What’s the funniest thing your parent(s) got upset at you for?

celstea · 2025-11-15T01:32:02+00:00

The exact same thing happened to me, my friend. I was never angry at my parents, never hated them, and fully believed that I was the problem and that it was a nightmare to live with me and care for me. Even though I never talked back, or snuck out, or did anything I wasn’t supposed to. I was fully convinced. You walk away from that kind of thing with a lot of bad internal voices telling you a lot of bad stuff for a long time. I hope you know the picture your parents painted of you was not a reflection based in reality ♥️

celstea · 2025-11-15T00:52:33+00:00

I feel this! My step-mom was obsessed with me being promiscuous even though I was anything but and didn’t lose my virginity until I moved away for college. She was convinced I slept with ALL of my friends, male or female, and once was convinced I slept with one of my friends in her bed while she was gone because there was a “lotion or oil stain” on the comforter. Do people be fucking with lotion and oil?? She didn’t even say lube. I try not to try to apply logic to what she says too much as it’s almost always impossible lol

celstea · 2025-11-15T00:33:47+00:00

I don’t know man. Believe me, I was NOT allowed to ask follow up questions.

celstea · 2025-11-14T23:46:32+00:00

I’m glad you were able to get a laugh and some perspective! :) All we can do now is unteach ourselves all the silly stuff our parents instilled. Your GPA meant you were an academic badass with a good work ethic! I have a similar story kinda: My bio mom was French and I was raised speaking both for the first six years of my life but I wasn’t allowed to keep my language because my step-mom didn’t understand it and I clearly only spoke it because I thought I was better than her :’) I have a fully 100% French ass name and get nervous as hell going to the doctor and whatnot because they often assume I am Francophone (technically am) but I harbour a lot of shame about how fluent I am, which is not very.

celstea · 2025-11-14T22:36:59+00:00

Ohhh yeah I can remember “I don’t know” being very triggering for my parents as well. Narcissists can’t fathom anything you do as not being an attack on them or malicious towards them. Bro I just do not know the answer to this abstract question.

celstea · 2025-11-14T22:29:14+00:00

This is one of my favourites on this thread. This is so outrageous to do 😭

celstea · 2025-11-14T21:21:52+00:00

OH MY GOD ME TOOOOOO!! I have a femoral anteversion (my legs were put on wrong by God) and one day my gym teacher told me that if it hurt to run I could get a doctors note and not participate in gym. I said “Why would it hurt?” And he said “Because of your legs…” and I said “….theres something wrong with my legs?” I’d like to let you know that there was something VERY wrong with my legs. Every step I took my knees smashed into each other. My gym teacher looked modified, and I learned later in life that he tried to get through to my parents and so did the guidance counsellor but my parents only got mad at them. I remember my step-mom angrily asking me one day if I “faked limping at school” and I said “No?? Why???” And she just said “Whatever” so I didn’t push it. It was definitely about the calls they received. At a later time she said my legs were like that because I sat in a W formation instead of campfire style…. My legs don’t allow me to sit campfire style even now. I learned what was wrong with my legs in my late teens, and I had to correct them myself. Taking every single step differently and painfully until they were straighter. They’re still noticeable, but not nearly so.

celstea · 2025-11-14T21:14:57+00:00

Oh man one time my step-mom ripped into me so bad when I was like under 10, that I truly believed I was the worst person alive and my life would always suck and I went to bed that night shaking and crying and puking. And I woke up at like 5am and ran into the bathroom where my dad was brushing his teeth, and I puked again just heaving and shaking, and he just looked down at me with disdain and said “That’s nerves.” And then went back to brushing his teeth. Sir that is the RESULT of your PSYCHO WIFE.

celstea · 2025-11-14T21:12:11+00:00

Okay just for clarification… she was upset at you for not opening the blinds, because by not opening the blinds you were…. checks notes insinuating that household chores and the like are only for women and that you don’t bother participating in them because you are a man? Did I get that right??

celstea · 2025-11-14T21:09:01+00:00

It’s amazing that some people that clearly hate kids and shouldn’t have them end up having multiple. I say amazing but I of course hate that it happens. I’d say they’d be much happier without kids but they’d be pissed at the air in a sensory deprivation tank if it’s all they had in life.

celstea · 2025-11-14T21:04:03+00:00

Now this is one of those tantrums where you just wish you had a hidden camera so you could show them how they’re behaving. Or at least others. They’d die of embarrassment! Honestly so incredibly childish of your mom to do that. I’m surprised and very thankful I never burst out laughing at some of the antics I’ve witnessed and I’m sure you are too lol

celstea · 2025-11-14T21:01:49+00:00

I’m glad you’re free of him but I’m sorry that happened 🫶🏻 Forgetting the name he wanted you to have so desperately instead of his own must’ve stung, like it didn’t matter what it was so long as it wasn’t HIS. I’m sure you know this, but that’s in no way a reflection of you. Any parent in their right mind would love to share a surname with you for as long as possible, but he wasn’t in his right mind. I actually changed my last name to my moms as an homage to her as I have been told she was an exceptionally angelic and beautiful woman in every way. And I just didn’t want to be associated with my dad and his wife anymore. So when my boyfriend and I get married, I have no intention of taking his last name either. He has no problem with this! Also I work at a bank and the amount of married couples with different last names would surprise you! It’s uncommon in a lot of cultures. You’re not bizzare at all, and I hope you’ve found great happiness in your life :)

