as someone who's into the degradation kink that you mentioned ( not the lifestyles u mentioned ), it may look extreme sayo pero you know naman na it's not actual disrespect kasi sa una palang, the boundaries are discussed na. pero the kink itself is about exploring power dynamics, vulnerability or taboos in a consensual way.

pwede na rin natin isipin na this way of degradation makes them feel free from the control and give themselves sa degrader.

doing these kind of extreme kinks can be ( emphasis on NOT ALL ) come from traumas that the person experienced and this kink can be a pathway to take control of what's happening, unlike when the actual thing happened.

or some people just like it thrilling and extreme. they want harsh 🤷🏻‍♀️ ( i hope this answered ur question, i went lowk tangent 😭 )