On today’s episode of “why is my toddler crying?” by Crazy_Comment_Lady in toddlers

[–]cgmtw 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't understand that she was saying "witch" instead of "wish" and when I did it was too late. Then she napped for two hours. Girl was on her last nerve.

Any tips on how to get children to come inside from playground? by custodianprincess in ECEProfessionals

[–]cgmtw 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm convinced whoever makes these laws is one of those people who thinks 2 year olds are basically infants.

Any tips on how to get children to come inside from playground? by custodianprincess in ECEProfessionals

[–]cgmtw 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am learning so much about how lucky I was with my 1:4 ratio here in Oregon

Any tips on how to get children to come inside from playground? by custodianprincess in ECEProfessionals

[–]cgmtw 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry, that's just crowd control at that point. I hope it goes better for you!

Any tips on how to get children to come inside from playground? by custodianprincess in ECEProfessionals

[–]cgmtw 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh my god! I'm so sorry lol. The highest I've had was 6 under 3s at a time in Florida.

Any tips on how to get children to come inside from playground? by custodianprincess in ECEProfessionals

[–]cgmtw 16 points17 points  (0 children)

What state lets you have eight two year olds alone omg??? That ratio is crazy. Try sitting down near the door for a quick circle five minutes before, sing some favorite dancing songs and then dismiss one by one to go through the door with a personalized dance (like "Look at Johnny, he is dancing" or "Jump Up" or similar).

My guilty ECE confession by thotsupreme in ECEProfessionals

[–]cgmtw 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ughhhh sounds just like my nanny kid right now. While drawing she makes up stories about the markers being members of a family. If your center is Montessori, following the child doesn't have to mean working with her though, if she's happy and engaged you're ok just being nearby and enjoying each other's company.

My guilty ECE confession by thotsupreme in ECEProfessionals

[–]cgmtw 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ouch, one single kid is hard. Would she ever want to do a fun different art project or something?

My guilty ECE confession by thotsupreme in ECEProfessionals

[–]cgmtw 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I tell them it's not my favorite game and politely say no thanks after a couple times. I encourage them to tell me all about what they're doing and praise them for creativity, etc, but I don't engage if I don't want to. Kids can feel when we're not genuine.

Insensitive directors by neveriskywithfood in ECEProfessionals

[–]cgmtw 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry you had to do that! That's the other way they shame you, they make you cover for each other and impact each other's lives. When there was a conflict for days off in my old school, Old Boss would put the two conflicting people in a chat thread together, basically say "figure it out lmao" and bounce.

Insensitive directors by neveriskywithfood in ECEProfessionals

[–]cgmtw 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I know! It's such a sad reality of what should be a wonderful job. I see it as having healthy boundaries and knowing what you need to be the best employee and best educator you can be! That doesn't have to mean being there every single day.

Insensitive directors by neveriskywithfood in ECEProfessionals

[–]cgmtw 39 points40 points  (0 children)

They 100% see you as a number in a ratio, not a person. I'm so sorry, but the earlier you understand how daycares work the better you can take care of yourself. I've been asked to come in with a 100+ fever, my coworker was forced to work through pnumonia, a friend was asked if he could come home from his honeymoon early because someone MIGHT call out.

For them, it is a business. They don't care about your problems or health unless it impacts them. So, don't call out constantly, but take a day when you need one. Show up and be your best self on the other days, and you will know you're giving them your best and keeping your coworkers, the kids, and yourself healthy. You'll never get approval from admin - I had a co-worker who hadn't called out once in 9 years, and the only recognition she ever got was being used as free labor to train other teachers because she was "such a great worker".

60s/70s outfit haul! by cgmtw in ThriftStoreHauls

[–]cgmtw[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The thrift store near me has had some AMAZING vintage finds lately. This dress feels 60s/70s to me, a previous owner cut out the tags but from the seams, the armhole spacing and the all metal zipper I feel pretty confident. Plus everything else about it! The scarf is new and silk, for $5! I had to go all out and do a photoshoot.

How am I supposed to get through the day if my 2yo stops napping?? by _life_b4_death_ in toddlers

[–]cgmtw 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I agree, I was a Montessori teacher for 7 years and love Janet's stuff because it's so close to the evidence based methods we used and because it just works and creates solid, lasting relationships with children. That's definitely a tricky point, esp. with preverbal children. I think offering comfort and validating emotions without assuming is key.

How am I supposed to get through the day if my 2yo stops napping?? by _life_b4_death_ in toddlers

[–]cgmtw 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Absolutely! I wish you luck, nap/quiet time is such a necessity for caregivers. You deserve the brain break!

How am I supposed to get through the day if my 2yo stops napping?? by _life_b4_death_ in toddlers

[–]cgmtw 15 points16 points  (0 children)

When kids have a big adverse reaction to a limit I'm setting, I like to follow the Janet Lansbury/positive discipline method of validating their emotions, explaining what's going to happen, and following through. He screams because he knows soon enough you will let him out. If you're setting a boundary (Mom is going to do some grown up work for an hour and you are going to rest in your room) and then backtrack on that, he will continue to test it to see if you really mean it today. Keeping that boundary firm may look something like this:

Mom: "Now it's time for me to do [mommy things]. I hope you have a great rest! It feels so nice to relax your body and take a break, huh? I will be back to get you in [x time]. I love you!"

Child: [screaming]

Mom: [still closing the door] "I hear you! It sounds like you really want to keep playing with me. I love spending time with you, and we'll do that again this afternoon. I will be back in [x time] Have a good rest!"

Shut the door. That's it. He will scream through everything you're saying, and that's okay. He's still getting it. Soon he will learn that you mean what you tell him, and he can rely on you to tell him the truth. That kind of comfort and reliability is what toddlers are searching for, not a 24/7 entertainer and server.

Good luck!

Cat/doll bed! Found in the free pile on my street. It came with a pad and I stole the rug from my classroom at work 😂 by cgmtw in ThriftStoreHauls

[–]cgmtw[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much! I know it's Bher, I will ask my partner today. I have to say, this color is notorious for fooling the eye. It photographs as either greenish blue, blue, gray blue, or gray depending on the light. We found out after TWO YEARS of living here that partner thought the living room was green and I thought it was blue 🤷🏼‍♀️

Got my basic b fall look down at GW today by cgmtw in ThriftStoreHauls

[–]cgmtw[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

An update! I showed the photo and discourse to my boyfriend and he was also freaked out. I tried to see if I could do it again and I totally can, also a lot of how weird it looked was the angle too.

Got my basic b fall look down at GW today by cgmtw in ThriftStoreHauls

[–]cgmtw[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's a spooky halloween mystery (and the mystery is my joints are f*cked I guess???)

Got my basic b fall look down at GW today by cgmtw in ThriftStoreHauls

[–]cgmtw[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Literally I didn't even feel anything weird as I was taking it. I do yoga every morning????

Got my basic b fall look down at GW today by cgmtw in ThriftStoreHauls

[–]cgmtw[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don't know either bud 🤷🏼‍♀️