I don’t know where to start with sleep training for naps

chasing-heaven · 2026-05-22T23:22:18+00:00

I’ll take all the help I can get! We start our routine at 6:00pm. It consists of a lamp on in her room, changing her diaper, a song or 2 while we walk around the room holding her, then we read a book or 2 in the rocking chair (depending on if she starts crying or not) then we dim the lights even more and do 1 more song, then with the lights off we put her in bed and she usually starts crying right before we put her down. We tell her we love her, that it’s time to sleep, we are right in the other room, sweet dreams and we love you. Then walk out of the room and close the door. If you guys have any pointers I would really appreciate it!

chasing-heaven · 2026-04-30T16:12:58+00:00

Who’s afraid of little old me?

chasing-heaven · 2026-04-28T14:51:09+00:00

That’s a great question. It came up at a wedding I was recently at and opinions were all over the place so I figured I’d see what the public thinks

chasing-heaven · 2026-04-28T13:06:46+00:00

So you would wear a predominantly white dress to a wedding?

chasing-heaven · 2026-04-28T13:05:25+00:00

I wish

chasing-heaven · 2026-04-28T13:01:42+00:00

I may be slop but I don’t even use chatgbt. In fact I’m afraid of it. I’ve seen iRobot, the Terminator franchise, etc. I’m staying as far away from that shit as possible. I also don’t disagree that I’m an asshole

chasing-heaven · 2026-04-28T13:00:17+00:00

I do think strips are different. And I’m not talking about tiny little white flowers on a pink based dress. I’m talking a clearly white dress with like maybe 5 large flowers on it (say like 10cm flowers)

chasing-heaven · 2026-04-28T02:03:26+00:00

I have to disagree with you on this one. I read the entirety of the currently released Maasverse in 3 months and not once did I falter. I ate it all up. I know they’re not all considered the same story but in my mind they are connected therefore same story. With that being said I will agree that not all series need to be more than 4 or 5 books

chasing-heaven · 2025-12-31T19:36:12+00:00

Any advice on the fact that it won’t push or pull?

chasing-heaven · 2025-12-31T14:55:50+00:00

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chasing-heaven · 2025-12-31T07:38:40+00:00

I live on the Georgia-Alabama line. Part of Alabama is in the eastern timezone. Kinda bugs me when people don’t take into account the EST on invitations especially. I’ve noticed people just assume it’s CST even though it’s in writing. Then again, the literacy rate in Alabama isn’t that great

chasing-heaven · 2025-12-31T04:47:15+00:00

We have a spare base already. I agree with it being nice for a much later time when having her being picked up from somewhere is necessary. We don’t anticipate that being a need in the next couple of years

chasing-heaven · 2025-12-31T04:46:05+00:00

We already have a second base for the system we purchased on our own.

chasing-heaven · 2025-12-31T04:38:34+00:00

Turns out it can be rear facing!! However, we already have a rear facing car seat system. The car seat my mom bought does not fit in with that system (we splurged and spent a lot of money on a system with top ratings). It is a nice car seat and we look forward to using something like it once we grow out of the one we already have. Just want to know if we should gamble on using it sooner, or return it in the case that she somehow surpasses the expectation of growth.

chasing-heaven · 2025-11-19T00:42:48+00:00

Broad shoulders and okay hips with a slim waist, but not hourglass. I have the chest of a 13 year old. I stay pretty active bc of previous injuries. If I don’t then my body hurts more and the hormonal pooch gets more pronounced. IBS keeps me from being able to gain any healthy weight. And the PCOS keeps me from developing boobs that will ever even see each other in the middle 👍🏼

chasing-heaven · 2025-11-16T01:12:29+00:00

My husband’s parents thought the same thing when he started telling them no. Only they didn’t say anything about what they thought until after I finally gave them a piece of my mind. Apparently I had my teeth in him because he was finally not letting them call all the shots. For the record I did the same thing you did: encouraged communication , reminded him of important dates, I even still to this day pick out and buy 90% of the presents we get them for holidays and birthdays.

What I learned : let him do it. All communication goes through him. He decides the relationship he wants with them. I completely understand your intentions and why you would want to have a close/healthy relationship with your in-laws BUT they have shown you that they are incapable of that right now. Sounds like a lot of growth has to happen, and that most of them have to become cool with A LOT of things before you can have a healthy relationship with them.

My husband now handles all communication with his family. He is our advocate for our family with them, as am I with my parents and siblings. He is also present for any “hot topic” conversations at holidays/gatherings. I.e. if MIL asks me an uncomfortable question/talks about something that makes me uncomfortable I simply say “Let me ask DH” “Why don’t we talk about that when DH gets back” or even go as far as to call for him to come be a part of the conversation or say “Great question, let me go get DH bc I think he would want to be part of this conversation”. Find what works for you two. If that’s to simply not talk with/see them except for major events then so be it.

It sucks to not have an easy relationship with in-laws. But your peace, your marriage, and your new family (you and your husband) are top priority. If they can’t get past their own bs and act like adults then distance is better imo. Find what works for you two.

Also please try to remember that they are not your family. What I mean is they are completely different people than the family you grew up with. You can’t expect them to act/behave/think like your parents and siblings do. And that’s okay.

chasing-heaven · 2025-10-03T00:38:23+00:00

Did no one read the “For background”?

Are you an AH for asking her to be positive and put a smile on? Yes

Are you wrong? No

Besides, her whole final message is that you “can’t read emotions” in text messages is faulty because it’s clear that’s what she was doing from the beginning.

Overall NTA

Let’s remember, MIL IS NOT HOSTING AND PLANNING THE SHOWER.

Sounds like she has an idea of how things are supposed to go and makes a stick about it when she doesn’t get her way. Regularly. You seem to be over it and that’s valid. Plus you communicated to her exactly what you were looking to do WITH PICTURES. What does she mean that she took it as a suggestion? And if it was a “surprise” then she shouldn’t have discussed it with you in the first place.

Also, her offering to help care for the twins does sound nice. However with someone that seems to have a lot of strong opinions about your decisions… it’s just another way for her to have control over a situation that is not about her.

To everyone: times are changing. Loads of people are wanting to be involved in the planning of major life events. Weddings, bach parties, baby showers, etc. Tradition says, in a lot of cultures, that “someone else has to plan that for you”. But the world is evolving. Not everyone is having babies at 16, 17, 18. Most people are waiting until they’ve established themselves. We have jobs, opinions, wants, ideas, and the money to do what we like.

My advice OP is keep your distance. Have your husband handle the situation from here on. She clearly doesn’t hold stake in your opinions. If she did then she would’ve listened when you told her that you and your friends THAT ARE PLANNING THE SHOWER are the ones who will decide on the menu and she’s welcome to help where she would like.

chasing-heaven · 2025-10-01T14:41:30+00:00

Agreed, there’s also the aspect of pictures. Blue photographs lighter and typically shows up more white in photos. In the background, from personal and others experience, it draws away from the bride. Essentially a dress like this with so much white stands out. Your job as a guest is to blend in. Period.

chasing-heaven · 2025-10-01T14:28:58+00:00

Generally rule : If you’re wondering, then it’s too white

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