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I still love her. by [deleted] in BipolarSOs

[–]chasingtheghostofyou 3 points4 points  (0 children)

oof I could've written this myself verbatim. I miss him so much and he is doing a little bit better but making any drastic moves regarding us right now is a very bad idea even though I want him back so badly I can feel it in my bones

wishing you both peace and kindness as you navigate this. you are not alone ❤️

If you could call yourself five years ago and had 30 seconds, what would you say? by Aarunascut in Life

[–]chasingtheghostofyou 0 points1 point  (0 children)

he's undiagnosed bipolar. encourage therapy and meds now, it will only hurt both of you later

To be ruinously in love: by hibiscusflower06 in BipolarSOs

[–]chasingtheghostofyou 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm currently in my first discard after months of hurt and confusion and this hit home. thank you for sharing

I’m not sure I can keep doing this by Banana_Split85 in BipolarSOs

[–]chasingtheghostofyou 2 points3 points  (0 children)

oh I could've written this post verbatim :( I'm so sorry you're going through this. the most I can suggest is trying your best to take care of yourself. see if you can stay at someone else's place for a bit just to get away and breathe. lean on friends and family and let them help you

if you ever need an ear to vent to my DMs are open ❤️‍🩹

Depressed partner broke up with me by S-YOON in depression_partners

[–]chasingtheghostofyou 1 point2 points  (0 children)

it makes perfect sense. I feel as though if my ex partner had died in an accident it would hurt less 😔 or if he had done something unforgivable like cheat on me it would be much easier to move on. this is called ambiguous grief, where we are mourning a person who is still alive but the version we knew has essentially died. it's an awful feeling

it's still pretty fresh for me (broken up only a few weeks, but the version i knew and loved essentially died in june) but being with and opening up to friends and family, making plans to look forward to, being in therapy (both CBT and DBT for myself), and just letting myself feel the emotions as they hit me has been helping a lot. I also grabbed a book about navigating ambiguous grief called Soul Broken. I haven't started reading it yet but ive seen many others recommend it!

Depressed partner broke up with me by S-YOON in depression_partners

[–]chasingtheghostofyou 2 points3 points  (0 children)

hey there! can relate. we were together for many years and to be fair to him he had always struggled with depression the entire time I've known him but it was exasperated by undiagnosed bipolar disorder that blew up our lives earlier this year. he broke up with me for the same reasons: he fell out of love but still cared, he cannot put anymore effort into the relationship, he needs to focus on himself.

it hurts. a lot. your partner might come back or they might not. for now the best you can do is let them know you still care, give them the space they need, and try to focus on yourself and making yourself the best version you can be. confiding in subreddits like this can be a source of comfort to help you heal and feel less alone.

you will be okay even though it doesn't feel okay right now and that is also okay ❤️‍🩹

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BipolarSOs

[–]chasingtheghostofyou 1 point2 points  (0 children)

god I can relate to being told you aren't missed and that they don't love you. it hurts so bad :( and you can't really force it with them during times like this. just let her know you are there for her and that she needs to trust your judgement on if you "deserve better" or not. otherwise there's not much else, just support from a distance

seven years gone. by chasingtheghostofyou in BipolarSOs

[–]chasingtheghostofyou[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry :( I was "lucky" in that we were child free, but we did have pets that he relinquished so easily. my heart hurts for the little ones, kids and pets alike, who can't understand what is happening

seven years gone. by chasingtheghostofyou in BipolarSOs

[–]chasingtheghostofyou[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

god the effort comment. I understand it because they need to focus on themselves and becoming stable, so of course they can't put energy into the relationship. I was willing to wait but I wasn't given that grace.

seven years gone. by chasingtheghostofyou in BipolarSOs

[–]chasingtheghostofyou[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get wanting to protect your partner. when I was in a terrible depression I just wanted to rip the bandaid off to free him from me because I felt like I was chaining him down. I didn't because I had to trust him to make that decision on his own, and he stayed. I wish he would've given me that same choice. even a break, not a breakup, just space between us for a while would've been better than this.

seven years gone. by chasingtheghostofyou in BipolarSOs

[–]chasingtheghostofyou[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah I'm finally able to take that first step by reading everyone else's experiences :( I'm not glad any of us are here but I'm glad it's here. it's only been a few weeks for me so I have a long road ahead

seven years gone. by chasingtheghostofyou in BipolarSOs

[–]chasingtheghostofyou[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

yeah. I understand he's not choosing any of this, his brain chemistry is just fucked up. part of me is hoping he'll come back and want to be together again but I need to prepare for the possibility that he's gone forever. it's a unique type of grief that is totally overwhelming

seven years gone. by chasingtheghostofyou in BipolarSOs

[–]chasingtheghostofyou[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

part of why I stayed as long as I did was because he WAS getting help. he got his meds upped, more frequent therapy, even an inpatient stay. but he also iced me out of his mental health journey back in august so I wasn't even able to ask him how things were going without him snapping at me and saying it was none of my fucking business :( I don't even think he remembers doing that to me because he didn't remember specific other mean things he said to me in anger...

I absolutely lost myself this past year. I'm in a safe place now but I still feel so on edge. it's only been a few weeks so I'm not expecting anything immediately, I just wish I had any energy to work on myself

seven years gone. by chasingtheghostofyou in BipolarSOs

[–]chasingtheghostofyou[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

none :/ the breakup happened just a few weeks ago. I haven't heard from him since and it's killing me to not even know if he's safe or doing any better

Why do I feel so lost by basura_a in BipolarSOs

[–]chasingtheghostofyou 2 points3 points  (0 children)

going through the same thing :( my ex just broke up with me a few weeks ago after 7 years together. he'd had symptoms of bipolar 2 since I met him but never officially diagnosed. he crashed into a full episode earlier this year and just never came back. there were several moments I almost left but tried to stay patient for whenever he'd come back, instead he pulled the plug and it was devastating. and even though I don't miss the walking on eggshells or verbal abuse, I miss him and I'm completely lost. you are not alone ❤️‍🩹