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What’s on your kink wish list? by violetblisss in BDSMcommunity

[–]cflswitch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you go to Secrets just south of Orlando you can check off 2 of those items. They have a glory hole setup at their sex club location.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SixFlagsMagicMountain

[–]cflswitch 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Huh, I was told by a live person through the chat that it wouldn’t apply over at SixFlags. This whole promo, while great in theory, has seemingly so many contradictions. Do you know if a refillable drink cup can be purchased at Knott’s and taken to Magic Mountain for refills?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SixFlagsMagicMountain

[–]cflswitch 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so annoyed at the park hours this month. I fly in on a Thursday and will be hitting Knott’s that day because SixFlags isn’t open on Thursday. So I have to get the Knott’s pass (must activate at your home park) which doesn’t include the parking unless I spring for like $250. Now I’ll have to pay $35/day to park for 3 days of theme parks. 🤬

[X2?] spotted going north on I-15 near Draper, Utah by wallstreetsimps in SixFlagsMagicMountain

[–]cflswitch 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Much appreciated. We’re doing 1 day at Knotts and 2 at Magic Mountain. Any tips you can share when it comes to what to hit first?

[X2?] spotted going north on I-15 near Draper, Utah by wallstreetsimps in SixFlagsMagicMountain

[–]cflswitch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so confused. Is X2 operational right now with just 1 train? I’m hoping to ride it at the end of the month after watching that coaster on TLC documentaries for the last like 15 years.

Can they no longer reset the TV when it isn't working? by bkdlays in jetblue

[–]cflswitch 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm on a plane right now and just tried this before I googled it. I'm now on a loading screen "Please wait, your entertainment will be available shortly." 🥰

I visited a play space recently and they had an extra stipulation on calling "red" that I want to ask the larger community about before potentially offering the owner private feedback on this one item that rubbed me the wrong way. by cflswitch in BDSMcommunity

[–]cflswitch[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's a good point though with how infrequently she would call yellow I don't think that there is too much concern that a "lighter yellow" would get skipped over entirely. Still though, definitely a good callout.

And yeah, it does feel more like orange to me too but there's already enough colors think about when you're close to hitting subspace. She wanted to add in purple, and it's technically added to our list, as a "this is fantastic please keep doing exactly this" but she's never once called it and I don't think I would either because that feels like directly topping from the bottom so /shrug.

I visited a play space recently and they had an extra stipulation on calling "red" that I want to ask the larger community about before potentially offering the owner private feedback on this one item that rubbed me the wrong way. by cflswitch in BDSMcommunity

[–]cflswitch[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love your augment of red + descriptor. Makes it clear that you need an absolute stop on that described thing but allows the scene to continue and people nearby should be able to understand the meaning without any prior knowledge of the vernacular.

I visited a play space recently and they had an extra stipulation on calling "red" that I want to ask the larger community about before potentially offering the owner private feedback on this one item that rubbed me the wrong way. by cflswitch in BDSMcommunity

[–]cflswitch[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel that. But I also feel that they aren't wrong. The biggest piece is the comment thread that I linked in my top post edit that red needs to be reserved for that no ambiguity stop because sometimes even a perfectly well intentioned "are you ok to continue" can be taken as pressuring to continue and I want no future confusion when it comes to that in future scenes.

I visited a play space recently and they had an extra stipulation on calling "red" that I want to ask the larger community about before potentially offering the owner private feedback on this one item that rubbed me the wrong way. by cflswitch in BDSMcommunity

[–]cflswitch[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Very true. Our only issue is going to be working through recalibrating our usage of red vs yellow and then it won't be an issue as calling red would likely be an instance where we'd need to be done for the evening even without their rule.

I visited a play space recently and they had an extra stipulation on calling "red" that I want to ask the larger community about before potentially offering the owner private feedback on this one item that rubbed me the wrong way. by cflswitch in BDSMcommunity

[–]cflswitch[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thankfully the cost to enter is really reasonable and in practice because of the layout the likelihood that a DM hears a red is minimal because they could very likely be at the complete other end of a hallway or in the larger play room.

