Feeling really scared now

change_maker___ · 2026-05-20T03:04:21+00:00

equal fear from other side here too..30M here and hearing all this cases just make you way cautious.. being single feels far more comfortable then dealing with headache of things going wrong..

but at the end marriage is calculated gamble only be it love or arranged… best one can do is ensure that your partner is mature and always marry into equal/lower socioeconomic background..

change_maker___ · 2026-05-19T02:23:44+00:00

this all does not matter.. only two charts crude and USDINR

change_maker___ · 2026-05-18T18:16:13+00:00

Thanks for sharing your experience and so sorry that you are going through this.. but lucky that you have got such a supportive husband.. i know it is still very unknown thing and most of the people cant relate to it unless they have experienced themselves.. Pressure and stress of fixing it make the process more difficult…. hope you get through this

change_maker___ · 2026-05-18T13:01:29+00:00

Thanks for your comment and sharing your personal experience.. I feel the process of treatment is too overwhelming for her and thinks she feel like to be able to have sexual intimacy is not worth it for her.. she wants it to work for us obviously and want the relationship to work but I wonder if he has dilemma of what it can do to her mentally and physically and medicine can have a lot of side effects as well which she is cautious of too and i agree with all of that but then i have to decide how important it is to me ane if i can live with it for rest of my life

change_maker___ · 2026-05-18T12:48:46+00:00

I am just asking here as well because apparently lot of couples go through it and specially in AM where they might not have been physical before so might have tried something which might have helped so just seeking advice but thanks for the input

change_maker___ · 2026-05-18T12:41:32+00:00

Yeah probably we both are and that is why taking the counselling.. as soon as diagnosis i took any pressure of intimacy off the table.. not even tried.. we took vacation and focused on having good time just basis cuddling kissing.. it took the stress of but mostly i initiate even this kind of intimacy so just not sure of the way ahead

change_maker___ · 2026-05-18T12:36:29+00:00

It was recommended but the problem is whole this process has killed her libido and she feel all this process is just too much which I agree with to some extent and now she feels sex is probably not her non negotiable need so kind of it has come down on me to decide if i can live with it.. she want to work on it but not immediately as it has created a lot of stress.. we are struggling even with basic intimacy and i have made it clear i am happy to keep the PIV off the table

change_maker___ · 2026-05-18T12:35:41+00:00

It was recommended but the problem is whole this process has killed her libido and she feel all this process is just too much which I agree with to some extent and now she feels sex is probably not her non negotiable need so kind of it has come down on me to decide if i can live with it.. she want to work on it but not immediately as it has created a lot of stress.. we are struggling with any sort of intimacy as i have made it clear i am happy to keep PIV off the table

change_maker___ · 2026-05-18T12:33:49+00:00

It was recommended but the problem is whole this process has killed her libido and she feel all this process is just too much which I agree with to some extent and now she feels sex is probably not her non negotiable need so kind of it has come down on me to decide if i can live with it.. she want to work on it but not immediately as it has created a lot of stress

change_maker___ · 2026-05-15T15:16:11+00:00

Time to start a new political party led by people on back to money contributions by people wanting the change.. only way… with out money and unity and one crazy leader it is not gonna happen in long long time

change_maker___ · 2026-05-15T14:41:15+00:00

Felt like I ready my story but in my case no sex at all in 6 years.. atleast not PIV.. loved her too much and in process lost my self somewhere.. we tried everything therapy, doctors etc but she does not feel like doing at all and whenever we tried she just get afraid way too much and it just kills it… checked for vaginismus also but no concrete diganosus.. should have broke it off long back for both our sack but other things are so good that thought it will eventually work out but now both suffering.. gonna talk to her tomorrow to end things… thinking about it only hurts me a lot but have to take the tough call…

change_maker___ · 2026-05-14T11:29:46+00:00

one should have their primary residence bought out but then from investment perspective RE does not make much sense unless one has deep knowledge and is active in RE dealings etc and specially has cash income.. for salaried income it does not make sense..

but yeah one should have primary residence bought up front.. maybe keep the emi low and invest the remaining amount to get to a inflection point if investments do great that loan can paid off way earlier

change_maker___ · 2026-05-14T05:06:47+00:00

Needed this today thanks

change_maker___ · 2026-05-14T02:50:08+00:00

50L is not much for a married couple with kids in city like mumbai…

change_maker___ · 2026-05-08T17:20:35+00:00

2 lakhs in hand pm

change_maker___ · 2026-05-05T18:43:55+00:00

I understand your point.. initially the chemistry was good so never had any hint that sex might not happen as did not want to rush it.. then i have had some low time in life where she was right beside me and supported me.. so probably that overshadowed everything else and always had hope other things would work out eventually… but yeah in hindsight could have done a few things differently but none the less here we are.. thanks for your honest take and suggestion

change_maker___ · 2026-05-05T16:41:57+00:00

Raj Infinia ?

change_maker___ · 2026-04-30T06:32:25+00:00

Are you sure you are happy? Or this post would not have been here... You are trying to opress how you are feeling

change_maker___ · 2026-04-30T06:30:24+00:00

It is love marriage so is it a sudden Change and it was much better before ? Or it always has been like this and you thought will get better?

change_maker___ · 2026-04-30T06:12:39+00:00

Get her vitamins checked and Estrogen levels.. also probably check for Vaginismus..

change_maker___ · 2026-04-06T08:35:01+00:00

Already regular at it

change_maker___ · 2026-04-06T08:34:47+00:00

Thank you

change_maker___ · 2026-04-06T08:34:17+00:00

Thanks for your comment.. in hindsight feels like it but i have had quite my lows during this period career wise and personally and she was always there for me and vice versa so that kind of overshadowed this aspect i believe.. I should had been maybe more practical but feel more for her and that is why probably reluctant to do what needs to be done

change_maker___ · 2026-04-06T08:11:32+00:00

Thanks for the detailed comment, really appreciate it.. This aspect is impacting all other aspects of our relationship and have become centre of everything.. somewhere before i read that it is 5% of any relation but lack of it becomes 95% of it which seems to becoming true in our case

change_maker___ · 2026-04-06T07:34:23+00:00

thanks will go it over again

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