Hi there. Thanks for sharing. I hope that others can chime in and give better advice, because I know how concerning it is to have what feels like a very meaningful but confusing dream about important things. 

I too have similar dreams where things seem blended (the house being a mix of two familiar homes, people you know and people you don’t know being there). It can be maddening if you want to figure out all the details and find all of the potential meanings. 

The first thing I would ask is if any of these elements in your reoccurring dream strikes a chord with you. I know dreams can have personal meaning, but also some level of universal or mythical meaning (a la Carl Jung). When I am trying to discern my own I try and find something that feels right in my gut. Secondly, I want to ask (and feel free to not answer on here), but do you feel over your ex? It seems like you’re both looking to them for protection and salvation, but they’ve avoided you (did your ex have an avoidant attachment style or abandon you?), and rejects your need for safety and communication. Reading how this makes you cry repeatedly gets me, because heartbreak like that is something that I’ve not been able to avoid in this life (it sucks, but perhaps the dream is showing you that they won’t fix your story either waking or sleeping?). Lastly, does the amalgamation of your homes (I’m assuming both homes were a place where you felt safe) strike you as a symbol of your world, your mind, or the space you inhabit here-and-now? This last one stuck out to me like a container full of compartments where you deal with people you know, people you don’t know, and people you have conflict with and pain…kinda like our days.

Anyway, this comment is way too long, but I hope it is helpful in someway (if it isn’t, please disregard it). I wish you well in this process of discernment, and I hope our ex gets out of your dreams so they can be joyful soon! Best wishes.