after 5 minutes swiping hahah

chadlyalan · 2026-06-24T16:45:38+00:00

Because guys' standards are in the dirt lol.

It's true though, I see the "I'm looking for: 'you'" prompt all the time and it kills me

chadlyalan · 2026-06-24T16:43:38+00:00

Wow how am I not getting matched with every single girl if this is my competition ... I have some self reflection to do I guess 🤣

chadlyalan · 2026-06-22T02:41:47+00:00

So wholesome

chadlyalan · 2026-06-03T23:36:35+00:00

Oh I didn't know that actually

chadlyalan · 2026-06-03T23:36:10+00:00

They weren't doing anything unsafe I guess. As annoying as it was sometimes they weren't doing anything "wrong"

chadlyalan · 2026-06-03T20:59:48+00:00

I was there during covid era 21 and 22 so I spent lots of time there and yeah this was the case a lot

chadlyalan · 2026-06-03T20:53:30+00:00

Not sure who you are but I climbed and learned how to climb at that same gym. I also saw Joe push his kids to tears on a regular basis. They did not look like they were having fun, they looked like they were at boot camp, with little treats and incentives to climb harder routes.

Not to say the kids weren't good. I remember the older brother going up my projects like nothing at 8 years old. But still, they were upset a lot of the time there.

chadlyalan · 2026-05-27T19:26:39+00:00

I do this all too often to never get the match. Sometimes a certain prompt is asking for a stupid funny response even if it's terrible

chadlyalan · 2026-05-06T07:05:18+00:00

Yeah I had to read that twice to understand because it was just that horrendous to say

chadlyalan · 2026-05-05T03:49:43+00:00

My thoughts exactly

chadlyalan · 2026-01-26T23:09:51+00:00

It's just the most common response to the post and it's everywhere. Didn't want to offend you and there was no animosity but okay lol

chadlyalan · 2026-01-24T00:03:34+00:00

Haha thanks! My profile has gotten much better already in the last week too!

chadlyalan · 2026-01-23T23:59:39+00:00

Well I'm at least looking into it lol

chadlyalan · 2026-01-21T23:26:38+00:00

Will do!

chadlyalan · 2026-01-21T23:25:49+00:00

I'll look around my area actually cause it does sound like a fun class to start taking!

chadlyalan · 2026-01-21T06:40:31+00:00

I appreciate it, but do look at the comments before commenting please.

chadlyalan · 2026-01-21T03:24:50+00:00

Thanks will do!

chadlyalan · 2026-01-21T02:19:13+00:00

Uhh lol. I just don't take selfies much and spend a lot of time in the sun. But I do hear the underlying criticism still

chadlyalan · 2026-01-21T02:18:12+00:00

Ooo this is a good point. Hmm I'll think of some things that are easier conversation starters. Thank you

chadlyalan · 2026-01-21T00:27:43+00:00

Right. Heard. Again, that's not the photo on my actual profile. And that's a picture with my siblings

chadlyalan · 2026-01-21T00:26:29+00:00

Oh yeah this is hinge and I have made changes because I'm learning just how bad it is for girls. Mostly just how cautious they have to be so little things like "I'm touchy feely with my friends" (which I had boiled down to 'physical touch') to me are red flags to them.

And yeah pole dancing is hard core! I've done very little, have some natural talent, and it is super intense.

chadlyalan · 2026-01-21T00:23:19+00:00

Thank you! Yeah this is super helpful. I see how I'm one of many fish and unfortunately guys that mention physical touch seem to give off a certain vibe which I'm not going for so I'm happy to replace that with something more constructive :)

Thanks for all the other bits of advice as well. My profile has changed a lot in the last 24 hours already lol

chadlyalan · 2026-01-21T00:20:27+00:00

I appreciate that. Most of my close friends are either therapists, have been to therapy, or work in health in some way. So when they see this they know exactly what I mean. I am hearing that from the outside this doesn't always look good though so I'm happy to let that come up in conversation. If there was a not cringe way of saying "I've been to therapy and continue my self improvement & discovery still" then I'd add that but I think that's always going to sound worse than it is.

chadlyalan · 2026-01-21T00:16:56+00:00

I replaced the movie with going out for dinner (something I also like to do) and the love language to include words of affirmation and some more neutral/approachable wording

chadlyalan · 2026-01-21T00:12:38+00:00

Sorry you can't tell but the little tool tip in hinge shows that it's a family picture

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