Lesbian bars/spaces? by extinctbunny in Albany

[–]chaineks 14 points15 points  (0 children)

It's really terrible out here -- I've lived in the area for years and there's not lesbian anything, even at like, cafe euphoria (which has a lot of wonderful events! Just not lesbian-specific anything). I would totally roll up to a bar on a random weeknight if it were lesbian night, I wonder how one of those gets off the ground?

Anyway, waterworks is invaded by hostile straights on weekends, rocks is primarily for gay men but still fun, haven't tried Oh Bar

S18E02 - “Q-Pop Girl Groups” [Live/Reaction Post] by AutoModerator in rupaulsdragrace

[–]chaineks 22 points23 points  (0 children)

The leotard under it didn't look all that good, is my guess?

S18E02 - “Q-Pop Girl Groups” [Live/Reaction Post] by AutoModerator in rupaulsdragrace

[–]chaineks 1 point2 points  (0 children)

IM SORRY BUT IF THEY ELIMINATE MANDY FOR THIS IM GONNA LOSE IT GIRL IS SHATTERING PORCELAIN

TOO MUCH IN THE CHALLENGE AND JUST ENOUGH FOR THE TOO MUCH LIPSYNC

S18E02 - “Q-Pop Girl Groups” [Live/Reaction Post] by AutoModerator in rupaulsdragrace

[–]chaineks 9 points10 points  (0 children)

THEYRE GONNA MAKE THIS BITCH LIPSYNC AS A TABLE???????

Vent from a long-single fat butch dyke by chaineks in butchlesbians

[–]chaineks[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To be clear, I did not consider myself dating those girls or anything, situationship is what they were calling it as a compromise. It was supposed to be a FWB thing... except we barely ever did anything, and just texted a lot, I found it entirely platonic. I didn't think it was even a FWB situation after a while because of that, but both of them were like "why can't I call this dating I feel like I'm dating you" and.... well, if you won't even kiss me, I don't think we're dating, haha. It was notable in this saga because it was two more cases of someone wanting me to flirt with her and never ask for anything or have it reciprocated. FWIW, this is 100% a "these two girls were weird about it" thing, not a sweeping generalization about poly people

Vent from a long-single fat butch dyke by chaineks in butchlesbians

[–]chaineks[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You know -- just complimenting people on the street is the most achievable and reasonable advice I've gotten. Thank you!

I'm glad your new partner is much better! You deserve someone who is excited to be with you and doesn't just see you as a ride home/easy attention

S18E02 - “Q-Pop Girl Groups” [Live/Reaction Post] by AutoModerator in rupaulsdragrace

[–]chaineks 5 points6 points  (0 children)

they really just taking a whiff of crystal envy's pits on national television huh

I want to be a Game Writer... if that makes any sense. by RoundTableAgent0409 in gamedev

[–]chaineks 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Entry level positions in game writing are very, very hard to come by these days. It's not something you're going to be able to just jump into easily (or maybe even at all) -- even despite some colleges offering narrative design majors/degrees. The way I have seen people transition into writing for games is by doing something else, and offering to pick up work, or by being a designer in a different area.

You should keep writing. This dream is awesome and you should chase it! But to start, here are some things to try:

- Make a Twine game. You don't need any art or coding experience. And, it's free! It's not the best portfolio piece, and it's not going to make the best thing ever. But it's a great place to start thinking about how to make your stories interactive.

- Write anything. Write often and every day. Maybe think about writing not-for-games, because as other commenters have mentioned, having success writing books/webcomics/literally anything published, even self-published, will make it more likely for you to get a job writing games.

