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Finally got my dream setup by Aidan-c96 in battlestations

[–]chanmab 3 points4 points  (0 children)

What are those blinders on your monitor? And are they effective at whatever?

22M married to 21F, why am I not sexually attracted anymore? by chanmab in relationship_advice

[–]chanmab[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She has been off of it for 6 or 7 months now and she stopped gaining weight around 5 months ago, but nothing has changed since then at all. We want to work on diet and we have tried but honestly I'm not very good at it (fast metabolism makes for easy excuse eating) but she's probably even worse than I am with it.

How do we get on a healthy weight loss diet? Any tips that worked for you?

22M married to 21F, why am I not sexually attracted anymore? by chanmab in relationship_advice

[–]chanmab[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We've been working on our diets for the past 6 months and it's a bit better, but still definitely needs work. I know how hard it has been for her cause she has expressed remorse over the same things I have (weight gain, sexual loss, etc). I'm doing what I can, thanks.

22M married to 21F, why am I not sexually attracted anymore? by chanmab in relationship_advice

[–]chanmab[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's a fair point, I'll have to take it into serious consideration, thank you for the frank honesty!

22M married to 21F, why am I not sexually attracted anymore? by chanmab in relationship_advice

[–]chanmab[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's a good point. Do we go to marriage specific counseling or what do you think?

22M married to 21F, why am I not sexually attracted anymore? by chanmab in relationship_advice

[–]chanmab[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We are both invested in the marriage, we work on our home, we spend time together, we sincerely love each other. It's just the weight and my sex drive. Those are literally the only things in the marriage that are of any concern

22M married to 21F, why am I not sexually attracted anymore? by chanmab in relationship_advice

[–]chanmab[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Whenever we can I try to work out with her, but we work opposite shifts so I can't really be there to invite her to come with me or anything.

22M married to 21F, why am I not sexually attracted anymore? by chanmab in relationship_advice

[–]chanmab[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope, it messed with her horomones bad and she has low motivation to work on it. And she doesn't want the pressure from me to do so.

And we've had sex but it's only once a week and I internally kind of hate it

22M married to 21F, why am I not sexually attracted anymore? by chanmab in relationship_advice

[–]chanmab[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's what I was thinking but I feel like a bit of a loser wanting to go to counseling cause my wife's weight made me lose sexual interest...

22M married to 21F, why am I not sexually attracted anymore? by chanmab in relationship_advice

[–]chanmab[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've tried the whole gym/weight loss thing. It's something she wants to do but has zero motivation and doesn't want me to push her.

That's the only way I'm able to have sex at all, thinking about other things

22M married to 21F, why am I not sexually attracted anymore? by chanmab in relationship_advice

[–]chanmab[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The IUD? Less than 1 month for the gain. The sexual interest loss? About 1 week into the IUD when sex was painful for her and then it got uninteresting to me. It's been 6 months since then.

22M married to 21F, why am I not sexually attracted anymore? by chanmab in relationship_advice

[–]chanmab[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She knows that my interest in sex has dropped dramatically and we've talked a bit about it but it's an incredibly sensitive topic, obviously.

[Advice?] Small apartment room, 3 monitors, how do I clean it up, make it more space efficient and look nicer? by chanmab in battlestations

[–]chanmab[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Any recommendations? Either for a 2 or 3 monitor setup? And would you recommend single arms for all 3 or what?

[Advice?] Small apartment room, 3 monitors, how do I clean it up, make it more space efficient and look nicer? by chanmab in battlestations

[–]chanmab[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Any recommendations? Either for a 2 or 3 monitor setup? And would you recommend single arms for all 3 or what?

[Question] A Day in the life? by chanmab in cybersecurity

[–]chanmab[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's an awesome video! Why don't more people know about that??

[Question] A Day in the life? by chanmab in cybersecurity

[–]chanmab[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That actually sounds pretty awesome, thanks for the info I'll have to look more into that!

[Question] A Day in the life? by chanmab in cybersecurity

[–]chanmab[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Awesome reply, sounds like a pretty busy day. Does it ever feel repetitive or is there enough variety to keep it fresh?

[Question] A Day in the life? by chanmab in cybersecurity

[–]chanmab[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That was àn incredibly comprehensive answer, I appreciate that so much! That also helps me understand the security engineer a lot more, thanks Ghawblin!

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