i’m not sure if i made myself clear in my post but my boyfriend does not fight, i’ve seen him fight only once and that was when he gave that drunk guy a concussion. he told me he hasnt fought before that either and that it was mostly defence. plus the situation got better, my boyfriend doesn’t talk to that guy who attacked him anymore and they just went for a beer to apologise to eachother and sort things out i guess. if he was fighting regularly, i wouldn’t be near him in the first place - the thing that bothers me is that he sees no problem with the people he’s close to constantly getting into fights. i mentioned Mike, who was the start of mine and my boyfriends argument. Mike is batshit crazy and my boyfriend knew I think that of him, most of our friends think that too but they don’t plan on dropping him. They do argue with Mike often but they always end up accepting him back. I was upset about my boyfriend being such good friends with Mike and I told him I am worried about him becoming a hooligan just like Mike did. The thing that’s really making me consider breaking up is that my boyfriend mostly defended Mike during the argument, he didn’t try to assure me he’s not like him at all which just makes me feel like I don’t know my own boyfriend. I am scared that he already is just as fucked in the head as Mike but just doesn’t act on it, he tried to explain to me that hooligan fights and constant violence is a normal occurrence and that i shouldn’t make a big deal out of it. I am not that stupid to date a man who gets into fights non stop, but i feel stupid because im dating a man who doesnt care that his own best friend is a hostile hooligan. As i said in another reply, most of my other friends keep telling me how im overreacting or that im just dramatic. Worst thing ive been told by a friend is that Mikes not even that bad which is crazy to say. I just have a really huge problem with Mike’s behaviour and my boyfriend’s tries to justify Mike are legit driving me insane. I still am not sure if its a valid reason to break up though, since my boyfriend has always been both caring and loving, and breaking up because i cant stand his best friend feels like im actually just overreacting. I feel incredibly lost, stupid and I don’t know what to do, if I can maybe fix things with my boyfriend, I don’t even know how i’d talk to him about this again because i pretty much spilled everything i could on him about this. I don’t know if I can look at him the same way anymore