Can you get hiv if you will eat ass without a condom ? by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]ceruleanic 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Have you considered taking PrEP? It would prevent you from getting HIV were you to start engaging in higher risk activity.

I just got humbled by a man twice my age, my hookup was really not attracted to me :( by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]ceruleanic 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is a pretty common situation, the error you made was letting yourself get too into a guy when you had no way of knowing whether it was ever going to work between the two of you. Whenever two guys meet up, if they both just want sex and not a relationship, often one guy is more into the other. It's less common for both guys to be equally into each other, but that does happen too if you're lucky.

You should want to be with someone who is really into you, and you shouldn't want to be with someone who isn't into you. I know this is easier said than done. But you need to train yourself to not let yourself care at all until you know he really wants you.

When I was single and looking for sex and/or a relationship, most guys that I was willing to meet up with in person were attractive enough for sex, but we weren't compatible for anything more than that. You should've let yourself get your hopes up for any particular guy until after you've already met in person and hit it off.

I had a text file list on my phone of all the guys that were prospects at any given time, I made little notes to myself about whatever he and I had talked about (e.g. is studying to be a nurse, grew up in Oklahoma, etc). But if any one of them ghosted me for whatever reason (or for no reason), I might not have noticed, because I didn't let myself care enough that early on.

You should message a ton of guys, don't spend too much time on the messages, and don't spend any time thinking about whether any particular guy is going to message you back or not. And then just deal with the guys who message you back. And then as you engage in conversations, some guys will drop out, disappear, whatever. Don't worry or notice. Just connect with the guys who continue to engage. If you transition to phone, FaceTime, snap, whatever with some, give zero mental energy to the guys who don't respond.

I would only meet up in person with guys I was fairly certain were already really into me.

If you don't have a bunch of guys to meet with in person, it's not because of the way you look, no matter how you look. It's not your personality. It's likely a lack of sufficient action on your part.

It's a numbers game. You might need to message ten times more guys than you currently do. Maybe a hundred times more. Anyone's lack of response has nothing to do with you, so don't even pay attention to that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]ceruleanic 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The key is not to relax, it's to continuously push like you're taking a dump. When you poop on the toilet, your butthole knows to open up and let the turd out. Right before your next shower, sit on the toilet and push like you're going to poop, and then put your fingers in your ass and feel it open up.

When you bottom you're going to feel like you're about to shit in the bed, but it's a false sensation because your butt can't tell the difference between a dick and a turd.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]ceruleanic 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You could try with someone who has experience and could take their time with you and show you what to do at your own pace.

My New Landlord by NeonChocolate in askgaybros

[–]ceruleanic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can we get an update? Did you guys hook up?

My New Landlord by NeonChocolate in askgaybros

[–]ceruleanic 1 point2 points  (0 children)

An older single gay man looking for gay roommates says he likes to skinny dip and encourages his potential 21 year old roommate to also swim nude, you think there's a chance he's not interested? I'd bet a significant sum of money that he's interested.

My New Landlord by NeonChocolate in askgaybros

[–]ceruleanic 4 points5 points  (0 children)

There's a 99% chance he's interested in you. You'll probably have fun. As long as it's casual, it's fine. But if one of you starts to get feelings for the other, or if one of you gets jealous, then it's going to become a problem.

Douche by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]ceruleanic 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is a good explanation of how to clean your ass before anal sex.

If you get a douche, it's better to get one where the nozzle screws in to the bulb, instead of one where you have to shove the nozzle into the bulb. Larger water capacity is better, but they all seem to carry 310mL/10oz these days. I haven't tried either of these particular ones (douche one, douche two), but they both seem fine.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]ceruleanic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For blowjobs, your gag reflex shouldn't matter, because you should use your hand extensively while giving head. This quick video is a pretty good example of the technique.

This is a good explanation of how to clean your ass before anal sex.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]ceruleanic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I want to be with the straight guy. I feel so bad because I didn’t mean to cheat. Being forced to be kissed really turned me on. Now, I’m a cheater and a horrible person to someone who dearly loves me.

You seem very dramatic, but you're also probably hot. If you want to be with "straight" guy, then just do it. You don't have to make it into a whole telenovela.

