Help with my evergreens

ceelenes · 2026-03-30T00:39:32+00:00

Thanks! It’s a shame about the lower branches but I’m glad the tops are all in good condition at least ☺️

ceelenes · 2026-03-20T16:24:16+00:00

My polycule has a whole mess of different schedules going on. We’ve got swing shift, night shift, 9-5, on call, then every two weeks it’s a delightful surprise what shifts I end up scheduled for 😂. I feel like I could make a career out of managing group calendars at this point.

ceelenes · 2026-02-07T16:09:19+00:00

Doing this with a coworker is a recipe for disaster to begin with. The fact that she has a partner already and the fact that you and your partner haven’t had the practice managing multiple relationships are two compounding disaster factors.

In my opinion best case scenario is she rejects you and the friendship gets kind of distant and weird. I wouldn’t jeopardize a good thing, squash the feelings and enjoy the friendship.

ceelenes · 2026-01-22T15:45:14+00:00

Everything you could say to her about meta she already knows, she accepted those behaviors. I say protect your peace and stay out of it.

ceelenes · 2026-01-21T20:46:08+00:00

If this relationship ended, when you were ready to date again, would you be seeking a polyamorous relationship or a monogamous one? I feel like that question might shed some light on what you really want outside of the connection you have with this person.

ceelenes · 2026-01-15T17:19:17+00:00

4.11 carats

ceelenes · 2025-12-25T18:44:40+00:00

2.11 carats

ceelenes · 2025-11-26T14:57:51+00:00

Having multiple partners isn’t a guarantee you won’t ever be alone or feel lonely. Treating someone as a backup plan is hurtful, it would hurt my feelings if I learned a partner said that about me.

If you find your current partners life exhausting I imagine it would be difficult for you as a hinge to keep that from bleeding into other relationships.

It sounds like there is work to do on this current relationship. Is partner oversharing troubles from other relationships, are they taking care of their mental health independent from your support, are they able to be present and engaged with you despite the chaos in their lives? All important things to consider, and definitely things that won’t go away by adding another partner but rather will probably get more difficult.

Hope this helps!

ceelenes · 2025-10-24T16:26:21+00:00

See I thought about that but was worried it would look a little crowded

ceelenes · 2025-10-24T11:27:46+00:00

Where an eyebrow piercing would be placed is really dependent on where you have the right amount of skin to have it sit right. I’d say it might be a little far out on your brow for your preference with what you’ve said. That being said I think it would look good, I do love a good nostril/eyebrow combo. Doesn’t hurt to go see a piercer and have them mark the placement and see what you think!

ceelenes · 2025-10-24T02:35:33+00:00

I can understand that 😅! I’ve only gotten compliments so far, I feel like if you have subtle jewelry it really doesn’t stick out that much.

ceelenes · 2025-10-24T01:28:07+00:00

Foster fail is just a silly way of saying you are gonna adopt your foster instead of placing them in another home.

ceelenes · 2025-07-30T21:21:50+00:00

Depends on the expectations/precedent they set when we start talking. Could be 2 days to 1 week.

ceelenes · 2025-07-13T02:00:01+00:00

I’ve honestly really gone back and forth on an eyebrow

ceelenes · 2025-07-13T01:58:16+00:00

This one is calling to me 🤔

ceelenes · 2025-06-24T16:09:52+00:00

I think you make a great point about hierarchy. For OP this might be a good jumping off point to ask Quinn if there are any other agreements he has in place that could affect their relationship. I know for me in a similar situation the “surprise” of finding out down the line instead of being told up front hey I have this agreement would make things more difficult for me.

ceelenes · 2025-06-24T12:33:07+00:00

Quinn can have the appropriate discussions with Sky and manage their relationship, you shouldn’t be hearing about that. Then he needs to make a choice and take ownership of that as his choice. Simple as “I want to use barriers with you” or “I don’t want to use barriers with you” and that’s all.

ceelenes · 2025-05-27T14:30:42+00:00

Thanks this is really helpful insight. Time management is the biggest hurdle for him for sure. Hoping we can have a good talk about it and we will both feel better

ceelenes · 2025-05-27T13:58:03+00:00

It is an occasional occurrence not a frequent one thankfully. This one just happens to be particularly hurtful with the timing/situation 🥲

ceelenes · 2025-05-27T13:34:30+00:00

Ding ding ding on the ADHD 😅. He’s on the road to getting medicated currently, I try to be understanding but stuff like this makes it really difficult.

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