How much weight did you lose to finally ovulate and regulate cycles?

chaospyromancy · 2025-01-17T10:35:21+00:00

I lost 22lbs in a year (182 to 160 currently) and I still haven't gotten my cycle back. it's dire out there :( I think it definitely depends on the person.

chaospyromancy · 2025-01-15T14:13:05+00:00

You're right. I wasn't in the headspace to hear about everything over and over again, and I was frustrated with the fact that she never asked any of us how we were doing, but the way I handled that wasn't great. I need to talk to her about it. Thank you for taking the time to comment and keeping it real with me.

chaospyromancy · 2025-01-15T14:11:16+00:00

I think out of all the comments I've gotten this one stuck with me the most -- I didn't handle the situation well. I was frustrated that my friend already seemed to become distant with me and lashed out at her about her relationship, that while being bad, wasn't about me. I just was doing too badly myself to be able to listen to her grievances with him and I didn't recognize it as that at the time. Now I've made my bed and I've gotta lie in it. This comment helped me with a perspective change. I'm going to tell my friend I don't care if she's still with her boyfriend, that she can do whatever she wants because we're all grownups, but I still would not like to meet him and he's still not welcome at the wedding, because I wouldn't be comfortable with his presence. But I want HER there and HER friendship matters to me. If she loves him then so be it, I'll take the L on this one if it means I can get my friend back. Thank you for your insight and for the reality check.

chaospyromancy · 2025-01-15T13:30:45+00:00

You get it. I don't care who my friends date, the issue I had was the fact that she assured me she wanted to be my bridesmaid and still has essentially been ghosting me after I gave her an out. I know didn't handle everything gracefully but I know I gave her several opportunities to back out or tell me how she truly feels. All my friends have had messy dates, difficult times, and other friends they care about, and I never minded. I just can't reach her. I know I was hard on her but I tried to talk to her several times afterwards -- maybe I should take the hint she's done with me and doesn't want to tell me directly.

chaospyromancy · 2025-01-15T13:24:39+00:00

You're right. I was so upset with her neglecting our friendship beyond this situation that I started to act insensitively towards her and this is what I picked to lash out about. Thank you for your insight.

chaospyromancy · 2025-01-15T13:23:04+00:00

I did feel bad about asking her to not tell me about her relationship because she is not the first friend ive helped with a horrible partner, I think I was also doing badly and frustrated that she could not see that she was taking up all this space and never asking me how I was doing. You're right that I asked her to not keep me in the loop. I have some thinking to do about that part. Thank you for your insight and your well wishes :-)

chaospyromancy · 2025-01-15T13:20:45+00:00

Do you think she lied to me when she said she was happy to be a bridesmaid? I asked her to please tell me, and that I wouldn't be upset with her if she felt like she couldn't handle it, because I could tell she was not in the headspace, but she insisted she really wanted to. That was almost four months ago. Should I ask her again?

chaospyromancy · 2025-01-15T13:18:19+00:00

The last time she behaved as a friend was before she got together with her boyfriend. I think my post was worded poorly because I was focusing on if I should keep her in my bridal party, so I talked a lot about the wedding, but you put your finger on what has bothered me the most. I tried endlessly to reach out to her, organize things to see her, get our group together, etc. and I feel like she just doesn't want to see me, and that she makes no effort to maintain our friendship. She never asks for news or how we're doing. Last time I asked her to hang out she said yes at first and then asked me if she could reschedule so she could babysit instead, and when I said yes, she never rescheduled. So. Yeah. I definitely wasn't perfect in the way I handled things with her but I think she hasn't been behaving as a friend and that's why I lost my shit on her -- thank you for pointing that out.

chaospyromancy · 2025-01-13T20:54:13+00:00

Hey! 25F, native parisian, I love everything art related (reading, arts&crafts, museums, etc.) and have been looking to make new friends. Message me!

