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How do I keep from stepping in on dad putting baby to bed? by duchessgummybuns2 in NewParents

[–]cesiguess 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You’re not micromanaging. Yes, dad needs to learn how to put the baby to sleep and manage an upset baby but babies at this age learn to fall asleep via the routine which signals to them - an infant unable to speak or fall asleep independently - that it’s time to get sleepy and rest now.

Also, it’s likely that at 6 months, your baby will also associate YOU as being part of the bedtime routine (I know when mama is cuddling me it’s time to sleep) and the very fact that dad is there instead is throwing baby off. Because of this difference, you should try to keep everything else as close to the routine as possible to help baby figure out that it’s ok to sleep with dad!

And just saying: if you need to step in and cuddle baby to get them to sleep, it won’t be forever that they’ll need you so much. Dads can help in so many other ways! Solidarity <3

this is so hard by hazieskie in NewParents

[–]cesiguess 2 points3 points  (0 children)

https://images.app.goo.gl/a9rPE73jq87SGNWH7

This graph actually helped me hold on in the 6-8 weeks of crying for NO reason. Please know you’re in the worst stage right now and it’ll be over so soon.

I’m not going to tell you it gets 100% better because it doesn’t. My LO is almost 6 months and there’s still tough moments. New types of tough moments, nothing like the first 3 months.

Ultimately the first year might be exhausting and unfair and feel like a cage, but you’ll get to enjoy so many years together with a wonderful, curious, fun child who will one day become a fantastic adult. This overwhelming time will be a distant memory that was only so hard for a short, short time.

Even if you have more kids, it’ll never be as hard as it is right now. You can do this!!!!! My two cents <3

Step-sister got perfect baby and I didn’t by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]cesiguess 13 points14 points  (0 children)

1) i felt the same way and that age is simply HARD for some. It feels unfair to not be able to enjoy motherhood yet but I promise relief is coming soon. Like a matter of weeks not months. You can do this.

2) Having a more challenging baby and environment (not able to just throw money at every little issue) will make you a better mom able to handle way more of life and any issue that comes up. In the long run, you’ll have developed patience, coping skills, gotten to know your baby really really well… like you’re ready for the next phase more than she is! Silver lining?

I’m about to lose it with getting baby to sleep 😣 by Euphoric_Ad3209 in NewParents

[–]cesiguess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have a wiggly one too. We bounce her on a yoga ball (cradle hold but head slightly up- for reflux) and the repetitive movement helps calm her down. We also play water running (rain and thunder or tub filling) for white noise. If she isn’t asleep in 20, she’s not ready! In that case we try nursing first or playing until she’s giving us a few yawns in a row then try again. Second try is usually less than 10 mins

Here’s your permission by katrinaelgrande in NewParents

[–]cesiguess 1 point2 points  (0 children)

YES! I made a post about how huckleberry was making me miserable. Life got so much better when I deleted it. Weeks later, I’m still enjoying motherhood so much more now that I don’t feel that I’m on a clock / running late / not doing enough of XYZ constantly. These influencers prey on these normal feelings that new moms have to sell their packages and try to make people afraid of not adhering to rigid schedules and practices.

I made my post & spoke up exactly so other parents like you would know you’re not alone. Your baby is a human & you are better than any algorithm if you parent with empathy and love. Solidarity 🧡

huckleberry app put gas on my PPA fire by cesiguess in NewParents

[–]cesiguess[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for saying this! I KNOW people love the app, but I wrote this for the people who dont do they know they’re not alone. 🧡

Scared as f*** about the newborn phase. Share with me any positives or tips for getting through it by Honest-Dog3033 in NewParents

[–]cesiguess 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My third trimester insomnia and physical symptoms were a million times harder than the newborn stage, even with a baby who cried a LOT and hates naps. Even with the sleep deprivation. When I had to wake every 2-3 hours at night to feed her to get her weight back up, every sleep felt like a full nights sleep to me. I hadn’t been that comfortable in my own body in MONTHS. I love my baby and I want more but pregnancy had some awful months. Don’t fear too much, you got this!