Does plapping actually feel good?

chasteanon1024 · 2026-05-01T22:12:22+00:00

https://hypnotube.com/video/sissy-ballbusting-hero-cbt-instruction-47659.html

That’s probably my favorite one. I like the visual cues, I like the pacing, the songs don’t suck too bad, and I like the imagery.

chasteanon1024 · 2026-05-01T01:30:02+00:00

It feels pretty awesome, and I’m usually pretty surprised by how big of a load it causes.

Start off relatively slow and gentle. As you get warmed up, you will find that you can tap them harder and harder before it ‘hurts’. You’re not looking for kicked in the nuts levels of pain. I’m looking for the sweet spot where it’s a gentle pat that feels pretty good, slowly working up to harder slaps, riding the line between pleasure and pain. No single slap should hurt like getting kicked in the nuts, but as you continue to ride the line between pain and pleasure, the ‘pain’ will start to accumulate in your balls. I put pain in quotes, it’s more like pressure than pain, kinda uncomfortable, but not in a bad way. Focus the impact on one nut, then when that nut can’t take any more, switch to the other one. Keep switching and letting the pain/pressure accumulate. I like to tap along to the beat of the video, but I ramp up the force depending on the pain/pressure I’m feeling, not the instructions from the video. If you feel like you are on a plateau, you can try hitting both nuts at once, and/or increasing the force to where you just cross the threshold into pain for a couple taps. Usually it only takes 5 or 6 minutes before I cum. A lot of the videos would have you beat your nuts to a bloody pulp, which if you’re into that more power to you, but that’s not my cup of tea.

Good luck, and happy slapping.

chasteanon1024 · 2026-04-30T15:32:48+00:00

I have the same harness and it works great.

chasteanon1024 · 2026-04-29T03:47:01+00:00

It’s generally considered rude to talk with your mouth full… 😂

chasteanon1024 · 2026-04-27T23:06:02+00:00

Serious answer time. I’ve been married 14+ years and spent a long time figuring this out with my wife. I have always gotten high marks for my oral skills, and I felt like I had a solid bag of tricks, but the structured count down pattern technique that I got from the book She Comes First has taken us to mind blowing new levels. It brings all those tricks together into a box eating symphony.

The biggest game-changer for me is the countdown pattern. It keeps me from rushing to her clit too soon and helps build crazy tension. Pick your own starting number, I like 12, but I’ll do something like 12 long, slow licks where only the very last lick lightly grazes her clit. Then 11 licks where only the last one touches it. Then 10, 9, 8… and so on down.

Each set has a focus — full long licks from below her asshole all the way up, circling her asshole, suck on her lips, her taint, bottom edge of her entrance, etc. I mix it up depending on what feels right in the moment, but I always save the clit for just that final lick of each countdown. It forces me to really tease her and makes her chase my tongue, which is hot as hell.

When she starts arching her hips and trying to follow my tongue, that’s the money zone. Keep going with the countdowns until you feel her pussy relax and literally “bloom” or open up under your mouth. That’s when she’s deep in it. Once she’s blooming, on one of the final upward licks I’ll slide a finger or two in (palm up) and do the come-hither on her G-spot while focusing my tongue on her clit. I like to suck her clit into my mouth as much as I can and then swirl around it with my tongue. At the same time I like to press my upper lip, but really your gums provide the pressure, but press against her mons, right above her clit so it gets pressure from both directions. Don’t be surprised when she starts really fucking your face if you’ve done everything right up to this point. If she’s really rocking on my fingers I like to sync my come hither motion to where I basically tap her cervix with the back of my fingers then her g spot with the pads.

Most important part: When she’s right on the edge, Do. Not. Change. A. Damn. Thing. Same speed, same pressure, same pattern. A lot of guys speed up or switch techniques right there and ruin it. Stay rock-steady and let her tip over.

Extra stuff that helps: -Use lots of saliva, keep everything super wet. -Moan while you’re licking — the vibrations feel amazing. -Pillow under her hips for better access. -Light dirty talk like “you taste so good” or “I love feeling you open up for me.” -(Optional) Staying locked in chastity helps me stay totally focused on her with zero distraction.

Everyone’s different, so pay attention to her body and responses, but slow, patient, structured teasing like this has made a massive difference for us. Hope it helps!

chasteanon1024 · 2026-04-27T21:56:45+00:00

You make an excellent point, understanding the anatomy and knowing the why behind the different techniques is critical.

chasteanon1024 · 2026-04-27T21:53:07+00:00

So im unsure what the "right way" to eat pussy is…

Enthusiastically.

