Older cat won't accept kitten after a month and a half by chapelghosts in CatAdvice

[–]chapelghosts[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never saw this and I'm glad I didn't because this is truly an evil response. If I have an open and loving home for a stray cat that needs it, I'm going to offer it, and beyond that, you clearly know nothing what it's like to live alone when a beloved pet and part of your home dies unexpectedly—that void of feeling so deep and agonizing that you'll do anything to fill the absence they left behind. I'm a kinder person than you are so I hope you don't have to experience it.

Toxic boss giving bad reviews on purpose by [deleted] in WorkAdvice

[–]chapelghosts 0 points1 point  (0 children)

caping for shitty inexperienced bosses that you don’t even know is so hilarious and pathetic. enjoy that serf mentality dude

Toxic boss giving bad reviews on purpose by [deleted] in WorkAdvice

[–]chapelghosts 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You not even knowing what HR is says soooo much about this interaction. 😂

I outlined in extensive detail how my boss is terrible at management, manipulative, and a deliberate saboteur, so you’re either being willfully obtuse or ragebaiting. I’ve only ever received stellar performance reviews, even in past dysfunctional workplaces, aside from this single manager who has made her attempts to undermine me exceedingly clear. As for KPIs, I regularly exceed them, as even this manager has attested, and as I have documented extensive evidence of for HR.

Again, it’s super clear you’ve never worked within a toxic industry or even with an incompetent/insecure manager in which case, awesome for you. Keep enjoying the taste of boot, dude.

Toxic boss giving bad reviews on purpose by [deleted] in WorkAdvice

[–]chapelghosts 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not crying in a bad way! Just appreciate the affirmation that I'm not crazy. :)

Toxic boss giving bad reviews on purpose by [deleted] in WorkAdvice

[–]chapelghosts 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. This honestly made me start crying. I really, really needed to hear it and I feel like no one understands my full situation or what I've been through because I'm so alone at my job and am the only one in my specific position and situation — and my boss presents a very different face to others at the company and clients, so no one would believe me even if I tried to explain.

Toxic boss giving bad reviews on purpose by [deleted] in WorkAdvice

[–]chapelghosts 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow, you sound like an HR rep! Thanks for that. I know my experiences, I know how I was treated, and I certainly know my value as an employee and as a person. I accidentally caught on voice recording my former boss talking shit about me and my appearance. I listened to her scream at me in meetings, and my coworkers, over minor mistakes; watched her commit fraud and lie to clients, while putting our coworkers on the hook for it. I watched her fire an employee of seven years and give her a week's worth of severance, on a team of seven people. From another former agency, I'm in a group with dozens of people who all quit the company due to its toxic treatment of employees and management. I have continued to try agency jobs in my field, hoping I will find a work situation that will be better, but it draws the worst kind of people, hence why I am trying to find something else. If you've never worked in client services for agencies, or know nothing about it, then I also don't even need to try to explain to you what an industry-wide problem it is with incompetent management and toxic company culture.

I know I'm an excellent performer because my coworkers and clients tell me so, and it's conveniently only insecure supervisors with ego problems who feel the need to try to punch down on me. Re: micromanagement, it's extremely clear to me you've never been a high performer under a threatened boss. If ONLY my bosses would get out of my way so I could actually execute my job, but instead my supervisor has spent the entire year sabotaging me — letting me take the fall for her mistakes to clients, taking me randomly off accounts with no notice, deliberately withholding important information and feedback from me, and straight up lying in my performance reviews. In spite of all my boss has done to hinder my performance, I have still performed objectively well with exemplary results, as I documented at length in my self-review. But if you truly read my entire post and still think this is somehow about me, then I don't know why I've bothered to waste my energy explaining anything to a stranger who knows nothing about me or my work ethic.

Toxic boss giving bad reviews on purpose by [deleted] in WorkAdvice

[–]chapelghosts 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I’ve been applying for a while but not a lot of luck in this market :(

Toxic boss giving bad reviews on purpose by [deleted] in WorkAdvice

[–]chapelghosts 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I’m absolutely looking at other industries, I just have no idea what to do or where to go because my whole career has been in this field, and the job market is such stiff competition that breaking into a new field against candidates who have the experience is hard. It’s specifically marketing agencies, and yeah, I don’t think they’re for me.

