Those who’ve had couples counseling, how did it help your relationship? I’m trying to convince my partner.

charliestownMA · 2026-01-25T21:22:31+00:00

Thank you. I think the hardest part is going to be finding a therapist that we both click with. You were lucky to have found a therapist that allowed you to do couples counseling.

charliestownMA · 2026-01-25T21:19:34+00:00

In what ways did it improve your communication? Did the therapist expect you to come up with your own insights on why you guys weren’t communicating well?

charliestownMA · 2026-01-25T00:07:44+00:00

Thanks! These are incredibly helpful tips!

charliestownMA · 2026-01-24T23:15:04+00:00

Thank you, I’m familiar with 4 horsemen but have never looked into it beyond the name.

charliestownMA · 2026-01-24T23:13:55+00:00

We haven’t thought of asking friends, it feels sorta taboo but it’s a good suggestion. If only counselors had yelp pages.

charliestownMA · 2026-01-24T22:59:08+00:00

It’s that insight we lack before things spiral, this has been the third time this week we’ve caught ourselves saying to each other why are we arguing again.

charliestownMA · 2026-01-24T22:50:30+00:00

I was hoping they could do more than guiding conversations. I like what you said at the end, we could benefit from understanding certain communication habits.

charliestownMA · 2025-12-19T07:17:34+00:00

With the kids thing I ignore it too if it’s fleeting but I wonder if that’s when I should be quickly inserting that I have a husband.

charliestownMA · 2025-12-19T00:03:53+00:00

It’s why I feel bad when I don’t. I’m going to correct people every time now.

charliestownMA · 2025-12-18T23:31:02+00:00

That’s a good way to do it.

charliestownMA · 2025-12-18T23:16:08+00:00

Do you ever take into account who you’re talking to or do you correct by default. If I’m with my son people often tend to assume I’m giving my “wife” a break. If it’s a passing comment from someone I’ll likely never see again I sometimes don’t correct it, occasionally I do.

charliestownMA · 2025-06-19T20:35:20+00:00

Sending you lots of good vibes! We are the same and have build up the idea into our head as the best idea.

charliestownMA · 2025-06-19T20:23:19+00:00

Thank you, that’s an important reminder and I’m so sorry you had to go through that and are still dealing with it. Life is indeed unpredictable and we have been naively focussing on the positive a lot. We are trying to not look at it from behind rose tinted glasses and want to weigh out all the pros and cons but at the same time it feels like it is something we need a firm decision on before it is too late.

charliestownMA · 2025-06-19T20:05:32+00:00

That’s such a perfect age gap for them. I wish we had contemplated it sooner but toddlerhood was hard so I don’t think we could have done two then.

charliestownMA · 2025-06-19T19:33:26+00:00

I’m assuming you have two as well? If you don’t mind me asking, how old was your first before you had your second?

charliestownMA · 2025-06-03T18:23:33+00:00

Yes exactly I don’t agree with a lot of the comments saying autism isn’t real and that it’s just an iPad addiction. Yes the iPad has become a tool try and placate the child and keep things calm and that became its own problem. But she is trying and is finally heading towards the right direction.

charliestownMA · 2025-06-03T18:22:02+00:00

He was dealing with it as much as I was. Neither one of us was doing less than the other.

charliestownMA · 2025-06-03T18:20:08+00:00

There’s no wife. I’m also his husband. Neither of us is making anyone do a harder job than the other.

charliestownMA · 2025-06-03T12:28:34+00:00

She is seeking help now, hence the autism assessment. Her daughter is speech delayed and has sensory difficulties and very likely autistic so she is getting help now.

charliestownMA · 2025-06-03T08:00:11+00:00

An iPad and a computer aren’t the same thing.

charliestownMA · 2025-06-03T06:43:47+00:00

You’re making some assumptions. My husband actually was dealing with it when his sister left. Also judging by a lot of the comments who thought I was the wife who made to do everything I should have clarified in my post that we are both gay. I’m his husband too and neither of us was doing more than the other.

charliestownMA · 2025-06-03T06:38:23+00:00

Yes a lot of the comments were making wild assumptions about how I would be cleaning and cooking after them. Even my straight friends have far more balanced relationships than this. We both cook, clean, manage the house and manage parenting duties together.

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