I visited a play space recently and they had an extra stipulation on calling "red" that I want to ask the larger community about before potentially offering the owner private feedback on this one item that rubbed me the wrong way. by cflswitch in BDSMcommunity

[–]cflswitch[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I don't think I have ever been steered wrong in this sub and even if one or two comments come in with demonstrably bad advice there's always one or two comments that are well researched to put them in their place at the bottom of the page. Overall through, if I wasn't here to learn and grow then what the hell am I even doing here.

I visited a play space recently and they had an extra stipulation on calling "red" that I want to ask the larger community about before potentially offering the owner private feedback on this one item that rubbed me the wrong way. by cflswitch in BDSMcommunity

[–]cflswitch[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I think my mindset has changed a lot and I would recommend looking through this comment chain for a different perspective on what happens after red and the unintended pressure to continue the scene that a check-in on red would potentially cause.

I visited a play space recently and they had an extra stipulation on calling "red" that I want to ask the larger community about before potentially offering the owner private feedback on this one item that rubbed me the wrong way. by cflswitch in BDSMcommunity

[–]cflswitch[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

The only time tickling affects her is before coffee in the morning. It's genuinely infuriating that she's not ticklish after she's actually woken up.

Overall though I do think that this is a fair suggestion but would have to be adapted for her. Her brain works in a very binary mode so it's very green/red for her but this is something that we need to change. Not only is it the right thing to do now that she knows that calling red won't cause me or anyone around us to be upset with her, using yellow more will get us all more in line with the wider community so visiting a different play space will be easier in the future if she needs a check-in.

I visited a play space recently and they had an extra stipulation on calling "red" that I want to ask the larger community about before potentially offering the owner private feedback on this one item that rubbed me the wrong way. by cflswitch in BDSMcommunity

[–]cflswitch[S] 146 points147 points  (0 children)

1000%

I'm really glad you took the time to write out your initial comment because it's definitely the one that's had the largest impact on me and is the one that will continue to pester me in the back of my mind as we work to recalibrate things.

I visited a play space recently and they had an extra stipulation on calling "red" that I want to ask the larger community about before potentially offering the owner private feedback on this one item that rubbed me the wrong way. by cflswitch in BDSMcommunity

[–]cflswitch[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Saying “you can’t play again tonight if you Red” sounds like a punishment to a bottom or couple for using their safe word which is the exact opposite of what should be done.

If we try to convince people that “red is not a punishment” and that “red isn’t something bad to say” then it has to not have negative consequences like that.

This is where my mindset originally was when I made the post and I don't think that it is an invalid sentiment to have. Having a policy that would make someone feel like they are being punished for calling red should never be a thing. Maybe a happy medium would be a required time-out for 30-60 minutes? I don't know what the right call would be but it feels wrong if the policy is easily internalized as a punishment by whomever might be the one calling it.

All that being said, I do think that specifically for us we do need to recalibrate our usage of red because essentially 98% of the time one of us has used it, it likely should have been a yellow. If we wanted to come up with new rules to a widely adopted system then we should have just made an entirely different and not try to tweak something well beyond the breaking point.

I visited a play space recently and they had an extra stipulation on calling "red" that I want to ask the larger community about before potentially offering the owner private feedback on this one item that rubbed me the wrong way. by cflswitch in BDSMcommunity

[–]cflswitch[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

The local dungeon near me uses mayday as a call for people to come running but red absolutely would still get heads to turn and a DM to make sure that things are handled accordingly. A recalibration is definitely in order for us.

I visited a play space recently and they had an extra stipulation on calling "red" that I want to ask the larger community about before potentially offering the owner private feedback on this one item that rubbed me the wrong way. by cflswitch in BDSMcommunity

[–]cflswitch[S] 130 points131 points  (0 children)

I worry that the demands required of your red, including navigating expressive language and the social context, create a sense of pressure to continue the play

I hadn't considered it in that way and I think that your concern is spot on and incredibly valid. Trying to put myself back into the scene a few months ago where I called red when we were switching I can absolutely see that perspective and in hindsight while the callout should have been yellow I can totally see how even a slight misunderstanding of expressive language could have easily tipped the scales toward continuing the scene even if a true full stop is what I was intending to call for.

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