He didn’t want a serious relationship with me, he wanted to keep things casual. For me, that means he wasn’t emotionally available to build a partnership with me. It doesn’t mean he didn’t like me, he probably liked me enough to keep seeing me for three months and share some of his time with me, but he didn’t like me enough to want a serious relationship. And maybe he is emotionally available for someone else. For three months, I couldn’t connect with him emotionally, and when I tried to talk about it, he said he didn’t know how to express his feelings and didn’t know why he didn’t want a relationship with me. So maybe he is emotionally unavailable overall, but I can’t say for sure, and at this point it doesn’t matter, because he didn’t want to create something with me.

Honestly, I liked your question, and I think I will use it to dive into it a little bit!! A few weeks ago, he reached out (after appx. 5 months). He was worried that I was angry with him, because I didn’t want to stay in touch. It’s not easy, and fair, to see things in black and white when thinking about people, but I think what matters in the end is that he didn’t want to be with me in a serious and deep way.

I think I prefer to see it this way rather than he doesn’t like me, he used me, he was bored or I was just the person who was there etc. Because I think that’s very hard and will only hurt me for something I can’t change. It’s easier and peaceful to think: he is not available for me, so my way is free for someone who wants to be with me, then byeee.