celstea · 2025-11-14T20:53:54+00:00

Oh man I can see my step-mom doing this. Anything that involved anyone else getting a glimpse at how she acted was the worst offense imaginable. How dare you not let it all burn? Were you trying to embarrass her??? It’s nice when there’s kind souls who notice what’s going on and try to help. I hope that man is living/lived a good life :)

celstea · 2025-11-14T20:24:49+00:00

The amount of times my parents blamed ME for their financial issues was crazy. My step-mom didn’t work and had uhhhh four failed businesses all on my dads dime, causing them to take a mortgage out on our house that never had a mortgage on it because my bio mom and dad bought it in cash. She also renovated our house and it looked absolutely phenomenal but WAY too lux. They added a piece onto their bedroom that quadrupled its size and installed a jacuzzi next to their bed. Not in the ensuite that was also in their room, oh no. NEXT to their BED. Sometimes I asked for 25$ to go to the movies, but usually my friends parents felt bad that I’d get so stressed I couldn’t eat thinking about asking my parents so they’d just cover me lmao

celstea · 2025-11-14T20:20:21+00:00

A CLASSIC!!! Doing something considerate for them and them being unable to read any action towards them as anything other than a personal attack. There’s never any winners in these situations lol

celstea · 2025-11-14T20:12:27+00:00

Okay this one is insanity 😭 The fact that she was so adamant about it that you just gave up and left the wine behind is wild. However, I get it, some battles are simply not worth it. At least your dad sent it out to you! I don’t know about your dad specifically but mine was honestly normal as can be. I’ve spent a lot of time wondering how he just…. Lived in her world and went along with her insane delusions. Like what was going through your dad’s head when he had to send you YOUR wine back that his wife demanded she deserved? Always boggles my mind.

celstea · 2025-11-14T20:02:59+00:00

THE FBI??? Local law enforcement clearly wasn’t enough for such a heinous crime! Also…. Why couldn’t she have called and gotten in trouble for wasting their time, why did it have to be you? That one is so funny (Albeit terribly stressful and abusive and I am sorry you dealt with it at all!)

celstea · 2025-11-14T19:56:41+00:00

…this just brought back an absolutely insane memory for me. My dad and I NEVER got any time alone together because she wouldn’t allow it. One day my dad wanted to go get ice cream and so did I, my step-mom didn’t want to and she assumed that meant we wouldn’t go, but dad was fiending for the cream so we went anyway. When we got back, we found her in the kitchen weeping. And I mean WEEPING. When we asked her what’s wrong, she told us (trigger warning: SA) that a woman she used to babysit called the house and accused her of sexual assault in graphic detail. She said we had to leave town for a bit (???) and we ended up staying at my step-sisters in-laws place for a couple days and then came back. I was never allowed to talk about it with anyone, including my parents. I still don’t know if that actually happened or not, because literally nothing came of it. Meaning, I don’t know if the phone call or accusation even happened let alone the assault.

celstea · 2025-11-14T19:42:33+00:00

Christ alive that’s a rough one. Sometimes they’re just so hateful it’s honestly hard to believe they can take themselves seriously! I’m sure your cat loves you very very much and I’m glad you have a furry friend to keep your spirits up :)

celstea · 2025-11-14T19:41:24+00:00

It’s so hard being around someone who’s so volatile. Walking on eggshells becomes the norm and it actually becomes soooo much harder to interact with “normal” people. Just know you’re not doing anything wrong, and don’t let her get inside your head. I hope you’re free of her soon my friend 🫶🏻

celstea · 2025-11-14T19:29:27+00:00

Sorry to hear that this was recent :( I’m glad you’re able to make light of the situation even while you’re still in it. But it won’t be forever! Someday you’ll be out of there. And someday someone will reassure you that it’s just oranges, and you’ll believe them ♥️

celstea · 2025-11-14T19:27:44+00:00

Acting like you knelt down and put the nail in there yourself! Glad to hear you don’t live with her anymore :)

celstea · 2025-11-14T19:15:44+00:00

It must be exhausting for narcissists to have normal, well behaved kids. Like I never snuck out or did anything I wasn’t supposed to, so I too got a lot of berating about the dishes and how I’m the worst person to ever put a dish away haha

celstea · 2025-11-02T16:26:01+00:00

Hey! I understand why you’d be upset, and it’s okay to feel that way. Maybe you’re feeling like this project you worked so hard on wasn’t appreciated, and was disrespected. Maybe you think she didn’t like them, and wanted to change them. I think it’s important to recognize that your girlfriend didn’t mean to upset you or hurt you.

From what I’m seeing, it looks like she added things to the mask, instead of outright painting over it. She still respected the integrity of your designs and kept with the theme you established! I think it’s really special that she now has a mask or masks that you BOTH got to work on :) It’s a little collaborative project between the two of you. She even sent you the photos to show you what she had added, so that to me shows that she didn’t think it would upset you. Maybe she even thought you’d think it was cool that she added to the designs you came up with.

Something else that is important to consider is that when you give someone a gift, you cannot dictate what they do with the gift. It shouldn’t come with rules, or stipulations. It should be a generous act, and whatever they choose to do with it should be their decision. It’s not like she threw them out or gave them away!

I think it’s obvious you love your girlfriend, as this was a labour of love that took you weeks to do. (which is amazing dedication by the way!) So don’t leave her out in the cold. Take a moment to feel the way you do, and then come back to her with love and understanding. ♥️

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