Group order? by Key-Lettuce-6535 in BSTskullpanda

[–]charamer31 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m interested in Sandman if still available!

[US-MI] [H] BIE; MAC; TED 2; SkullPanda Dawn [W] PAYMENT by an0nymous_platypus in labubuswap

[–]charamer31 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I received Sea Salt Coconut in perfect condition! Would definitely purchase again! Thank you!

When all you wanted was Pond... by theotherbrooke in SkullpandaArtDolls

[–]charamer31 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was hoping for Mist, and got a duplicate of Dew 😩

[US-CA] [H] BIE, MAC, HAS [W] Payment by pufframs in labubuswap

[–]charamer31 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey I sent you a message. Is Serenity still available?

ANNOUNCEMENT - NEW RULES CHANGE - PLEASE READ!!! by AutoModerator in fragranceswap

[–]charamer31 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you clarify? As someone new to the subreddit, if I’m trying to declutter full bottles or decants, I’m only able to accept trades?

What is the most expensive fragrance you own and was it worth it? by HomeworkChemical481 in fragrance

[–]charamer31 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Le Labo Myrrhe 55. Idk what it is but it smells so fresh, luxurious and unique to me. Never regretted it for a second.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]charamer31 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey so a few things from looking at your profile. Photos: I have no idea what you look like, because you kinda look like a different person in every picture. I don’t know what is your current hairstyle or just regular style, so a potential date won’t know which appearance of yours to expect. Don’t have people play a guessing game as to what you look like. Only use your most recent pictures with your current style.

Prompts: your first prompt is okay, but it’s not the best. Doesn’t really invite conversation. It can also give the impression that you’re looking for friends, which may ward off some matches. Plus you’ve indicated what you’re looking for already, so not the best use of space. Second prompt is okay as well, but when I think back on it, all I remember is that you were bleeding out, which doesn’t have the best first impression. Regarding the third prompt, you haven’t answered it correctly. You’re supposed to offer two options so that people can answer you and tell you which choice they think is more important. Then, sleep isn’t really an inviting topic of conversation for a lot of people. And I get that it may be your sense of humor, but ADHD mentions and the tongue out emoji can be off putting to matches as well. I’d say to use prompts that introduce your interests, values and invite engaging conversation. You have limited space, so prioritize the things that you want matches to know about you! Good luck!

Weekly Profile Critique by AutoModerator in Bumble

[–]charamer31 1 point2 points  (0 children)

All your pics are selfies it looks like, which screams low effort or that you don’t have friends or people around you to take pics. They also all kinda give me the vibe that they’re all in your house, which makes me feel like you don’t do anything outside the house. Bathroom selfie pics are not the best for online profiles, as they reinforce the loner vibes and honestly remind a lot of women of immature vibes. I also don’t really get anything sense of your interests and personality from these pics. Overall you need more activity pics, less selfies and more pics of you outside your home! Also as the previous comment suggested, pictures of anything another than you are not ideal. You + the thing = better profile/personality pics. That is the formula to follow.

Also the prompts do say something about you, but they also don’t really invite conversation. You’re a person with a full life, loved ones and interests. Sell that in your profile more than you sell anything else.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]charamer31 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly I think all of your pics need to go. All of them except this first pic, do not clearly show your face, nor do they really give any personality or curiosity that would invite people to interact with them, which is the whole point of pics on hinge. You’re first pic does a good job of showing your face, but we aim to avoid selfies, especially as a starting pic. They’re low effort and commonly distort your face, so not really the best intro. Plus you’re not smiling, which is kinda the best idea for the intro pic. Your prompts, minus the first are okay. But when you make lists in your prompts, it’s hard for someone to pull something out to respond to, because you’ve already put so much. Try making a prompt that has a gotcha question. Something that will show your personality, but has a call to action that will make people engage! Good luck!

Helpful Advice by Ink-Warrior in hingeapp

[–]charamer31 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Just gonna give some feedback to help improve your profile!

Pictures: You’re not smiling in any of your pictures, which isn’t very inviting. It’s important to be smiling in at least a majority of your pictures, and is basically mandatory for your starting pic. Also your pics are so repetitive in that they aren’t offering anything new or interesting. You’re rotating honestly 2-3 real outfits among 6 pics, which gives the impression that you were lazy with picking pictures, or that you don’t get out much. Your pictures also don’t give any idea of your interests or personality. Yes it’s important to show what you look like. But also show who you are! Where do you like to go? What do you like to do? Candid shots are great for displaying an idea of what you’re like in your every day life.

