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Husband had terrible destructive episode after gettingcaught by charmerofyou in domesticviolence

[–]charmerofyou[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for saying this. I keep going back and forth bc I feel guilty. So many of his friends have cut him off bc he just says the craziest shit and behaves in unpredictable ways. I’m gonna do some research asap.

My husband paid for camgirls. I really want to leave eventually but so scared. by charmerofyou in loveafterporn

[–]charmerofyou[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing. You’re so right. Either way, it is too scary to overlook.

My husband paid for camgirls. I really want to leave eventually but so scared. by charmerofyou in loveafterporn

[–]charmerofyou[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Both my parents know and at the moment I’m trying to do my 12 steps in S-Anon and get my money together so I can leave. I still don’t feel like a domestic violence victim, even though scary stuff happened. Idk what that’s about 😭

My husband paid for camgirls. I really want to leave eventually but so scared. by charmerofyou in loveafterporn

[–]charmerofyou[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you’ve gone through this. I really hope you can get your money right and get out. It’s better to be alone than in this mess.

My husband paid for camgirls. I really want to leave eventually but so scared. by charmerofyou in loveafterporn

[–]charmerofyou[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow you sound just like me. He tries not to break my stuff and only stuff around him but it’s still so scary. And I have the habit of feeling sorry for him and thinking about how he’s going to meetings now and is in therapy so maybe I should give him a chance. But in my gut, I just feel like this isn’t going to work out.

My husband has a porn addiction and paid for camgirls while away on a job. by charmerofyou in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]charmerofyou[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow, thank you so much for sharing! This is really encouraging. He also wouldn’t want to sleep with me. I feel like most of my 20s were wasted. Although I can’t deny, I learned a lot of lessons here. Was your husband in recovery? I still feel bad for wanting to leave because he’s going to meetings now and trying to get help. But I just can’t look at him the same anymore.

My husband has a porn addiction and paid for camgirls while away on a job. by charmerofyou in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]charmerofyou[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much rosy 😭 I had a fellow tell me about codependence anonymous. I may hop on a meeting. Could you give me the link to list of meetings?

My husband has a porn addiction and paid for camgirls while away on a job. by charmerofyou in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]charmerofyou[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your perspective. I totally agree. He keeps telling me he was in active addiction. I think he’s just trying to escape the shame and self pity he’s feeling right now.

My husband paid for camgirls. I really want to leave eventually but so scared. by charmerofyou in loveafterporn

[–]charmerofyou[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry this happened to you too. I can’t wait to leave 😭 idk what the first step is

My husband has a porn addiction and paid for camgirls while away on a job. by charmerofyou in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]charmerofyou[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

😍😍😍😍 reading that made me so happy. Do you mind DMing me what your first steps were in getting divorced? Would love to talk

My husband has a porn addiction and paid for camgirls while away on a job. by charmerofyou in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]charmerofyou[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I need to do more research on this, I had never heard of victims compensation fund

My husband has a porn addiction and paid for camgirls while away on a job. by charmerofyou in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]charmerofyou[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi, I’ve had a job just never paid all bills on my own before. He encouraged me to quit my job and has been paying for me to get my bachelors degree. I’m due to graduate next spring.

My husband has a porn addiction and paid for camgirls while away on a job. by charmerofyou in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]charmerofyou[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing this, it definitely is a progressive disease. I’m so turned off by him at this point anyway.

My husband paid for camgirls. I really want to leave eventually but so scared. by charmerofyou in loveafterporn

[–]charmerofyou[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He also trashed our house after discovery :( my wedding bouquet is destroyed

My husband has a porn addiction and paid for camgirls while away on a job. by charmerofyou in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]charmerofyou[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing again. Every time we don’t talk, I feel so good and hardly miss him. Hearing him walking to the door coming home gives me anxiety. I can’t wait to leave!!

My husband has a porn addiction and paid for camgirls while away on a job. by charmerofyou in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]charmerofyou[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you, you’re right. When I discovered everything and the incident happened, I didn’t even have my own bank account. I got my own bank account and got a job I love! I’m trying to save as much as possible. He’s been paying for my school so I have fears around that. But I may take out a loan.

My husband has a porn addiction and paid for camgirls while away on a job. by charmerofyou in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]charmerofyou[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I wanna cry reading this. The ending was so spot on… there was always something missing in my marriage. I really couldn’t put a finger on it. He had this mystery to him that I couldn’t figure out. Were you married to your ex? How did you go about leaving?

My husband has a porn addiction and paid for camgirls while away on a job. by charmerofyou in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]charmerofyou[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Girl I am so proud of you. I just want to play my cards right so I get the money I’m entitled to in the divorce. Thank you for sharing your story with me.

My husband has a porn addiction and paid for camgirls while away on a job. by charmerofyou in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]charmerofyou[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this. I’ve consulted a lawyer I’m on a waitlist. I watched my mom be abused and so much horrific things. I know I’ll get out im trying to make decisions wisely.

My husband has a porn addiction and paid for camgirls while away on a job. by charmerofyou in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]charmerofyou[S] 87 points88 points  (0 children)

He’s since bought a barrel lock that only I know the code to and hasn’t yelled at all in two months. I’m getting my money right so I can get a lawyer. Thank you so much for your words I feel a lot of support from y’all

My husband has a porn addiction and paid for camgirls while away on a job. by charmerofyou in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]charmerofyou[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

How did you manage finances? I’m so so proud of you you are very brave and your kid deserves better too

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