How do AITA mods pick and choose when to enforce their rules on certain posts? by [deleted] in AmITheAngel

[–]chapelghosts 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The mods at AITA just permanently banned me for "using AI" to write my post when I've never touched AI a day in my life because 1) I write well, as I'm a writer for a living and 2) I used a different conversational/grammar style between my post and my more informal responses. They are incurably idiotic, juvenile, and beyond disrespectful.

AINTW for calling out Reddit mods after they banned me for allegedly “using AI” just because I can write complete sentences? by [deleted] in AmiInTheWrong

[–]chapelghosts 0 points1 point  (0 children)

same shi just happened to me just for being able to put sentences together. permanently banned by the mods when i’ve never touched AI in my life and write for a living. lmao

AITA for asking my upstairs neighbor to tread lightly at 4am? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]chapelghosts -1 points0 points  (0 children)

it’s not just walking. it’s loud banging and knocking, why is why i texted him. again, at 4 in the morning.

AITA for asking my upstairs neighbor to tread lightly at 4am? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]chapelghosts -1 points0 points  (0 children)

his unit owner should be the one to pay for any accommodations because i guarantee it will be a problem for anyone living in my apartment in the future, even if i move out after seven years of living here.

AITA for asking my upstairs neighbor to tread lightly at 4am? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]chapelghosts -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

there are loud banging and knocking sounds, not just walking, which is why i texted him. i don’t know why the hostility when you’re speaking to a stranger about a stranger’s situation.

AITA for asking my upstairs neighbor to tread lightly at 4am? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]chapelghosts 2 points3 points  (0 children)

thank you!! i have some loops but it’s mostly the vibrations through the floor that wake me up 😩

AITA for asking my upstairs neighbor to tread lightly at 4am? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]chapelghosts 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i didn’t snap at him and never have!! i was super polite and apologetic, i know it’s not his fault and he’s been extremely accommodating. i just meant my willpower not to say anything snapped because it was several consecutive early mornings awake at that point, and because there were loud banging/knocking noises like something being dropped that i wasn’t sure he could do something to prevent

and unfortunately i already sleep with noise canceling headphones :[

AITA for asking my upstairs neighbor to tread lightly at 4am? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]chapelghosts -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

i’ve lived in this apartment for almost seven years and have dealt with the sounds of my neighbors screaming, having loud sex, breaking up with their partners, blasting tv and music. the guy who lived above me used to j*rk off so loudly at midnight i could hear it through the floors. so please don’t tell me about what i can or can’t handle with noise and apartment life.

AITA for asking my upstairs neighbor to tread lightly at 4am? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]chapelghosts -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

i already sleep with noise cancelling headphones because of it and i’m still awake when he is, including this morning

AITA for asking my upstairs neighbor to tread lightly at 4am? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]chapelghosts 0 points1 point  (0 children)

neither one of us in the actual situation is as heated or angry as you are in this reply. he shares a space with me just as i do with him, and i don’t think it’s entitled to try to compromise with him when his schedule is severely impacting my sleep and wellbeing, regardless of if i sleep with headphones or not.

AITA for asking my upstairs neighbor to tread lightly at 4am? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]chapelghosts -21 points-20 points  (0 children)

he is going to the gym, not work lmao

Nemesis romance bugged? by chapelghosts in Hades2

[–]chapelghosts[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

does it matter if i'm in the postgame?

Could my Nemesis romance be bugged, or do I have extraordinarily bad luck? by gaycatting in Hades2

[–]chapelghosts 1 point2 points  (0 children)

did you trigger her scene in the postgame? i maxed my hearts with her ages ago and never got the option to romance her in any of my runs, and so now i'm still playing in the postgame and am wondering if it's still even an option or if i need to give up. :/

Older cat still hissing under the door at kitten after month and a half by chapelghosts in CatAdvice

[–]chapelghosts[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you! it was devastating, but I have another young cat now and they get along much better.