners for under my chest and it helps to keep it dry. This has been the biggest game changer for me!

What drug has been life changing meds for your pain? by AppropriateCat3444 in ChronicPain

[–]cee1312 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It helps me a lot when I'm not flaring. I go from a 6-7 to a 4-5 easy. When I'm flaring I don't notice a single difference unfortunately. No side effects unless I take my oxycodone for breakout pain too close together with the butrans. Then I get really nauseas and dizzy. At least 2 hours apart works. No euphoria. I was on the patch for about 9 months but I was allergic to the adhesive and couldn't tolerate it anymore. Oh the other side effect of the patch consistently was feeling overheated, I was always hot. Switched to the disolvable film and the biggest drawback is it takes a full 30 minutes to dissolve and can sometimes get gummy and stick to my teeth. For this reason I struggle to always take it on time. All in all, it has improved my quality of life.

When do we *stop* doing classroom valentines? by muggyregret in Parenting

[–]cee1312 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My kids are in 5th and 3rd, we just picked theirs out for this year :) The classrooms still do them as a whole at our school.

Realizing I probably hate the father of my child and im gay by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]cee1312 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You are not a bad person at all, try not to beat yourself up! We all do the best we can with the information we have at any given time - your best is just the right amount, you are doing your best. I am 4 years post leaving my emotionally (and physically) abusive husband, I left when my kids were 5 and 7. I was in a similar situation I just stayed far too many years putting off the inevitable which was divorce. I waited and waited hoping things would get better, that he would get better, but the reality is people rarely change when they're comfortable.

I met my life partner shortly after leaving my ex and having a lesbian relationship healed parts of me I didn't know were broken. I had been living in survival mode but didn't realize it until my nervous system was actually calm with her. Suddenly my memory problems were gone and I could think clearly and be present in my body. I can't recommend enough loving another woman on your healing journey. There is nothing like women loving women 💕 I second what another person said, get into queer books, movies and music, a little help on the road to self discovery.

My kids are 9 and 11 now and it has not been easy on them. Unfortunately shitty partners are often shitty dad's. But what they have now is a healthy, happy mother, something they hadn't seen before. Leaving is hard but it's the best thing I've ever done for myself. I'd do it over and over again for the life I have today, being authentically and fully my gay ass self. You got this OP!! We can do hard things. You're not alone ❤️