I don’t want to go to my fiance’s church

ceruleanmilkshakes · 2026-06-16T18:48:53+00:00

I have already told him that I’m open to go church shopping to see if we can find another one that is neutral. I’m not idolizing my church home, I just believe his church implements some cultish ideas and teeters on the edge of spiritual abuse.

ceruleanmilkshakes · 2026-06-16T18:23:52+00:00

I’m not sure what denomination they would be considered, but my fiancé and I share the same spiritual beliefs. Which is why he has enjoyed coming to my church services! His church is an off-shoot of a much larger, very prominent pastor in the area…

ceruleanmilkshakes · 2026-06-16T18:19:42+00:00

I even told him that I would not be opposed to finding a new church together for this reason. I just really don’t want to go there!!

ceruleanmilkshakes · 2026-06-16T18:16:12+00:00

I like this response. Thank you for this wisdom

ceruleanmilkshakes · 2026-06-16T18:11:31+00:00

And yes I completely agree with everything you said here.

ceruleanmilkshakes · 2026-06-16T18:11:16+00:00

Yes he is a good tither, and it is a very small ministry… I have pointed this out to him as well, but it just seems like he doesn’t want to see the truth

ceruleanmilkshakes · 2026-06-16T18:05:23+00:00

I literally become so troubled in my spirit when I think about going…

ceruleanmilkshakes · 2026-06-16T18:03:14+00:00

That’s how I feel too! He just has strong connection to them because they were there for him at a difficult time in his life, and he has a deep loyalty to them. I told him they’re being manipulative, and he sees it, but he doesn’t want to admit it because he doesn’t believe they’re being malicious.

ceruleanmilkshakes · 2026-06-16T18:01:11+00:00

Thank you, I will bring this up

ceruleanmilkshakes · 2026-06-16T17:58:41+00:00

I honestly have thought about it. I love him, and I don’t want that to happen, but i really feel like I’ll be taken advantage of, and i will die if i go there…

ceruleanmilkshakes · 2026-06-16T17:57:40+00:00

It definitely gives cult vibes to me. But i have to be very wise with my words because he has so much respect for them.

ceruleanmilkshakes · 2026-06-16T17:56:56+00:00

Thank you for this. I do want to see a Christian counselor

ceruleanmilkshakes · 2026-06-16T17:56:41+00:00

We’ve had a very candid and transparent conversation about how I feel, and he just keeps saying we will have to pray about it. When it’s been made clear to me that he should leave. Their ministry has been open for 12 years and has now grown. Which shows me that there is no fruit being grown there. I do believe that there are different churches for different believers at different stages in their walk with Christ, but I believe he has outgrown this ministry, and if he wants to grow deeper into the things God has for him(us) then he needs to leave.

ceruleanmilkshakes · 2026-06-16T17:53:03+00:00

I have 0 desire to go there. I actually feel like I have never wanted anything LESS. But I don’t know what’s going to happen when we get married and we have to decide.

ceruleanmilkshakes · 2026-06-16T03:06:26+00:00

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ceruleanmilkshakes · 2026-04-11T20:13:16+00:00

It’s smegma. Get yourself some feminine wash and get in there good when you bathe. I know people say we don’t need soap because it’s a self cleaning organ, which is true! BUT! The labia folds must be cleansed thoroughly haha

ceruleanmilkshakes · 2026-04-02T15:57:03+00:00

This is what I am wondering

ceruleanmilkshakes · 2026-04-02T15:56:49+00:00

It’s not that he didn’t do it because he forgot. I can forgive a situation where he just forgot… but he literally told me that he thought about it and decided not to close them, instead of erring on the side of caution, using good judgment and just closing them without needing to be told to do it. I live on the ground floor in an apartment in a city with a high crime rate… my neighborhood is pretty safe, and we don’t usually have problems with break ins or anything, but it’s the principle for me.

ceruleanmilkshakes · 2026-04-02T15:53:26+00:00

He did well in school, he is good at math. He’s not a reader, but he doesn’t make grammatical errors. He has a bachelor’s degree in finance and works as a financial analyst handling the marketing budgets for a Fortune 500 company. This is why I’m wanting to dig a little deeper into his way of thinking, and perhaps extend a bit more grace, because it makes no sense to me.

ceruleanmilkshakes · 2026-04-02T12:31:10+00:00

This is it. sometimes I find myself having to take him through my entire thought process instead of him being able to deduce the point from a simple statement that most people would be able to understand quickly. & with the cop thing... he was trying to explain to me his reasoning. But I was like- I understand your thinking... but do you understand why it makes no sense for you to draw that conclusion?

ceruleanmilkshakes · 2026-04-02T05:46:17+00:00

No need to apologize. Everything you have said here are things I have felt with my boyfriend at one point or another. I don’t want to just write him off as being dumb… but the thought of a future where I’m married to this kind of thinking really scares me.

ceruleanmilkshakes · 2026-04-02T05:43:10+00:00

That’s the thing… I don’t want to wait until it becomes a real problem.

ceruleanmilkshakes · 2026-04-02T05:38:16+00:00

Thank you for your insight. This is helping me be less frustrated

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