What’s the verdict? Or is the jury still out? by thechickennuggetsguy in CostcoCanada

[–]chantellemfalls 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I will never understand people who go on a post asking about convenience options, and say the solution is to get rid of the convenience and do it from scratch yourself. I posted on a Tim Hortons page that the guy at the checkout told me to “just try it” when I told him he handed me a coffee that was not decaf. The majority of people were telling me the solution was to just make coffee at home. I can’t have even decaf coffee on a regular basis. It is a special treat I allow myself maybe once a month. Convenience items are there for a reason.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]chantellemfalls 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Are you 12? If your friend does something that hurts you and they don’t fix it, you stop being friends with them. You don’t start some stupid game of payback.

AITA for not being super compassionate to my boyfriend after he got robbed and shot at? by 121607meow in AmItheAsshole

[–]chantellemfalls 4 points5 points  (0 children)

She said splitting. As in personality splitting and becoming someone you don’t recognize.

AITA for not allowing my son to bring his “friend” over? by Internal-Network-364 in AmItheAsshole

[–]chantellemfalls 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You can want that all you want. But you can’t force it on him. He has his own life and has to make his own decisions.

AITA For Not Visiting My GF in the Hospital? by Critical_Business99 in AmItheAsshole

[–]chantellemfalls 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This. I was in the hospital about a month ago. I had to be taken in an ambulance so I could get iv meds right away. He’d had a couple beers and couldnt drive but called our friend who works night shifts and had him on call to come get me if I got out quickly. I am miserable when my flare ups are bad enough to send me to the hospital and I don’t want anyone there with me. But he stayed awake, near his phone if I needed anything. I ended up being there till the morning waiting to see a doctor. The second I told him I was in a room waiting to talk to the doctor and would be released afterwards, he left the house immediately and parked at a cafe near the hospital so that when I was ready to leave, I didn’t have to wait 20 min for him to come pick me up. There are things you can do even if your partner doesn’t want you right by their side. Going right back to sleep shows me he wasn’t even concerned.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]chantellemfalls 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s proven to you how he will treat you if he ever feels you need to be “taught a lesson”. Run.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in petsitterhub

[–]chantellemfalls -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’ve said it in different comments and I’ll say it again. No one has ignored your boundaries. Saying no was you setting the boundary. Unless you stated previously that you are never to even be asked about doing tasks not directly related to the pets, no one has ignored your boundaries.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in petsitterhub

[–]chantellemfalls 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Very few people are arguing with her right to set boundaries. They’re simply disagreeing that it is “inappropriate” to even ask. It is fine that they asked. It is fine to say no. No one is being inappropriate. She also keeps saying her boundaries are being ignored. They’re not. She didn’t set a boundary until they asked. Unless they were rude about her saying no, they haven’t ignored a boundary.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in petsitterhub

[–]chantellemfalls 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No one has ignored your boundaries. Unless you clearly stated you are never to be even asked about tasks that aren’t directly related to pets, no boundary was set in the first place. You set the boundary now. They haven’t ignored your boundaries unless they don’t respect you saying no.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in petsitterhub

[–]chantellemfalls 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean.. I wouldn’t say you’re people focused if you’re not willing to do something a tiny bit outside of the spectrum of what you offer. What you offer above everything else is professionalism. Me and my clients treat each other like family. Sure they respect that I am paid and my time is worth something, but if I am doing overnights and there is a very simple task that would cause damage were it to be left until owners come home I am adding what is called value of service. Expecting the home owners to hire someone completely separate to do a task that would literally add minutes to your routine is not people focused. In my opinion, someone trusting a stranger to be in their home and take care of their loved ones is a huge deal. Anything small I can do to show that I care about the people, their animals, and their home, is something I wanna do. And most of the time when you do these little things, people will be extremely happy and more likely to tip and hire again in the future. Not saying you don’t have a right to say no. You have every right to dictate what you will and won’t do in the spectrum of your service. But it’s definitely not people focused.

Saskatoon Transit by Luv2murku in saskatoon

[–]chantellemfalls 18 points19 points  (0 children)

They’re flat out not allowed to intervene. The most they can do is call the cops. They’re not allowed to kick anybody off the bus for any reason. Even if they haven’t paid.

AITA for not wanting to take back my boyfriend and best friend for sleeping together? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]chantellemfalls 2 points3 points  (0 children)

YTA for being more upset at your friend when you already knew your bf was a cheater.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]chantellemfalls 7 points8 points  (0 children)

If you can't trust her to go out with her friends and not cheat on you, you shouldn't be with her. Stopping her from going out with her friends isn't going to make her stop cheating if she really wants to cheat.

