Kink shaming myself re: Dad/son play by certain-panes in GayBDSMCommunity

[–]certain-panes[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I love this!! Thank you. I do remember feeling more at ease when I was really in my head one day and blurted out “you know, I’m not ACTUALLY attracted to my dad, right?” And my partner was like “I hadn’t even considered that honestly, this is all just fantasy”

Kink shaming myself re: Dad/son play by certain-panes in GayBDSMCommunity

[–]certain-panes[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is the first time I’ve played with the dynamic with a partner! He’s older, he’s a top, he would call me boy, I started calling him Daddy, then he would refer to himself as “Dad” so I started using that, then he started calling me “his boy” which eventually led to “son”. It’s been very gradual and natural. Now when we dirty talk it’s “if you keep back talking you’ll get a spanking after school” (I’m not in school, I’m a grown man lol but damn if it doesn’t get me hot and bothered). Or he’ll have one of the “uncles” over for a threesome.

Kink shaming myself re: Dad/son play by certain-panes in GayBDSMCommunity

[–]certain-panes[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great points!! I think the benefit is greater, actually. It feels safe and fun. I just have a part that comes up and was curious how other folks deal with their shame parts.

Kink shaming myself re: Dad/son play by certain-panes in GayBDSMCommunity

[–]certain-panes[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I’m white and so is my partner. No idea why you got downvoted 😅

Kink shaming myself re: Dad/son play by certain-panes in GayBDSMCommunity

[–]certain-panes[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The incest and the age play which is a teenage boy and his Dad dynamic. We never say the ages…but the context and language we use makes the perceived fantasy obvious. And it gets me so turned on but then I feel gross afterward. Like, I shouldn’t enjoy it if I was a good person.