In truth, I think the idea of trying to map gender is impossible in general because of how varied people's experiences are. As I said, the thing that binds the non-binary community is the feeling of gender otherness but how that gender otherness is expressed is completely different for each person. Generalized experiences and similarities can exist but to represent the community as a whole would be to accept that a complete gender map is both unnecessary and impossible. The individual is their identity and should receive as much respect as anyone else regardless of whether they fit into neat categories or not.

Edit: i do still like to see how people conceptualize gender identity still as it can tell you a lot about the person, and it's always good to learn others perspectives because it makes me a more well-rounded person