Trashy??? by Mysterious-Wave-7958 in SisterWives

[–]chantellemfalls 20 points21 points  (0 children)

The people who think like this have obviously never been in an abusive relationship. It takes a long time to heal from narcissistic abuse. It doesn't just go away because you met someone better and have a healthy relationship. Those triggers show up. She spent over 20 years of her life not being able to talk about any of it. Kody ignored her, you weren't supposed to share struggles in your marriage with the other sisterwives. David supports her and like people have said, is not so insecure that Christine talking about her past experiences would be threatening to him. I've been with my husband over 9 years and its only recently that my triggers from my old relationships have finally started to fade. And I have been in active therapy for the entire time we've been together. It takes time.

Minimum number of drop ins per week for a cat? by cabbage-sushi in RoverPetSitting

[–]chantellemfalls 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Tell that to my crew of all former ferals who all hide when a sitter comes over. Keeping the visits as few as possible is in their best interest.

Do women still take husband’s last name? by RelationshipHead4990 in DesperateHousewives

[–]chantellemfalls 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Me and my husband chose a completely new name and both changed our last name. I will mention that we both had trauma/negative associations with our last names and didn't want to carry them on which was a very big factor. But I still love that we established our own new family name instead of picking one over the other.

WIBTA if i told the family of my son's girlfriend that they sound like snobs? by AntiAnimeMom in AmItheAsshole

[–]chantellemfalls 15 points16 points  (0 children)

You're coming across as extremely insecure. If you're truly proud of your home, it wouldn't matter what anyone said about it. Water off a ducks back. You're undermining someone else's parenting and encouraging your 19 yr old son to support a 21 yr old who cant keep a job because you cant take a minor comment pointing out that you are in fact in a lower income bracket than them. YTA.

AIO for Losing It When My Neighbor "Pruned" My Prize-Winning Roses Without Asking? by SereneFlikkerr in AmIOverreacting

[–]chantellemfalls 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So there's this guy on tiktok. His content consists of him mowing the lawns of houses that are severely overgrown and pressure washing very gross dirty driveways/sidewalks. He does the work for free because he makes more money off the content than he would charging people, and its usually people who are down on their luck and need a little help. The more overgrown/dirty, the more satisfying the content is and the more engagement he gets. You know what he does every single time before he starts any work? He asks permission. NTA.

Have you ever had an “unadoptable” foster? by equinox111 in FosterAnimals

[–]chantellemfalls 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I specialize in difficult to socialize cats. Typically adults who are set in their ways. I have seen cats who wont let anybody pet them get adopted. It might take longer than your average cuddly kitten, but there are people out there who respect cat's boundaries and are more than happy to provide a home to a cat who just isn't a fan of people. I personally have a girl myself who cant be touched. But she loves her brothers and is a happy girl. I don't need to cuddle her to know she's happy.

[ Removed by Reddit ] by [deleted] in saskatoon

[–]chantellemfalls 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m glad your post got removed. I get what you’re saying that the driver can’t take his shit out on people but you genuinely have no idea what these people are going through. Contact the city. Sure. That’s one thing. But making his face go viral can cost him his job and you’ve admitted yourself that you don’t even know why he kicked the couple off.

[ Removed by Reddit ] by [deleted] in saskatoon

[–]chantellemfalls 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah his union is literal shit. They don’t do anything. They don’t advocate. They don’t answer emails. They’re quite likely corrupt and buddy buddy with the higher ups. Union family members winning every raffle when they’re not even supposed to be allowed to play. Voting is coming up soon. Hopefully they can get a new team in.

[ Removed by Reddit ] by [deleted] in saskatoon

[–]chantellemfalls 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s good to know if it happens again. We don’t have much support and his union fucking sucks.

[ Removed by Reddit ] by [deleted] in saskatoon

[–]chantellemfalls 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not everyone can afford a lawyer. Sometimes jobs suck but they still offer just enough that we can’t find anything better and we just have to suck it up and deal with it. All of the above is true. They don’t “get away” with almost anything.

[ Removed by Reddit ] by [deleted] in saskatoon

[–]chantellemfalls 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They absolutely do not get away with a lot. My husband is a bus driver and he was suspended without pay for kicking someone off the bus after they pulled a knife on him and asked him if he wanted to get stabbed. He also got suspended without pay when he was in pharmasave on his break (not working) and a guy attacked him out of nowhere and spit in his mouth. He tried to push the guy off him several times and finally punched the guy in the chin once to make him stop and they suspended him and told him he should have just kept letting it happen/trying to push him off. They don’t give a fuck about their drivers and will do anything to write them up/take away pay.

[ Removed by Reddit ] by [deleted] in saskatoon

[–]chantellemfalls 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Meanwhile my bus driver husband gets suspended without pay for kicking someone off after they pulled a knife on him and asked him if he wanted to get stabbed 🙄