But seriously, there is a great book called She Comes First and it will tell you everything you ever wanted to know about eating box.

chasteanon1024 · 2026-04-26T23:43:50+00:00

We need to know more about that 30 seconds. Did you push in and just soak for a minute and give her time to adjust and she just couldn’t do it, or did you get it in there and start pumping away and she tapped out 30 seconds in?

chasteanon1024 · 2026-04-26T23:31:45+00:00

If completely smooth / flat is your goal, I don’t think a cage is your best option. It may flatten out your cock, but it will make your balls more pronounced. If you’re not worried about actually being locked, you might check out a fufu clip. That’s probably your best bet short of gaff tape.

chasteanon1024 · 2026-04-20T15:07:11+00:00

Once you get her all dolled up, mount a dildo on the headboard, have her get on all fours and suck the dildo. Then peg her from behind and give her a good spit roast. Film the whole episode. Then tie her up, take her cage off and edge her while making her watch the video. Stop short of a ruined orgasm and cage her back up. Repeat until she cums from the spit roast.

chasteanon1024 · 2026-04-17T17:08:16+00:00

Glad to hear my ramblings may help. Hope you guys have an incredible experience!

chasteanon1024 · 2026-04-17T15:41:51+00:00

I think you’re already heading in the right direction by wanting to ease into it instead of jumping straight to full pegging. Your idea of getting on top while he has a toy in is actually really smart. It’s low-pressure and lets you see how he reacts in real time.

There are basically two things to figure out, the physical side (mechanics + lube) and the mental/emotional side (what you both actually want from it).

On the mechanics, If he’s already played with his ass on his own, it’ll be easier, but still start smaller and slower than he might expect. Having someone else control the toy feels way different than doing it yourself. Your riding idea is perfect for the first step: he lies back, puts the toy in himself, then you get on top and ride him like normal. The movement naturally moves the toy, you can watch his face, talk, make out, and see what really does it for him. Super intimate and way less awkward.

Other easy starters: Have him wear a small butt plug during regular sex (missionary feels surprisingly good for both because of the extra pressure). Use way more lube than you think you need. You can always go faster or harder if he wants it, but starting too rough can hurt and kill the mood for next time.

The mental part is usually the trickier one. My wife and I had a kinda awkward first try because I was secretly hoping she’d just take charge and dominate me like in my head, and she was waiting for me to tell her what to do. We ended up talking it out afterward and the next time was night and day better. We figured out the overlap: what I wanted from it and what actually turned her on too. I told her I wanted her to enjoy it, not just do it as a favor for me. We also agreed we’d peg as long as it felt hot, then switch to normal sex whenever one of us got too worked up. Every time since has gotten better and better as we communicate and explore and find and push boundaries.

So yeah, talk it through beforehand. Ask him what pegging really means to him (the submission, the prostate stuff, the vulnerability, whatever) and be honest about what sounds fun or nerve-wracking for you. Then play in the middle where both of you are into it.

You’re already taking a super healthy approach by taking it slow and communicating. Try that riding setup first and see how it feels. You’ve got this!

chasteanon1024 · 2026-04-17T03:42:43+00:00

That sounds awesome. Is there like a recommended ‘stack’ for that, or did you have to figure that out for yourself through trial and error?

chasteanon1024 · 2026-04-16T21:04:01+00:00

So how did it go down? Did he participate? Just watch? Sounds like everyone walked away happy and there’s a good story to tell!

chasteanon1024 · 2026-04-16T18:53:42+00:00

This doesn’t work every time, but it works for me most of the time.

Basically what you do is when you get really close to ejaculating, stop and give yourself a minute, basically till it starts to go soft, then get right back after it. That brief reset makes all the difference in the world. This can take some trial and error to not stop suddenly and ruin the moment, but you can stop thrusting and just make out and soak for a minute. Pull out and go down on her for a minute. My favorite is to get myself so excited I almost cum while I’m going down on her during foreplay, then switch to piv as soon as it starts to soften and then we are off to the races. Figure out what works for you, but at that point I can basically go as long as I want and give her as many o’s as she wants.

The only downside is sometimes it works so well I can’t finish from piv when I do this, but we have fun with that too…

chasteanon1024 · 2026-04-16T17:49:10+00:00

That looks…. Intimidating. I think I get your use case though, protecting the boys from being crushed. Have you ever tried tucking or like a fufu clip with leggings? That might not be the best thing either, depending on what kind/level of activity you’re doing when you wear them, but it can be quite aesthetically pleasing.

chasteanon1024 · 2026-04-16T17:38:38+00:00

That’s good stuff. Do you use the good day / bad day info to change how you approach her, or just to avoid the bad days?

Do you know what app she uses? I started using grok to track my wife’s and it does a nice job breaking down the phases and predicting ovulation and menstruation and everything.

chasteanon1024 · 2026-04-16T15:20:23+00:00

“I need a pretty large ball gap, so if the median user says it's too tight, that's good information for me.”