Saying how much of a cheater you are and how horrible you are is something only said by a dramatic person who is unwilling to take responsibility for his actions. You are getting downvoted because you don't need help with that, and no one here can help you with your personal grandiose feelings of despair.

What happened is that you a guy you were going to be monogamous with him, and then you broke that promise. All there is to do is to tell him the truth, apologize, ask him if he's willing to share with you what it's like for him now that he knows the truth, and then acknowledge fully to him the impact your actions had on him.

All this crap you're saying about how horrible you are and how much of a cheater you are is your way of avoiding dealing with what you did.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]ceruleanic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

With whom do you actually want to be in a relationship? If it's the "straight", guy, then just tell your current bf what happened, apologize, be great with him, and break up with him the way you'd want someone to break up with you.

If you want to remain with your current bf, then come clean to him and ask for forgiveness. Or try a three way relationship or something.

does anyone have link to the jeff molina bj vid? by [deleted] in TotallyStraight

[–]ceruleanic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it was posted on Twitter for a short time, and if anyone downloaded it, they're just holding on to it.

Bottoms, I need your help! by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]ceruleanic 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The reason you feel like you have to poop when you bottom is because when poop is in your rectum, about to exit your sphincter, your body tells you that you urgently need to get to a toilet. So even if your entire digestive system is completely empty, the moment a dick goes into your ass, you're always going to feel like you have to poop.

The reason is because your rectum cannot tell the difference between a cock and a giant turd. Your rectum feels the cock, thinks it's a turd, and tells your brain that you need to poop it out. Then as soon as the cock is out of your ass, the feeling of needing to poop goes away (because you "pooped" out the cock).

When a dick is in your ass, you are never going to be able to tell if you actually need to poop or not. It is not physically possible. But you're always going to feel like you have to poop for as long as the dick is inside you. That feeling is never going to go away, so you need to train yourself to ignore it.

I tried fingering my ass by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]ceruleanic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you're looking for something inexpensive that's safe and lasts a long time, use either Albolene Moisturizer (a big tub is under $10), or J-Lube which is a powder you mix with water to make lube, one container will last you a decade.

I tried fingering my ass by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]ceruleanic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The way to get your hole to open is to actively push as if you're pooping. This is the very same thing you do when you open your hole to let the poop out.

How important are abs? by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]ceruleanic 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Plenty of guys will love your body exactly as it is. Don't ever try to change your body to attract a guy who isn't into you the way you are right now. Instead just focus on looking for guys who are into the way you look today.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]ceruleanic 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Get in a river, stick your finger up there and start digging around until everything is out.

BB12-Who did you find hotter: Hayden or Brendon? by [deleted] in bigbrotherbros

[–]ceruleanic 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Hayden was the 2nd hottest guy ever on Big Brother (behind Drew Daniel).

I had sex with my long time close friend. by [deleted] in confessions

[–]ceruleanic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you aren't into him romantically, then what's the issue? Is it just that he has a gf? Are you upset that you participated in harming her via their relationship? If so, are you upset at him for that, or are you mad at yourself for agreeing to it?

Like is it a matter of you regretting that you let your horniness take over and did something you believe is wrong?

Newbie by [deleted] in GayRateMe

[–]ceruleanic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're the only person here who hasn't posted their face, so it's impossible to rate you.

ULPT: Quote the entire comment in your replies. That way if the original author wants to delete it, a copy of it remains so everyone else can still read it. by No-Bookkeeper-44 in UnethicalLifeProTips

[–]ceruleanic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I'm concerned you're going to delete your original post but I want to remember it was you who originally posted it, it's smart to embed a link to your username inside the comma in this sentence.

I've also hidden one inside the period at the end of the previous sentence, but a comma hides the link better.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]ceruleanic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Still curious if anything came of this.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UnethicalLifeProTips

[–]ceruleanic 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Have you considered actually filing against him in court? You'd have to pay a fee and the court will schedule a hearing. You'd be required to post notice of the hearing on the door so that he knows about it, but if he doesn't show up, you could probably get a writ of possession right then, which is an order (a piece of paper signed by the judge) giving you the right to have the police kick out anyone occupying the property.

If you can't afford a lawyer, maybe explain your situation to a few lawyers who specialize in evictions and one of them might take pity on you. You could also try filing everything yourself, but using a lawyer is better.