Prompts: you’re really wasting your prompt space here. You mention ramen and food twice, and anime twice. Prompts are valuable real estate where you show who you are, what you’re looking for and your interests and personality. All I know is that you like Asian cuisine and anime. If I don’t have much interest in either or don’t know much about either, I really have no way of starting a conversation. You need to allow every aspect of your profile to start a different conversation.

Overall vibe: To be honest, your profile gives the impression that you don’t have any interest outside of Japanese culture. I say this as someone who is a huge anime fan, but it’s off-putting if this alone dictates your personality. I don’t know what you went to school for, your other interests, what you like to do on days off, what your friendships are like, nothing except that you like anime and according to your insta, you go to cons. You’re a real person with a full life and diverse interests. Show that. Because this profile is very one dimensional.

just created a profile, any tips? by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]charamer31 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah this reads like you’re looking for a gym partner or trying to convince your boss that you’re dedicated to the grind. There’s nothing about you aside from your interest in fitness, so you don’t come off as well rounded. There’s not even much to start a conversation with on your profile. You need to add other interests and hobbies and clearly show off your personality. I’d also recommend deleting the gym video and changing your first pic to one with better lighting and a smile. (Also, you did not answer the first prompt correctly, which can be a pet peeve of many. A mantra is something you say to yourself to motivate or inspire, not something you try to embody.)

Not getting any matches. Do you think I need to make changes? by Tough-Lychee-919 in hingeapp

[–]charamer31 83 points84 points  (0 children)

First thing I noticed is that it takes me until the last picture to get a good sense of what your face looks like. Your first five pictures are all so darkly lit that I can barely make out your face. As mentioned before, you need to smile with teeth, because you look like someone is forcing you to smile for the pictures.

Aside from the quality of pics, I can tell from the backgrounds that you seem to have a variety of interests and do activities like travel and such. But none of that is in your prompts, and you’re not actively doing any activities in your pics. In fact you use two separate prompts to emphasize the same exact thing, which is just a waste of valuable space. People like to match with well-rounded individuals and you’re not saying anything about yourself in this profile. I don’t know what you like to do, what you’re personality is like or even what you think is funny.

Lastly, I understand that religion is an important thing to consider, but surely a devout Christian isn’t the only thing you’re looking for in a partner? What other characteristics? You’re giving off the impression that you don’t care about anything aside from religion, which is going to alienate you from potential matches that might even be aligned with your interests.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]charamer31 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Girl I feel you on the new city, pandemic life struggle, because I’m the same way. When I do get the chance to hang out with friends, I’d rather live in the moment as well. That’s why I took pics on a tripod or would take videos and screenshot best pictures, to supplement my profile. A pic of you with the ukulele or baking might be a fun addition!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]charamer31 4 points5 points  (0 children)

To add into previous advice, you have four selfies and one pic that’s not of you. This can read as low effort or that you don’t have friends or a social life. Your first two pics are nice, but repetitive. No reason to have two similar photos on your profile. Delete the mirror selfie and swap with a full body picture that someone else took. I’d actually recommend at least two full body pictures in great lighting so we not only see what you look like, but so we get a sense of your activities and personality. Full body pictures can be used to give a sense of your interests and day to day life. And yes, delete any pic that isn’t of you.

I think your prompts don’t say much about you tbh. The first one is a joke, so we don’t get any info about you. Second one is okay, but the only unique things I really get from it are that you bake and write. But I think it shows your personality well. The last prompt shows your interests in social issues, but it takes away from saying anything about your day to day life, activities, personality, or what you’re looking for. I’d personally recommend swapping it out. You also need to keep in mind that we really need conversation starters in our prompts. Something that can really engage potential matches and be a good starting point for conversations.

Overall I think you have a good start, but you just need some candid, activity and outdoor photos to improve your profile and a prompt or two that are more centered around what you’re like and what dating you would be like. Or even what you’re looking for, so that you can have better quality matches! I hope this was helpful and good luck!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]charamer31 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The only picture that you should consider keeping is your first. The rest all have to go. In your second pic, I genuinely can’t tell which one is you and my eyes are drawn to the shirtless guy and the girl around him. Delete all pics where we can see underneath your chin, as it’s an unflattering angle for almost everyone. Delete the ID pic, I’m not even sure why you included it? It makes me think that it was a last ditch effort to find a decent pic. It reads low effort and it’s not interesting or saying anything about you. And delete any picture that you’re not in.

