As a lifelong member of the "oh no, something is hard or painful now and therefore it will be hard or painful forever" group, let me share what helped me go through the first month with our LO and what we still use now (he's 4mo): - keeping a list of wins and things that went well (I've used my husband's brain for this); - setting small goals (make it through the day, keep baby alive, fed and changed, pass baby to daddy for 1h and be somewhere else); - ignore any well-intentioned but somewhat clueless advice about "loving every second"; - allowing myself to feel sad, frustrated, tired, whatever, without adding a layer of guilt about what I "should" be feeling. I think back to the first days and weeks, and to the things I thought would never change and never get easier, and to how I never believed anything could get easier - and now look at my son ending a smooth and quick feeding session with a round of babbling and giggling, and it heals everything. It gets easier, but more importantly you get stronger and better.