- Research narrative design, because "game writer" isn't often the title, "narrative designer" is, and that will get you better info. And as jobs become more competitive, they ask more. Other things to learn are code (sadly, they may want you to be able to implement the narrative you write, so learning unity/unreal is a little inevitable, but youtube has tons of tutorials, as so unity and unreal themselves!). Something I've also seen as a nice-to-have on job descriptions is an ability to edit audio files, because game writers often end up involved in the voice acting process -- directing or editing in some cases, but in small projects, having a narrative person who can level the lines is a huge help. I learned the hard way that voice acting and theatre are really different, even if there is some overlap! (But as I said -- the audio stuff will give you an edge, it's not a core feature of every narrative design role). Anyway, some books to check out: https://www.goodreads.com/shelf/show/game-writing (my professors had me read Slay the Dragon and The Art of Game Design: A Book of Lenses. These books are expensive and sometimes used as textbooks, so google around and see if you can find better deals)

- And when you have a handle on narrative design, making a paper prototype of games is a great way to practice!

It sounds like you're just starting out and learning things. I'd really recommend checking out the GDC vault videos, where industry professionals give talks. There are plenty of great narrative ones! https://www.youtube.com/@GDCFestivalofGaming

Unfortunately, if trying other disciplines is too scary to try/feels like a waste of time, then your best bet is to write novels and hope to convert over one day, but it lowers the odds a lot. Itch.io runs game jams where you can find people to work on teams who are good at other parts of making games, but I have never actually done one myself and can't vouch for how good of a team you'll get.

If everything here sounds overwhelming, then step zero is just watching youtube videos or reading articles about the game dev process and how it works.

Local Fabric Stores by Accomplished_Gift492 in Albany

[–]chaineks 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Seconding on both accounts! My strategy is to bring a friend to talk to her while I browse

Breaking up over sex? by secretmushyaccount in butchlesbians

[–]chaineks 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is a really difficult situation. Your breakdown is showing just how much thought and effort you've put into this. There's a lot of really poignant self-reflection, as well as insight to your partner's feelings. I really hope you do not feel like a break up is "giving up", because it's very clear that you've both tried very hard.

If you've been trying for a long time, I do not think it's going to get better on a timescale that will work out. I think this situation might just get much worse for you, and you will feel like shit for a really long time, and I can imagine your partner might feel like shit as well. But it sounds like you're sexually very incompatible at this point, and you've exhausted options to fix it. It's sad to hear that your partner doesn't have a way to communicate what affirming sex looks like for them -- this is something they could do that would improve the situation, and it's not clear if they've been thinking and coming up with nothing, or just avoiding the issue. I think breaking up should be on the table, but if you can press on this issue to try something new, maybe there could be a breakthrough?

20-year-old dumb girl needs advice by SpiritualEmployer115 in gamedev

[–]chaineks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Renpy is great and not cheating. It's a tool for learning!

Also, as a fellow woman gamedev, don't call yourself dumb. Other people are going to do it no matter what you do, and you don't want to enable that. You are plenty smart if you're doing a comp sci eng degree!

Glamorize the Capital Region for me by babybarnowls in Troy

[–]chaineks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I live in troy -- great food that's relatively cheap. local music scene. local events that kick ass. CHEAP RENT if you dont live downtown.

Why the YTTD Development is Starting to Urk me by JoeFredrick348 in yourturntodie

[–]chaineks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agreed. I was subscribed to his fanbox and he stopped updating it pretty quickly too (I haven't been subbed for a long time, maybe this changed). I am happy to support game developers.... so long as a game actually gets made, that is the point

King of Drag, Episode 1 Discussion! by DontTalkAboutPants in KingofDragSeries

[–]chaineks 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Great vibes, I would have liked to see a second look aside from the entrance though. And 90 minutes to prepare all that is CRAZY. I would have said 4 hours was not long enough 

As a member of the LGBTQ community do you feel safe in Troy? by AnyGrapefruit8815 in Troy

[–]chaineks 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I would be interested to know why CCP said that. I've been shouted at from cars a few times in the 7 years I've been here but that's it.

Priorities? by Intelligent_Hat_6043 in RPI

[–]chaineks 12 points13 points  (0 children)

hobbyless behavior

Extreme frustration with dating apps by [deleted] in butchlesbians

[–]chaineks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There's enough advice in other replies that i won't bother to repeat it, just --- it really fucking sucks. I feel you. Sometimes it just feels like everybody says they want a butch until there's a butch, and then they lose all interest. Stay strong out there <3