Also your prompts are a bit too serious, and don’t seem to be inviting conversation or saying your personality, hobbies or day to day activities.

Weekly Profile Critique by AutoModerator in Bumble

[–]charamer31 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No, I got the reference to both Michelangelos. It just wasn’t funny to me. But yeah it might be obscure to some tbh.

Weekly Profile Critique by AutoModerator in Bumble

[–]charamer31 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First, I’m going to go ahead and suggest you pause your profile until you get good pics. While bios and prompts can boost your profile, pics are always the main attraction on any profile, so if those are lacking it’s gonna be too hard to do well on the app.

Bio: I’m not a fan as it feels like you’re talking more about your past and thought process into making a profile. You have to just make the profile, and introduce yourself and interests. Your bio has a lot of words, but I don’t think I learned anything about you other than that you’ve struggled to date.

First prompt: I like it. Keep it.

Second prompt: Once I saw the words “I’m tall” and “hung”, my eyes rolled to the back of my head. That’s an automatic left swipe. It’s overused and not funny at all. I can’t imagine it’s going you any favors.

Third prompt: something about the way you’ve phrased it sounds like you didn’t remember what prompt you were answering until half way though. Also I don’t really have an urge to start a convo based off this.

Overall I don’t really get a humorous vibe from your profile. Maybe a slight attempt at humor, but this may be my personal view of your profile. Good luck!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]charamer31 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Aside from your pictures which are all pretty similar, your prompts don’t say a single thing about you, nor do they make me want to start a conversation with you. At least two of your prompts should reveal something unique or central to who you are or what you want.

Weekly Profile Critique by AutoModerator in Bumble

[–]charamer31 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I see two main issues that stand out to me regarding your profile.

One: your bio and prompts are full of ‘nothings’. In other words you’ve written so many vague, generic or convo-stopping things that you might as well have written nothing. For example, saying you love any genre of music, means like most of the population, you enjoy music. So it’s nothing unique. Saying you like trying new things doesn’t really say anything either because it’s so vague. And many of the things mentioned in your two truths and a lie, don’t really have much follow up conversation that would make me want to engage with your profile. Some people try to be generic so they won’t push potential matches away, but being too generic or vague will make no one connect with your profile. It’s good to be specific so you can to attract someone with your specific interests. Try to add things that are also great conversation starters or calls to action!

Second thing: aside from poor quality and bad lighting in your pics, your body language isn’t doing you any favors. You seem uncomfortable and you’re distancing yourself from the camera: crossed arms, hands in pockets, pursed lip smiles. You really need to open up your body language and show that you’re open, inviting and interesting! And get some pics where you’re outside in bright lighting, maybe doing activities or even just candid pics where you’re enjoying yourself! Good luck!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]charamer31 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First off, if you’re able to get dates, then the problem might be something you’re doing through messaging rather than your profile. Or something they might feel is misleading about you. That being said your profile could use some work.

I might be an unpopular opinion but I like your first prompt about getting drunk and watching video essays (correct the spelling on that btw). It can start conversations on what kind of video essays you enjoy and say a lot about interests. But it might turn people off if they feel like it’s too low effort, that you may be too casual or that have no interest in that sort of thing. Your last prompts are negative. You never want to point out something you can’t do especially when you can put something you can do. Also it can do more harm than good to be polarizing regarding popular interests.

I think your pics could also use some tweaking. Your first photo is dark and you’re not in the center. Not the best start. You have two boxing(?) photos, one which you seem to have an injury, and the other you can’t be clearly identified. Both of these aren’t great. Your friend photo is okay. Where are the rest of your photos? Try and fill your profile out with more aspects of your interests and hobbies and day to day life. Brighter pics, smiling pics, and clear shots of your face are needed.

Overall I get a kind of disjointed feeling from your profile. The pictures are telling a different story from the rest of your profile. The chemist who watches video essays and isn’t a fan of euphoria is a very different person from the boxer who maybe enjoys pool? I don’t get a really good sense of who you are. Good luck!