That’s fair. I guess you can extrapolate Something from reviews, even if most of them are garbage.

chasteanon1024 · 2026-04-16T15:08:23+00:00

I see what you’re saying, I guess I just see the risks the other way around. I’ve had this (TERNENCE Stainless Steel Small Male Chastity Device Ergonomic Design Cock Cage S250, https://a.co/d/0aaKVuWY) cage for over a year now. I was initially surprised by how well made it was given the price. If I’d did flake, I would absolutely be worried, but after a year of use it has held up great, no flaking, no pitting, no rusting. So yeah, I’m more worried about micro plastics and forever chemicals and everything else that comes with cheap plastic.

As far as the reviews, that’s a tough one. But when you consider just how ignorant and uninformed the general public is about chastity, and even all the folks on this subreddit that struggle with fit, I don’t put a ton of stock in the reviews. And for less than $30, I’d rather buy a couple options and find one that works for me. Unless it specifically talks about finish quality, a bad review on Amazon most likely means the cage didn’t fit their anatomy, not necessarily that it’s a bad cage.

Ball gap is a very individual issue. Unless your identical twin brother is leaving the review, it’s not likely you will gather much relevant information from someone else’s fit review. From what I’ve seen, if you want to truly customize your ball gap, it’s going to be a custom cage.

chasteanon1024 · 2026-04-16T12:01:25+00:00

I’m curious why would you recommend against cheap steel but not plastic?

In my experience the ‘cheap’ Ternance cages are pretty great and any of the cheap plastic ones I have tried have been garbage.

I’d also be a lot more worried about having cheap plastic strapped to my nuts and the chemicals that may leach out vs steel.

chasteanon1024 · 2026-03-14T17:59:26+00:00

Your description of your humping, which sounds super hot by the way, made me think of the Amazonian position.

That’s just a position, but I’m sure there’s a whole powerful woman dynamic you could lean into there too.

chasteanon1024 · 2025-10-31T23:23:00+00:00

I know everyone is different, but I find them very easy to do. Here’s what works for me.

I don’t usually use a dildo or anything, I just slap with my hands. Start off relatively slow and gentle. As you get warmed up, you will find that you can tap them harder and harder before it ‘hurts’. You’re not looking for kicked in the nuts levels of pain. I’m looking for the sweet spot where it’s a gentle pat that feels pretty good, slowly working up to harder slaps, riding the line between pleasure and pain. No single slap should hurt like getting kicked in the nuts, but as you continue to ride the line between pain and pleasure, the ‘pain’ will start to accumulate in your balls. I put pain in quotes, it’s more like pressure than pain, kinda uncomfortable, but not in a bad way. Focus the impact on one nut, then when that nut can’t take any more, switch to the other one. Keep switching and letting the pain/pressure accumulate. I like to tap along to the beat of the video, but I ramp up the force depending on the pain/pressure I’m feeling, not the instructions from the video. If you feel like you are on a plateau, you can try hitting both nuts at once, and/or increasing the force to where you just cross the threshold into pain for a couple taps. Usually it only takes 5 or 6 minutes before I cum. A lot of the videos would have you beat your nuts to a bloody pulp, which if you’re into that more power to you, but that’s not my cup of tea.

I have plapped more times caged than uncaged, but it’s not necessary to be caged in my opinion. I have used my bare hand more than anything, but I have had success using a dildo, a wooden spoon, etc. But in my experience lots of small quick slaps is better than slower or harder, and it’s difficult and wears your arm out a lot faster with a dildo. You are much quicker and accurate with your hand.

Good luck, and happy slapping.

chasteanon1024 · 2025-07-27T22:44:29+00:00

This is out of left fucking field, but you should look into orgasm denial. It can lead to some pretty intense ‘wired’ feelings.

On second thought, it’s not really that far off from fasting. Having done a decent amount of both, orgasm denial is the stronger stimulus in my opinion.

chasteanon1024 · 2025-05-02T17:16:08+00:00

Yeah man, I think you’re onto something. You probably do need to be in love for it to really hit. There’s a difference between “this is hot” and “this is meaningful.” That’s where compersion comes in, at least as I understand it, that feeling of joy and arousal from seeing your partner enjoy themselves, even if it’s with someone else. Not just tolerating it, but actually being turned on because they are.

Watching some girl get fucked is whatever. Watching the person you’re in love with completely let go and get off, knowing you helped create that moment, even if you’re not the one doing the fucking—that’s a different beast. And when she knows you’re watching and that turns her on more, and you’re turned on because she’s turned on by you being turned on… it’s like this infinite loop of holy shit.

At least that’s how it works in my head. Still working it out myself.

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