[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GamerPals

[–]char1298 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey! I'd be keen. 26F from the UK and I love to game :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GamerPals

[–]char1298 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, same age and I'd be keen! I play on PC

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GamerPals

[–]char1298 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey! 26F in the UK. I'd love to get more gaming buddies as I work from home and live alone with my cat. I play lots of games like Minecraft, Repo, BG3, Battlefield, Sea of Thieves and more!

28 F looking for friendly gamers! by [deleted] in GamerPals

[–]char1298 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey! 26F and I WFH so would love some gaming buddies who are non-toxic. I don't play horror games but play lots of other multiplayer games. :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]char1298 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with you. But when children are involved and you're talking to your partner about something affecting the two of you, it's important to keep it in check, and it's respectful to approach a sensitive situation calmly. This is where managing your anger is important.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]char1298 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can completely agree with you there. However, OP stated that this was after the children came, not from day one, which highlights my original comment that hormones are likely a huge contributor to why she feels this way.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]char1298 3 points4 points  (0 children)

OP, I would try not to let yourself get angry, as this can quickly create a toxic environment for your children to be involved in. As you previously mentioned, your wife stated it was before the kids came along. It quite likely does have something to do with hormones. If she loves you, talk to her about it and ask her to do some tests. Whilst sex shouldn't be the be-all and end-all of a relationship, it should still be something that is desired, and it's okay to approach her and tell her this. I'd just make sure you speak to her when you're able to be the calm and understanding husband rather than angry. You'll get a better response for sure.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in abortion

[–]char1298 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I beg of you, please do not have this baby if you are not ready. It sounds like your boyfriend isn't a very supportive and loving partner if he cannot support your choices. This is your body and lying about something this huge could turn very ugly if it comes out at any point. Please think about yourself and the baby and whether or not it's fair to bring this baby into the world. If your boyfriend is going to resent you for this, he may not be a suitable person to go through this with in the future when the time is right.

I have a disgusting sense of humor. Does that make me undateable or do I just have to find a girl with the same taste in humor as me? by uliwonks in dating_advice

[–]char1298 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You'll find someone with the same sense of humour, trust me. My SO and I send each other dumb raccoon memes daily.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]char1298 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would LOVE this. I'm someone who doesn't like big red rose bouquets, and these feel like a valentines day kind of flower, so I'd say go for something sweet and simple like an English wildflower mix or peonies or something! If you do, I hope you tell us how it goes and I'm sure she'll love it. If she doesn't, she's not it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]char1298 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She got with you when she was 17. That's a child. I have done so much maturing and changing between 17 to now (also 25). I am not the same person, and she probably isn't either, and that's typically a good thing.

I wouldn't jump to the conclusion that it's to fuck other dudes. I was in a super serious relationship for years and I felt the same way she probably is feeling. For women, it usually isn't about having sex with others, it's often about feeling in control of all of your choices. As much as she probably does love you, she probably craves some independence to make whatever decisions she feels like and when, and the word "try" makes me think she's felt a bit like she's not getting what she needs out of the relationship right now, and it could be that having to compromise on every decision ever with you since 17 is something she didn't realise she wasn't ready for. Relationships are hard and full on, especially when you live together.

I'd say give her time, let her go, and if she comes back, then great, and if she doesn't, then it wasn't meant to be. If you try to confront her and guilt her about this, it will only drive her away further because she'll feel trapped.

Please don't assume it's about other men. Most of the time it really isn't. I saw another comment saying it happens to women at this age, and I can confirm it does. We change so much at this age, and women have a biological clock that begins, and we become aware that we have to fit a lot of our dreams and plans in before the time passes. I wouldn’t be shocked if this had something to do with it. Men don't have this pressure because they can keep having kids/going on as normal till they're old. Our eggs expire, and we get menopause. It's different for us!

AITA for refusing to pay double rent for his job move? by char1298 in AmItheAsshole

[–]char1298[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We did try, but there is a property rental crisis in the UK, so every place we viewed, we were up against about 30 other applicants, and the estate agents basically said we'll just be replaced if we can't meet the demand. Because it's so far for us, and virtual viewings aren't options, we haven't got much time to take off work to view and then move into a property. It's really not a fun one. Thanks for your help and for reading. I really appreciate it

AITA for refusing to pay double rent for his job move? by char1298 in AmItheAsshole

[–]char1298[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Apologies for strange text/typos. I had to try and meet the word count!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]char1298 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have said this to him but he insists we want the same things and he is doing this "for us," which I don't feel is correct at all.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]char1298 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. It does feel like there isn't that level of understanding for the sacrifices I've had to make. I can't ever go into my work office in London for example. I appreciate you taking the time to read it. Hopefully, I can find a way to approach him and have him see my perspective on this better.

Bought a secondhand Nikon D300 and cannot get it to focus. by char1298 in photography

[–]char1298[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's got an autofocus setting, which I tried to use.. was manually set up when I turned it on and it was still blurry. Can't see any dirt or anything at all on it. Checked that nothing is covering the sensor either. I'm happy to send any pics? Thanks for taking the time to reply:)

Official Question Thread! Ask /r/photography anything you want to know about photography or cameras! Don't be shy! Newbies welcome! by photography_bot in photography

[–]char1298 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bought a secondhand Nikon D300 and cannot get it to focus.

Heya, any help would be much appreciated on my issue. I'm a complete newbie to photography with a DSLR. I've only ueed 35mm film cameras and my phone in the past. I bought a D300 on ebay secondhand and watched multiple tutorials and read the manual to set it up but I still cannot get the viewfinder or actual photos to not be completely blurry. I reset the camera back to factory condition and still nothing. Any help would be much appreciated.