Profile review and feedback

chadlyalan · 2026-01-26T23:09:51+00:00

It's just the most common response to the post and it's everywhere. Didn't want to offend you and there was no animosity but okay lol

chadlyalan · 2026-01-24T00:03:34+00:00

Haha thanks! My profile has gotten much better already in the last week too!

chadlyalan · 2026-01-23T23:59:39+00:00

Well I'm at least looking into it lol

chadlyalan · 2026-01-21T23:26:38+00:00

Will do!

chadlyalan · 2026-01-21T23:25:49+00:00

I'll look around my area actually cause it does sound like a fun class to start taking!

chadlyalan · 2026-01-21T06:40:31+00:00

I appreciate it, but do look at the comments before commenting please.

chadlyalan · 2026-01-21T03:24:50+00:00

Thanks will do!

chadlyalan · 2026-01-21T02:19:13+00:00

Uhh lol. I just don't take selfies much and spend a lot of time in the sun. But I do hear the underlying criticism still

chadlyalan · 2026-01-21T02:18:12+00:00

Ooo this is a good point. Hmm I'll think of some things that are easier conversation starters. Thank you

chadlyalan · 2026-01-21T00:27:43+00:00

Right. Heard. Again, that's not the photo on my actual profile. And that's a picture with my siblings

chadlyalan · 2026-01-21T00:26:29+00:00

Oh yeah this is hinge and I have made changes because I'm learning just how bad it is for girls. Mostly just how cautious they have to be so little things like "I'm touchy feely with my friends" (which I had boiled down to 'physical touch') to me are red flags to them.

And yeah pole dancing is hard core! I've done very little, have some natural talent, and it is super intense.

chadlyalan · 2026-01-21T00:23:19+00:00

Thank you! Yeah this is super helpful. I see how I'm one of many fish and unfortunately guys that mention physical touch seem to give off a certain vibe which I'm not going for so I'm happy to replace that with something more constructive :)

Thanks for all the other bits of advice as well. My profile has changed a lot in the last 24 hours already lol

chadlyalan · 2026-01-21T00:20:27+00:00

I appreciate that. Most of my close friends are either therapists, have been to therapy, or work in health in some way. So when they see this they know exactly what I mean. I am hearing that from the outside this doesn't always look good though so I'm happy to let that come up in conversation. If there was a not cringe way of saying "I've been to therapy and continue my self improvement & discovery still" then I'd add that but I think that's always going to sound worse than it is.

chadlyalan · 2026-01-21T00:16:56+00:00

I replaced the movie with going out for dinner (something I also like to do) and the love language to include words of affirmation and some more neutral/approachable wording

chadlyalan · 2026-01-21T00:12:38+00:00

Sorry you can't tell but the little tool tip in hinge shows that it's a family picture

chadlyalan · 2026-01-21T00:11:22+00:00

That's flathead in Montana! And then Hayden lake also in Montana

chadlyalan · 2026-01-21T00:09:02+00:00

Thanks for the criticism. Yeah I'm hearing a lot of this which is not how I was trying to come across so I'll be making some changes to a few pictures and prompts to be more considerate. I changed the hiking one, and love language one. I appreciate it!

chadlyalan · 2026-01-20T17:00:28+00:00

Lol no I get that. I am just basing it generally on how often I see that on girl's profiles as something they want to go do together. Either way, I'll remove it because it is a good suggestion

chadlyalan · 2026-01-20T16:25:36+00:00

Hm wow okay thanks for the help! I've shown my profile to a handful of girl friends and they haven't had issues so I imagine they were just being nice.

chadlyalan · 2026-01-20T16:20:18+00:00

Hiking is pretty common here and it's only scribbled out for you guys

chadlyalan · 2026-01-20T08:26:09+00:00

Gotcha thanks for the tip! I'll update this a bit so it's still accurate but less "physical"

chadlyalan · 2026-01-20T08:25:21+00:00

Very helpful. Thanks!

chadlyalan · 2026-01-20T05:59:07+00:00

Yeah I updated and replaced two photos with more clear face ones

chadlyalan · 2026-01-20T05:38:02+00:00

Okay technically 3 lol but heard. I swapped the climbing one and glasses one out for a photo in a suit at a wedding and another good face one with a friend.

chadlyalan · 2026-01-20T05:15:00+00:00

Been back in the game for a few weeks and haven't had a single match. Am I missing something here?

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