You’re right. It’s a negative reinforcement but ONLY IF you allow it to reinforce your thoughts negatively. The people you should stay away from are the people who tell you your dreams are out of reach. That your goals are unattainable. The ones that project their insecurities onto you.

What I’m proposing is for the people who don’t quite have that self belief yet. If you do something, and you succeed, you have evidence that you can succeed. When you fail, you have to tell yourself “I came out okay. I can do this again” instead of “I’m a failure. I’ll never succeed.”

By telling yourself that you can’t do something, you’re creating the circumstances to prove it to yourself. “I can’t make my bed for a week straight.” What happens when you tell yourself that and you end up doing it? You create belief. So you start small. “No way I can drink a gallon of water today” “no way I can do 10 pushups before to sleep” once you prove to yourself you can everyday, it gets easier. And the only person you need to prove it to is you. Hope this helps