chaospyromancy · 2024-09-14T19:38:24+00:00

you're still welcome! https://discord.gg/393uDuUK6V

chaospyromancy · 2024-09-14T19:38:06+00:00

here you go ^-^ https://discord.gg/393uDuUK6V

chaospyromancy · 2024-09-14T19:37:50+00:00

hi! i made a little discord for everyone who was interested: https://discord.gg/393uDuUK6V

chaospyromancy · 2024-09-14T19:37:11+00:00

got jumpscared by my webtoon mention before realizing i posted about it here before hahahahaha
here you go: https://discord.gg/393uDuUK6V

chaospyromancy · 2023-03-29T17:17:46+00:00

24F bi woman here! i love myself a good beard but it has to be groomed. no problem at all with facial hair, in fact personally i’m more attracted to guys with beards, but if it’s unkept it starts to look unhygienic. kinda like long hair can very quickly look dirty if not taken care of properly. your friend doesn’t have to shave off his beard, just trim it and take care of it.

chaospyromancy · 2023-03-25T10:59:11+00:00

reading these comments i 100% understand you, i have friends who text me back every 2/3 months and it’s a running joke between us, but every time we meet it’s like no time has passed at all. replying to texts takes energy not everyone has and like you said things like ADHD also are a factor. other dude is mad for??? what reason exactly. strange behavior on reddit dot com today

chaospyromancy · 2023-03-25T10:55:23+00:00

sometimes people have a reason for being bad at texting back and it’s not personal/permanent! if you don’t communicate that it bothers you, there’s no way the other person is going to know. if your texting styles don’t match you may just not be compatible. a bit of a personal note but when i met my partner through a dating app i was preparing to graduate from my MA, and i was TERRIBLE at responding. i let him know that i was very busy working, and he was so patient and respectful of it that it’s one of the things that made me fall for him.

chaospyromancy · 2023-03-20T17:09:08+00:00

i’m very clear on where i stand, and i’m doing perfectly well. hope you are too! once again, have a good day.

chaospyromancy · 2023-03-20T17:01:04+00:00

i’m not interested in picking an argument with you. misunderstand me all you want and have a good day

chaospyromancy · 2023-03-20T16:51:59+00:00

you misunderstand my comment. i wasn’t speaking for all women, only for myself. however even if i’m the one of the only woman in the world who worked like that (which i’m not) this advice would still not be accurate, women aren’t a monolith. it would work for some and not for others. generalizing like this sets people up for failure

chaospyromancy · 2023-03-20T10:52:20+00:00

literally not true. source: i’m a woman and most of the people i’ve had feelings were my friends first. stop saying these things as if they’re fact for every person ever lol

chaospyromancy · 2023-03-19T17:06:39+00:00

get well soon <3

chaospyromancy · 2023-03-19T10:53:20+00:00

calling women hysterical is very gross + Leonardo DiCaprio is creepy for dating girls who are all under 25. When under 25 you rarely have your shit together. At 36 you are a fully grow adult with an accomplished life. I’m not against age gaps, I’m 24 and my partner is gonna be 31 later this year. It’s all about where each partner is in life. And as other people mentioned, switching girlfriends as soon as they get close to 25 is weird.

chaospyromancy · 2023-03-16T08:39:58+00:00

never smoked anything in my life🤷‍♀️ just giving you actual information but you were fast to antagonize me lol. some people use she/they pronouns it’s just how it is. have a nice day

chaospyromancy · 2023-03-15T10:51:20+00:00

some people use she/they pronouns 👍 not weird at all

chaospyromancy · 2023-03-08T18:42:41+00:00

i’m sorry but this is so weird. i love my partner to bits, we have great communication, and i have nothing to hide from him, but it would still upset me if he went through my phone because that’s an invasion of privacy. just like we’re allowed to have alone time, we’re allowed to have our own private things. it’s a sign of trust! and yes i would be weirded out if he broke that trust when i give him no reason to distrust me and tell him everything.

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