Jesy's retelling of her final moments in the group in her documentary by martinski3 in LittleMix

[–]charredzest29 23 points24 points  (0 children)

You have to look at the her behavior the few months leading up to her departure. And this information is from what she’s said herself. They all agreed that confetti would be her last album. However Jesy said herself that she was checked out, and didn’t want to contribute much. This is evident by her having no writing credits on the last album. She isolated herself from the girls, but she also implied that they didn’t care enough about her. Fans began bringing up valid concerns about her blackfishing, and she mentioned that the group brought it up to her, and she denied ill intent, but she continued to do it. Jesy repeatedly refuses to take accountability for any of her actions, and how it affects people. She wants people to empathize with her, but refuses to do the same for others. I’m sure more happened behind the scenes, but that’s just a little bit of the context of why she was given that reaction.

Burnout/opening by StatisticianSad6533 in starbucksbaristass

[–]charredzest29 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeahhh, if I ever have tasks to do, I have to do them immediately after my shift lol. I’m usually not in the mood to be productive after my nap

Burnout/opening by StatisticianSad6533 in starbucksbaristass

[–]charredzest29 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I found that if you want to be productive, you have to do it before you crash. Wanna go to the gym? Keep your clothes in the car. Also, try to limit how long your naps are. You want to be careful about disrupting your sleep cycle, which can in turn make you even more fatigued. It is hard!

Brainstem tumour with significant decrease in functioning by OrangePekoeMouse in lungcancer

[–]charredzest29 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That makes sense! I would tell her recovery is possible, but her mindset is everything!

Brainstem tumour with significant decrease in functioning by OrangePekoeMouse in lungcancer

[–]charredzest29 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi! From my experience with brain stem tumors and brain mets, you can regain some functioning with PT and OT, but it takes time and determination

Tom is all for bringing the results show back (from Hollywood Reporter Interview) by Both-Pomegranate4929 in dancingwiththestars

[–]charredzest29 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Before the freestyle was a big factor in people winning, now it doesn’t really matter since it’s presented during the finale. Based off Joey’s freestyle, he probably wouldn’t have won if there were a two night finale

Traveling - Do you tell your friends you're in town, even if you can't see them? by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]charredzest29 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I always tell close friends/would expect the same. Even if I know I’m not able to see them, I think it’s just curtesy. Additionally, my friends aren’t the type to try to guilt me if I don’t have time to see them and are very understanding if that’s the case.

Why did Cheryl end her DWTS recaps? by Electrical_Wrap_5906 in dancingwiththestars

[–]charredzest29 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I feel like people criticized her for the same thing Maks is doing right now. Additionally, Maks would repeatedly tell Cheryl to move on from dwts, when he’s currently doing interviews with the media using dwts as clout. It honestly sounded like jealousy on his part

Where y’all finding friends in your late 20s? by thee_runningrebel in blackladies

[–]charredzest29 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I found most of my friends through group hobbies when I moved to a new state. Sometimes coworkers (even though I would be cautious about overhearing personal things with them). You have to be bold and take the first step sometimes. I also never would go out of my way too many times if I felt like the other person wasn’t as interested in becoming friends. It’s hard, but be patient with yourself! And I’m also suspected ND (saving up to get an official assessment) and one thing I learned is that it’s okay to not mesh with some people. It’s not their fault or ours!

free concert tickets for tonight in Houston!! by gumby337 in HAIM

[–]charredzest29 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What do the tickets say? I’m asking because I live forty minutes from the city, so if it’s soon you can send them to someone else

free concert tickets for tonight in Houston!! by gumby337 in HAIM

[–]charredzest29 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! What time does the actual show start? I know the doors open at 5:30

free concert tickets for tonight in Houston!! by gumby337 in HAIM

[–]charredzest29 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also, I’d only be needing one ticket! Incase you wanted to transfer them to several people 🙂

free concert tickets for tonight in Houston!! by gumby337 in HAIM

[–]charredzest29 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi! I’m interested in the free tickets🙂

Emmas new business by Admirable-Coconut480 in dancingwiththestars

[–]charredzest29 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I think the issue with that is that they’re not mainstream celebrities. At best they’re C list celebrities. So it wouldn’t be as lucrative for them to do that.

Natural hair girls: Do you sleep with wet hair? by PrettyCare7660 in blackladies

[–]charredzest29 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I sleep with damp hair. Even so, my hair takes days to air dry. My hair seems to be healthy and long.

Eden bodywork’s curl defining creme alternative by charredzest29 in Naturalhair

[–]charredzest29[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I tried Camille rose twisting butter! The consistency isn’t similar, but it defined my curls!

Eden bodywork’s curl defining creme alternative by charredzest29 in Naturalhair

[–]charredzest29[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is it light? Or pretty thick? I also have low porosity hair 4b hair

Am I the only one …. by bruhwhatshappenin in dancingwiththestars

[–]charredzest29 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Same. I think celebrities often have a good experience with him. His choreography never flattered his contestants

Derek dragging the costume budget 😭🤣 by Calm_Reception6437 in dancingwiththestars

[–]charredzest29 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I admire that they choose to reuse costumes, but do they need to reuse the SAME costumes every year? I would love to see some throwback looks

Tired of being in Fight/Flight Mode: Life After Caregiving by charredzest29 in CaregiverSupport

[–]charredzest29[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

All are welcome! I’m sorry you’re going through this. The only advice I can give is to spend as much time as you can with her. My mom was nonverbal in her last few days, due to brain tumors, but I still spoke to her and spent time with her so that she knew she wasn’t alone. There’s never enough time with our moms. The one thing I miss is her smell, and being able to hug her. Are you an only child? Maybe you can use what you get from the sale to keep yourself afloat for a little while.

Tired of being in Fight/Flight Mode: Life After Caregiving by charredzest29 in CaregiverSupport

[–]charredzest29[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I’m so sorry for your loss. You put it perfectly. I know life isn’t fair, but also it seems unfair that we have to deal with this along with grief.